Unbreathable Daze | October Challenge

Real Estate Broker/Owner with KD Realty - 408.972.1822 CA DRE#01366594

The October Challenge is about sharing stories on what changes we have made in our personal and/or business life from July 1st, 2020 to the present.  We are asked to share what worked and what has not worked as we had expected. 


Story #1 - Unbreathable Daze 

July 1, 2020, and the COVID-19 pandemic continues to take lives and impact the lives of so many people. From the business sector, too many small business owners were forced to close their doors, and many are leaving the State of California.

These past three (3) months challenged me to dig deeper with patience in many ways.

• with myself and others
• with wearing a mask
• with distancing from others
• with not being able to hug people
• with the divide regarding COVID-19


For the most part, I keep silent. I support people who are shinning their light on the darkness. I pass on the negative despite the urge to say something.


And if COVID-19 and the protocols in my personal life and business life were not enough … enter the California wildfires. I cannot allow myself to think about the devastation for too long because it creates deep sadness within me. Sadness is a real emotion that I appreciate feeling – it is not a matter of if I feel sadness but how long I linger there.


Poor air quality combined with triple-digit heat made for many for many unbreathable daze. The heat, the smoke, poor air quality, combined with wearing a mask has had me feeling less than 100%.


We have to work. My clients need me. We do what we have to do to protect ourselves against whatever we face.


2020 seems to be an endless rain of challenges. We rise above. We unite in kindness to help those who need help. While this is not a change for me it is something I find myself doing a lot more of because there are endless opportunities to help people.


This works for me. There are times when helping others does not work out as expected but that is not where I choose to focus or shine my light.


October Challenge - To Think is To Create Hosted by Anna Krutchen and Carol Williams a sequel to the June Challenge Rising about the Pandemic.


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Comments (28)

Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I had a conversation with my sister earlier today.  She is struggling to keep patience with all of the restrictions in place.  Yet, she understands like me.  It's for the greater good! 

2020 has been a really challenging year.  Each day seems to bring another outrageous chapter to the collection of days on the calendar!

Oct 04, 2020 12:39 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

It absolutely is for the greater good. Myrl Jeffcoat - I wonder how many people would not wear a mask if it were not required to enter stores, and other places. 

Oct 04, 2020 02:17 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker

We'ere in this together and with masks, kindness and a glass of wine we'll get through it all as tough as it truly has been for just about everyone I know.

Oct 04, 2020 02:27 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathleen patience is becoming a shorter and shorter drive for me these days, so thinking before I speak has become more of a need then ever before.

Oct 04, 2020 02:50 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

I can relate.  Many times I've had to step away from my laptop - some of the 💩 just gets to be too much ... in a pressure cooker too long and we all know what happens.  Boom! Explosion.

Oct 04, 2020 03:52 PM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-801-5525

Kathleen, NorCal has taken a shocking hit.  Your post shows how all things even the greatest challenges can make us bitter or better.  It the Rain it's very inspiring hearing your story and many others rising above the circumstances.

Oct 04, 2020 03:44 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Indeed NorCal continues to take a hit with the fires.  That alone is sad and depressing ... something I cannot watch Kris Collis, Associate Broker 

Feeling negative emotions are normal and natural ... I just don't want to stay there very long. 

Oct 04, 2020 03:55 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist ,

What a wonderful heartfelt entry into the October challenge. 2020 has been a challenging year and its not over yet. Patience and staying positive is the only way to keep meeting head on the adversities that keep come rolling in!

Oct 04, 2020 03:49 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Hello Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR - Thank you for stopping by.  2020 is the year that just keeps on giving ... patience is in order. I focus my thoughts on the outcome I want to see - not what is happening at any given moment. 

Oct 04, 2020 03:57 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Good morning.

This has indeed been a very challenging year. Embracing the positive is a "must" in order to stay focused on moving forward. And helping others can help us as well.



Oct 05, 2020 04:55 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Absolutely agree Kat Palmiotti - when we help others can help us as well. 

Oct 05, 2020 08:04 AM
Joe Jackson
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Columbus, OH
Clintonville and Central Ohio Real Estate Expert

Great post! Thanks for sharing! 

Oct 05, 2020 05:18 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Hello Joe Jackson - thank you for commenting and re-blogging. 

Oct 05, 2020 08:13 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist, my heart goes out to those who live near the fires and affected by the poor air quality on top of everything else we had to face this year. You said something we should all embrace "we unite in kindness". Regardless of our opinion, as a nation, we must unite. 

