Social Media is not a panacea for all our problems.

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Pareto Realty TN #251071

It seems the new way of dealing with issues . . . begins with inflammatory posts on Social Media.

I think this cheats the possibility of coping with the grief that comes in response to unexpected circumstances.

For sure, things going your way is eminently important, isn’t it?

In this environment with the capability to publish in real time, the default for many people is to rip off a tirade of epic proportions regarding this egregious affront to all of humanity with the megaphone of twitter, Facebook, Instagram . . .

Before you know it, the world is sure to be coming to a cataclysmic apocalyptical event.

The gestation from the initial violation to the end of the world can be as short as 35 (or so) seconds as the Social Media post becomes viral.

My observation is that this is a very unhealthy happening because it denies any possibility of processing what just happened.

What we need is a measure of time to allow for reasonableness to have a chance to manifest,

Let’s remember the fine art of responding instead of reacting . . . and intentionally practice the PAUSE!

Take whatever time it takes to process what just happened.

Indubitably, you’ll experience Denial: “This did NOT happen, Did it?”

then anger: “OMG, this REALLY irks me!”

Then bargaining . . . “I’m going to tell my friends this, and together, we will DO something about this.”

Then depression: “The damage has been done . . . Woe are we!”

and finally acceptance: “Maybe this wasn’t as bad as we first thought.”

Remember – Once you post ANYTHING on the internet, it’s there – forever.

Practice the pause, and I promise you’ll have less stress and more happiness in your life.

Published by Barry Owen 

Strategist-CEO of Pareto Realty Real estate sales Professional Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.US Invite-Listen-Love 

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Nashville, TN

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Comments (12)

Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I have been grateful that here on ActiveRain, inflamatory posting has been quite minimal.  I wish all social media was as civilized!

Oct 08, 2020 11:26 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Barry, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Oct 08, 2020 11:27 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Always good to pause, take a deep breath and breathe. Look around, has the world come to an end, probably not, so relax and maybe as you sayg it ain't so bad after all.

Oct 08, 2020 12:08 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Barry- couldn't agree more. I found that Facebook, Instagram and of course, ActiveRain are what I spend my time on. My alter ego needs to stay off of Twitter because I do find myself wanting to speak my mind. 

Oct 08, 2020 06:05 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Oct 10, 2020 06:25 PM
Barry Owen

Aww - I love your picture here Kathy Streib , and thank you for featuring this post. Happy to see you today

Oct 11, 2020 03:52 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Barry Owen - I could not agree more.  Socail media is not the place to put out your rants.

Oct 11, 2020 05:25 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I am a huge believer in the pause. It can save relationships!

Oct 11, 2020 06:25 AM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

I think far too many people think being a fanner of divisive flames is their new job. I'm guessing most of us know what is going on the world, and have our opinions. I'm sick of others feeling it is paramount to give us all "their" perspective. I wish more people would tone it down, use some restraint, and try to find our commonality. 

Oct 11, 2020 07:31 AM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Even here on Activerain,  over time, some members have forgotten what they wrote in the past which does not jibe with what they are writing today.  To send out a consistant message is important.  We can't forget we are in business. Especially this year, if you tick off half your audience that will have long term repercussions IMHO.

Oct 11, 2020 08:39 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Yes Barry Owen  taking that one or two moments topause can make a world of difference.

Oct 11, 2020 02:10 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Barry Owen  Remember to practice the pause!

Oct 11, 2020 08:39 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Barry Owen - I only wish that social media did not exist.  There are more reasons than I want to list. That being said, we do have to pause and do our best to be respectful. In most cases, we do need to participate on some level, whether is it to "visit" with friends and family or promote our business.  I like AR because of the more respectful atmosphere of this particular platform vs. other social media platforms.

Oct 12, 2020 12:38 PM