Breaking boards (and paradigms)

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Real Estate Agent with Realty One Group # S.0190863

In the seminars that I taught, we did something key at the end of day 1. You see all day long, we broke language patterns, patterns of victimhood, view of what the world was and their role in it, we broke numerous paradigms. At the end of day one, we faced a huge risk. What was the risk? When the student went home, they were going to talk to family friends and even coworkers who had NOT been through day one of the seminar.

I was told a story once about crabs. It seems that many folks in the East coast could put crabs in a barrel but not put a lid on the barrel and none of the crabs could ever get away. Why? Because when a crab started up the side of the barrel to get out, a crab from below would reach up and pull the other crab back down. Some people are like that as well. If you are doing better or are no longer feeling weak, that person wants to pull you back down to their level.

So, at the end of day one, to ensure that the “crab people” wouldn’t drag the students down, we had each and every student break a board with their bare hand. By doing this they have a piece of physical evidence that can’t be denied. They have proof that what they learned really does work despite what the “crab people” say. The key to breaking the board is to not see your hand hitting the board. Instead you visualize your hand going 6 inches beyond the board. The first time I did this, I knew I was going to hurt my hand (and as someone that plays guitar, I didn’t like that thought) still, I remembered “wax on, wax off” and did it anyways. My hand never felt a thing. My arm did. You see my hand went through the board so effortlessly, I never felt a thing there. What I felt were the pieces of broken board leaping up and touching my arm along the way. Absolutely no pain. It was effortless.

I think of that this time of year for one reason. My goals for the following year. I don’t set standards to merely hit my goal. I set standards to go beyond them. Granted, unexpected curveballs come along the way. And since I am ahead of schedule I still have plenty of opportunity to achieve that goal. Oh, and when I aim for that goal, I ignore the crab people – until they want a hand up instead of trying to pull me down.

Comments (28)

Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Thank you Grant Schneider I actualy learned about crab people from an agent in San Diego. I see he is still in business today over 30 years later!

Oct 19, 2020 05:31 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Thank you very much Michael Jacobs I certainly do appreciate the positive feedback. Make it a great day!

Oct 19, 2020 05:32 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I've never heard the crab story. Very interesting and unfortunately true. There are those who may wish to pull us back....  Escape, crab, escape!

Oct 19, 2020 05:45 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Yes, choose wisely and aim high without a disruption pulling you away to reach you goals and beyond...

Oct 19, 2020 05:47 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Rocky, the saying of hanging with successful people is true.  A few years ago, I cut ties with a few that were dragging me down.

Oct 19, 2020 05:53 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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I hear ya Kat Palmiotti I heard escape crab escape as if it was "Run, Forrest, run!!!!"

Oct 19, 2020 06:21 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 something tells me that you two exceed your goals on a consistent basis.

Oct 19, 2020 06:23 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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There ya go, Joan Cox  It is best to cut ties from those crabs in your life. SOmetimes, they convert on their own and become empowering people too.

Oct 19, 2020 06:24 AM
Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

There is way too much of people dragging others down in the world, I have always felt it was much better to lift people up.  From my perspective, I have always felt that the better people around are doing in life, the better it would be for me.

Oct 19, 2020 06:38 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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I'm with you Brian England  Lifting people up is far more rewarding to me as well.

Oct 19, 2020 06:42 AM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Never heard of the crab stuff, but you always have interesting posts!

Oct 19, 2020 06:52 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Good morning. Thank you Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®   I am glad you are enjoying them. Make it a great day!

Oct 19, 2020 06:56 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

One of the risks faced by real estate agents is that some offices have an over supply of agents who try to pull others down to their level.

Oct 19, 2020 07:08 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Unfortunately Roy Kelley I would have to agree with you. I'm glad I don't have that environment.

Oct 19, 2020 07:10 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Rocky- another wonderful story. There will always be crabs in the world. I say boil them and eat them. Oops.... Shouldn't go there.  As I've gotten older, I've learned to surround myself with positive people who will encourage me to be the same.  My nephews take Taekwando and it was amazing watching them break their boards. 

Oct 19, 2020 10:42 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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LOL! I love that, Kathy Streib ! Boil them and eat them.  Wait, I will get the butter!

Oct 19, 2020 11:15 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Rocky what a great post, interestingly  a hundred years ago I lived on the east coast and you are Right we never put covers on the barrels.... now a half a century ago I went to Tony Robbins seminar and we walked on hot coals those of us who were pumped up and believed did not burn our feet... on the other hand those who did not got their feet burned similar to breaking boards:))Endre

Oct 19, 2020 03:48 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Thank you Endre Barath, Jr. I envy your experience with Tony. I saw him once, but it was before he became such a huge success. I haven't walked on coals - yet. When I finally make it to one of his weekend long programs, I will!

Oct 19, 2020 03:56 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Rocky I was with another agent and he did not believe:)) his feet burned mine did not:))Endre

May 09, 2021 11:59 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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If anyone could walk through fire, Endre, it is certainly you my friend!

May 10, 2021 07:16 AM