Oct 05, 2020 07:14 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Uniting individually and collectively will cause big effects.  The divide and the devastation all around are speaking to us ... who is willing to listen and who cares. Beth Atalay 

Oct 05, 2020 08:06 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Dear Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist - Your Title wasn't just an eye-opener, it was an eye, nose, and mouth choker! No joke! The challenges, the courage, the circumstances that are causing deep sorrow goes behind what many people can endure. The people from CA have been tested, trespassed by raging fires and taunted by political rhetoric. Meanwhile the widespread pandemic illustrates what hell is like on earth.  

Your heartfelt personal story goes straight to the heart and yet you still uncover your heart, your tender heart and all the compassion you have for caring about people. Your clients can be proud of you and know that you would never let them down. You are a woman, a crusader of mercy who fights back with faith, determination and survival skills that you've learned over the years of many challenges. 

We shall overcome!

Oct 05, 2020 07:49 AM
Rob Spinosa
Guaranteed Rate, Marin County, CA - San Anselmo, CA
SVP of Mortgage Lending, Marin County

Great post, great attitude.  We are living through a Darwin moment in modern history and it's testing us to adapt and change in order to survive.  We are also being forced to accept that some things will not return to "normal" any time soon.  Our mindset will determine the outcome more than the sum of the external forces.  Keep the faith, keep moving forward, keep making adjustments and keep setting the example for others to follow.  "We are made to persist.  That is how we find out who we are." ~Tobias Wolff

Oct 05, 2020 08:07 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Life-altering times for certain Rob Spinosa - attitude will cause us to thrive and/or survive.  Love the quote.  Thank you. 

Oct 05, 2020 08:32 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Perfect words Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP ... beyond what many can endure. I cannot watch the riots and fires on TV or on FB feed. Mix in the hate and the divide over many things and the inability to endure is understandable. 

We shall overcome!  

Oct 05, 2020 08:09 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Kathleen,
I know you approach all things with kindness. However, I think we are all so much more aware of an even greater need these days as everyone is being pushed to their limits in so many ways.  Thanks for sharing your story.

Oct 05, 2020 08:25 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

I agree Carol Williams - the need for kindness and unity is stronger these days than ever before in my lifetime. 

Oct 05, 2020 08:33 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell



Come back another day (or not!)

Oct 05, 2020 11:54 PM
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

The smoke from the fires made it all the way to NH. It made for some bright sunsets and drowned out the sun during the day. Those with breathing difficulties suffered here as well. A cold front came down and cleared the air. As for COvid, I have many thoughts, most which i keep to myself and get out there and work as our market is just crazy busy. I need to sit down and write my post for this challenge as well. Putting into words are not always so easy

Oct 06, 2020 05:13 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist - Great post!  It is all about the mindset, as you have shown.  If we have the right mindset, we can do anything.

Oct 06, 2020 06:38 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome


Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist 

Congratulations on a well-deserved feature for this month's challenge. And I love it when you say... I choose to focus or shine my light.

Oct 06, 2020 08:20 AM
Matthew O'Hare
Osterville, MA

I'm not an incredibly religious man however the tales of the Bible can be helpful in trying times. The story of Job is what comes to mind when thinking of these times. God stripped a prosperous man of everything he had in order to test his faith and when nothing shook that faith and Job was at rock bottom, God returned to him his wealth and much much more. If nothing else, the story speaks on resolve and unshakeable faith in a higher purpose. Perhaps there is something we can learn from this tale. Perhaps  2020 is our test.

Oct 06, 2020 08:35 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

2020 is a test in my opinion.  Thank you for your comment, Matthew O'Hare 

Oct 06, 2020 09:03 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

I love that you shine your light and unite in kindness, Kathleen! I totally agree with moving on past the negativity. I think that is what has led to a lot of the depression that many are experiencing - they're lingering too long in the negativity.

I know it's corny but, my motto remains, mind-over-matter! I do my best to push past the negativity so it doesn't stick with me!

Fantastic, thought-provoking entry for this month's challenge. I enjoyed every word of it!

Oct 06, 2020 08:38 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

It is mind over matter!  100%. We choose our thoughts and we choose how we react and/or respond to life Debe Maxwell, CRS 

Oct 06, 2020 09:05 AM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

I too feel sad for those people who have lost their homes to the fires--the small businesses, the service workers, the pollution--changes must be made in the environment and new building. 

Oct 06, 2020 12:17 PM
Erik Hiss
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Worthington, OH
You can trust me for all your real estate needs!

I count my blessings here in Central Ohio when I hear of the fires and other devastating issues around the country on top of Covid. Patience is key.

Oct 07, 2020 05:44 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

How the heck did I miss all of this back in October? Oh well, I'm here now and I wish All the best for next year as well

Apr 02, 2021 02:53 PM