Sometimes, You Need to Look to The Stars!

Real Estate Agent with GreatWest Realty DRE# 00827565

A few mornings ago, I had a pleasant surprise when the phone rang and I learned it wasn’t another telemarketer! It was none other than fellow blogger, Margaret Rome! Margaret had called to help get me up to speed on the newest gee-wizzery of social media taking us by storm, since the pandemic has secluded many inside.

Zoom video conferencing has become the rage everywhere. It’s allowing folks to gather together on-line and collaborate, socialize and share ideas. I foresee a great future for this application. However, I normally use my desktop computer to communicate, because the screen is larger than my smart phone. And, keyboarding is much simpler! My desktop doesn’t have a camera. I’m likely to be purchasing one.

Putting all  that aside, Margaret and I, lamented about how competitive we can be about the simplest of things. I suspect it’s in human DNA, that we are motivated and goal oriented, in order to assure the survival of the species. But, really folks, it can border on the hilarious at times! How many of us care about those “Likes” we get on Facebook? And, what about points on the ActiveRain blogging platform! I suspect most of us do, to some degree or another.

While we can’t take those points or likes to the bank, reward systems (no matter how insignificant) can generate enough motivation to accomplish great things. For example, I wish to congratulate my grandson. Baron came to visit me for a few weeks in January. He had been trying to quit smoking for a while.

I reasoned if adult human beings could be motivated by simple points and likes, perhaps I could build him a little “Star Chart,” to help him quit. So, after procuring a little box of colored stars, I awarded him each morning, for a day passed that he hadn't lit up. He made it through his three week visit with me. It’s been several months now, and Baron continues to be tobacco free!
Those little stars not only motivate kindergartners!

Thanks for allowing me to ramble on with my thoughts today. . .I hope you are all remaining safe and sane!


Comments (30)

Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Kathy Streib - I've watched some zoom conference sessions on television.  I notice the time lapses.  I also note that some try to get a word in edge wise, and it can be a little chaotic trying to determine who should speak.  A good moderator could alleviate some of that though.  

Lottie Kendall - The Social Media gods figured out humans will work hard for cheap treats - "like" buttons, etc.

Jun 07, 2020 07:50 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

What a great way to show accountability at any age. 🤓

Happy Sunday Myrl Jeffcoat 

Jun 07, 2020 10:14 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Myrl... what a great idea and I'm so delighted it worked for your grandson. As for zooming... I admit... I'm totally zoomed out. Like Ron and Alexandra Seigel I see nothing wrong with a plain old phone call! I just refuse to zoom or team or whatever except when it's business related.

Jun 08, 2020 05:29 AM
Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 is such a wonderful woman, I am so glad that she took the time to help you!  Congrats to your grandson as well, not smoking will definitely lead to a healthier lifestyle for him!

Jun 08, 2020 07:07 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Brian England It was fun talking with Myrl and hearing her story about the gold stars. 

Jun 08, 2020 07:51 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Myrl Jeffcoat - You must have had a lovely conversation with Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400. I find both of you to be very caring, intellectual, and giving. We are lucky to have both of you here on ActiveRain.

Myrl, as Baron's grandmother, I want to applaud you for encouraging him to quit smoking and giving him the courage to stop the habit with a simple chart and star system to keep track of his progress.  You have no idea how happy I was to read all about it, because I know how important it is for his good health, physically, emotionally, financially, and mentally. My daughter started ragging on her dad when she was 9 years old to quit smoking. Unfortunately, he did not and didn't live to experience all her major milestones, graduations, father/daughter dance, playing her saxophone as a soloist, and worst of all, not being there to walk her down the aisle for her wedding. Smoking kills the spirt of loved ones more than the smoker knows.

Baron is a bright and beautiful young man. I love that he listens to you. He holds a promise to succeed and I do believe your positive influence is one of the major reasons for his willingness to make positive change, just because intellectually, he understand the consequences and wants to please you! And most important of all, he has self-respect.  To be loved and listened to are great gifts and accomplishments.  

Jun 08, 2020 08:18 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

What a great way to motivate your grandson. I remember doing that in school years ago.

Jun 08, 2020 08:37 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Myrl - what a nice post.  And with so many good topics discussed.  Stars and Points and Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400!  Oh my!  Zoom plus learning of all kinds.  Stopping and starting.  Of course, connections too.    Here's to more successes.  

Jun 08, 2020 01:14 PM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

That's great.  Whatever it takes to motivate someone to quit smoking is a good thing.  Congrats to Baron!

Jun 08, 2020 08:13 PM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

I love your Star Chart motivational program.

Take care, be safe and have an outstanding day.

Jun 09, 2020 08:20 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude


What a fun conversation you must have had with Margaret!

Congratulations to Baron. What a great motivator. Having been a smoker MANY years ago I know it's tough to quit  (I stopped cold turkey), but tell him it gets easier and easier, and you feel better and better, not to mention healtier!


Jun 11, 2020 08:33 PM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

What a great idea you had to motivate your grandson. Not just kindergarten students respond to stats. I love it 

Jun 13, 2020 04:00 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Myrl Jeffcoat -  goals help motivate us.  Even things like points and stars give a sense of achievement.

Jun 13, 2020 05:19 AM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

I loved getting stars as a kid. They were extremely motivating. How wonderful that they helped Baron kick a dangerous habit. You are a smart cookie, Myrl.  Congratulations to you - and Baron. 

Jun 14, 2020 07:14 AM
Steffy Hristova
HomeSmart Elite Group Tempe AZ Tel: 480-966-9353 - Tempe, AZ
Tempe AZ Realtor - Your Home Close to Your Work!

Myrl Jeffcoat , what a delightful use of star stamps, and points! I love to check my points from time to time, more as an accountability tracker. I am going to tag Carol Williams , so that she can read it and maybe include this post in her weekly summary. 'Likes', 'stars', 'thunbs up' - we have proven that no matter how old or young, we all love to play. 

Jun 14, 2020 12:57 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Myrl, congratulations to Baron for quitting smoking, and hope he remains on that path, it will lead to better health! 

Jun 16, 2020 08:43 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Saturday morning, Myrl.

Take care, be safe and have a very special weekend.

Jun 20, 2020 09:21 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Myrl Jeffcoat - Just checking in with you to wish you and your loved ones well.

Always and forever, I wish you the best.

Jun 20, 2020 06:01 PM
Gloria Todor
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services - Newtown Square, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

So good that your grandson quit smoking, no small feat.  Those stars really did the trick!!

Yes phone calls are wonderful. 

Have a great summer Myrl! 

Jun 24, 2020 01:01 PM
Ellie Penaranda
239.776.5077 Downing-Frye Realty - Naples, FL
Naples Florida Real Estate - Waterfront & Beach Co

Great idea and glad it worked.  Take care

Jun 26, 2020 03:28 PM