The Seven Real Estate Stages of the Pandemic

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The Seven Real Estate Stages of the Pandemic

  

By now, some of us have lost a loved one, friend or community member to COVID-19.  Though if the cavalier denialism exhibited by some Americans is an indicator, there are still many who have yet to share the magnitude of such a loss.  But even putting one's head in the sand about the medical realities of the coronavirus cannot spare us the social, emotional and economic impacts. 

 

It's accepted as true that though we all grieve a loss, everyone grieves in a unique manner.  One of the most referenced works on the topic was written in 1969 by Swiss-American psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book On Death and Dying. This philosophy is popularly referred to as the "stages of grief," and whether comprised of five emotions or seven, it feels increasingly as though we are traveling through 'stages of the pandemic' in both our professional and personal lives.  Sometimes we mourn the loss of our "past life" in a linear fashion and sometimes we jump along the steps chaotically, but without a doubt we have been presented with an event that has impacted our world and is in the process of shaping our future.  If I think back to February or March, and reflect on today, here are some examples from my journey through the stages: 

 

1) Shock and disbelief

Wait, no broker tours, no showing of property?  Here we go again a la Lehman, 2008 or 9/11 --- investors leaving the market and loan programs being suspended or canceled.  Tremendous rate chaos.  

 

2) Denial

No way they will shut businesses down --- that's crazy.  What do you mean the kids are not going to go to school?  The Junior Warriors basketball season is canceled?

 

3) Guilt

I should have been more forceful with our clients who were on the fence.  How did we get lulled into complacency with credit availability?  Why did we let our guard down and not consider existential risks in our assessments of the market?  

 

4) Anger and bargaining

Why are we, here in CA, subject to shelter-in-place while people in other parts of the country are still conducting business as usual?  What do these "health experts" really know?  Man, I HATE Zoom meetings!

 

5) Depression/loneliness/reflection

My 85-year old dad is 2000 miles away and I'm not sure when he'll see his grandson next.  I'm not going to see the inside of a bustling conference room for many months. Some of the skills, habits and personality traits I've used to build my business are going to be sidelined indefinitely.  Put the professional wardrobe in mothballs...

 

6) Reconstruction and working through

Yes, this is the landscape of our new reality --- it is not temporary.  Embrace, learn and master the tools and tactics necessary to maintain momentum.  Contemplate what it will take to grow in a remote world.  Reinvest marketing dollars accordingly.   Rethink all iterations of "it's just the way we do things."

 

7) Acceptance and hope

The way we did business is over.  What remnants exist are gifts but my mindset must accept that I am in a foreign country now and I need to first learn and then speak their language.  I can still think in my native tongue, but the longer I hold out and do so, the more difficult it will be to assimilate.  The sooner I embrace the good and bad of the new culture, the sooner I will be open to its wonders.

 

Months into the COVID-19 pandemic, I can find myself cycling through several or even all of the above stages on any given day.  My guess is that most others do as well --- unless they are stuck.  Maybe they're stuck in denial.  Maybe they're still pissed off --- at their governor, at their clients, at themselves. Then again, maybe some are well on their way of reconstructing their businesses but  require help they never previously needed; with new technology, with new tools, with new ideas.  My point is that we have all lost a loved one --- our pre-pandemic way of life and business.  It's now up to us to move on, yet before we do we must confront the grieving process.  Recognizing that is part of a healthy healing process too.

 

In loving memory,

 

Rob Spinosa
Vice President of Mortgage Lending

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George Souto
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Rob I shared some of the feelings you have gone through, and even though I did not share all of the emotions you have experienced, I fully understand why you would have.

Oct 13, 2020 08:13 AM #1
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Michael Jacobs
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Hello Rob - what a thoughtful post and your connection to the stages by Kubler-Ross is an effective way of making/reinforcing your point.  

While I notice you haven't included this in the ActiveRain Challenges "group" I do think it's ideal for it.  Do you agree Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS, Broker, Instructor and Carol Williams?

Oct 13, 2020 08:30 AM #2
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Hi Rob,
Great post. Much has changed but, hopefully, we'll be able to reconnect with people in a meaningful way eventually. 

Here is the link to the October Challenge.

Oct 13, 2020 08:59 AM #3
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Now this was very interesting to approach at looking at  the shut down/ pandemic Rob...rather sobering.It's been tough for many, many folks. Over time, things will come around. hopefully for as many as possible. It takes patience and a lot of it.

Oct 13, 2020 04:58 PM #4
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Hi Rob- very interesting perspective on the 7 real estate stages of the pandemic. Let's hope that by now, most have moved on to step 7. 

Oct 13, 2020 06:10 PM #5
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Grant Schneider
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Good morning Rob Spinosa - this is a good adaptation of the stages of grief to the real estate industry.  I have seen it with the people I have been working with.

Oct 17, 2020 04:17 AM #6
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Kat Palmiotti
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This was a great way to lay out the path we've been on this year. And in order to remain successful, we have had to adjust our plans.

Enjoy your day!

Oct 17, 2020 05:08 AM #7
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Hi Rob Spinosa - I can certainly understand that the tighter a state or area is locked down the more people may be going through the Kubler-Ross stages. It makes sense.  In Arizona, real estate has been considered an essential business from day 1. As our state and local MLS made process changes (health and safety), I adapted quickly and moved forward.  I don't believe in draconian measures to keep me caged.  I am an adult who can make smart and safe decisions for my family, friends, and clients, as well as myself.    

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Hi there, Rob. I appreciate your very thoughtful take on this most unusual year. I have gone through many of those stages. And, I'm sure all of us know of at least one person or family who knows this virus first-hand.  Take good care. 

Oct 17, 2020 07:42 AM #9
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Great perspective Rob and humorous way of looking at the changes the industry has gone through.

Oct 17, 2020 09:23 AM #10
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Hi Rob:

This was an interesting read! I think we can all identify with what you have shared, at some level. There are plenty of words one might use to describe 2020!

Jeff

Oct 17, 2020 10:19 AM #11
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Oct 17, 2020 06:23 PM #12
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Jill Sackler
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Wow, this is so good! You really thought it through and display that you are acutely aware of the stages of grief we all experience which somehow makes the process go more quickly.

Oct 18, 2020 08:45 AM #13
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Good evening Rob Spinosa,

I'm glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her "Ah-ha" moments for the week. Excellent post and I really hope we can move on to #7 and embrace the good and bad of the new culture, the sooner I will be open to its wonders.

Oct 18, 2020 04:22 PM #14
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Rob, a brillant analysis of the process.  It reads a bit like the stages of the grieving process.  To your last point, hope always yes.  Acceptance depends, the courts in several states, Michigan, Pennsylvania, are striking down the overreach of governors.  Florida is completely open. I understand many suits against CA gov have been filed at the state level but those states that filed at the federal level are getting the attention.

Oct 18, 2020 09:46 PM #15
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Interesting take on the pandemic, Rob! My favorite line is, of course, a positive one..."The sooner I embrace the good and bad of the new culture, the sooner I will be open to its wonders." <<SO TRUE!

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2020 started out so well for me and would have been a record breaking year !

But having avoided Covid-19 is more important 

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