In the seminars that I taught, we did something key at the end of day 1. You see all day long, we broke language patterns, patterns of victimhood, view of what the world was and their role in it, we broke numerous paradigms. At the end of day one, we faced a huge risk. What was the risk? When the student went home, they were going to talk to family friends and even coworkers who had NOT been through day one of the seminar.
I was told a story once about crabs. It seems that many folks in the East coast could put crabs in a barrel but not put a lid on the barrel and none of the crabs could ever get away. Why? Because when a crab started up the side of the barrel to get out, a crab from below would reach up and pull the other crab back down. Some people are like that as well. If you are doing better or are no longer feeling weak, that person wants to pull you back down to their level.
So, at the end of day one, to ensure that the “crab people” wouldn’t drag the students down, we had each and every student break a board with their bare hand. By doing this they have a piece of physical evidence that can’t be denied. They have proof that what they learned really does work despite what the “crab people” say. The key to breaking the board is to not see your hand hitting the board. Instead you visualize your hand going 6 inches beyond the board. The first time I did this, I knew I was going to hurt my hand (and as someone that plays guitar, I didn’t like that thought) still, I remembered “wax on, wax off” and did it anyways. My hand never felt a thing. My arm did. You see my hand went through the board so effortlessly, I never felt a thing there. What I felt were the pieces of broken board leaping up and touching my arm along the way. Absolutely no pain. It was effortless.
I think of that this time of year for one reason. My goals for the following year. I don’t set standards to merely hit my goal. I set standards to go beyond them. Granted, unexpected curveballs come along the way. And since I am ahead of schedule I still have plenty of opportunity to achieve that goal. Oh, and when I aim for that goal, I ignore the crab people – until they want a hand up instead of trying to pull me down.