Personal gratifications

Real Estate Agent with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 PA License - AB067198

I try to live in an attitude of gratitude, creating the life I want, and enjoy. Sometimes I get a little off track, but that is the enjoyment of it, I just have to adjust my path and get back on track and get back in the flow.


I was reading some old school reports last night, I started school when I was 5 and remember my teacher, reading her thoughts about me made me smile and laugh. Then I was laughing my head off at all the comments over the years from different teachers. All thought I could do better, I was disorganized, in my writing, and in my work. Only my socializing and sports seemed to get me noticed. As I look back I am grateful for those teachers, and my parents, who were so willing to encourage me and consider that I could do better, who saw something in me, which at that age I maybe did not see in myself. Amazingly, I was made a prefect and head of house in both my schools, and head of school in my prep school. So they obviously saw something in me even at those early ages.


Last year was a major challenge for me, a lot of personal issues arose, not least of which was that I was told my prostate cancer was back and I would need radiation and hormone treatment. Last week I had my six month check up and was given the all clear. I will have six month checks for the next few years, but I see my self as a Victor, not a survivor, that reeks too much to me of being a victim. I am not victim, I am an overcomer. Our local brewery Victory, has tee shirts which say Revel in Victory! when my size is in stock I am getting myself one.


This year business wise, even with all the challenges, has been one of my most successful, and for that I am grateful as it has been a major distraction and time filler to the hours spent at home.


Where I live, I can walk out of my front door and walk into Valley Forge National Park. Even when we were shut down, including the park, the rangers allowed you to walk there on your own. It was not a matter of being entitled, but simply taking advantage of this wonderful park and open space to exercise and breathe fresh air and enjoy nature around me. I am so grateful i chose this apartment to rent when I moved out during my divorce last year.

Finally, I am so grateful for my new car, my Toyota Camry was a delight to drive, but the miles were creeping up and with the antiques business I opened on the side, I needed a vehichle that could hold some larger items. My Jeep Grand Cherokee is so comfortable and totally matches what I needed. 


November is a time to be grateful and count your blessings. I have to say finally, this has been a blessed year. I have met a new woman who makes me very happy and has so many interests similar to mine and we have got to know each other during what is a very difficult time for many, but we have been able to get to know each other and talk at length. I am looking forward to 2021 and all that it holds, but for now, i am living in the moment and enjpying where I am right now.





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Nick Vandekar
Nick is a Tredyffrin Easttown Residential and Commercial REALTOR selling The Main Line, Chester, Delaware and Montgomery Counties.

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Comments (23)

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 what an incredible journey you've had this past year and you managed to come out of it Victorious! So much wisdom in your words......priceless.  I'm happy to hear you've had a beautiful place to be in nature and you've  met a new woman that you can talk with for hours!  2021 is looking great for you!

Nov 06, 2020 09:30 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Nick:

You certainly have a lot to be thankful for. That's such good news about your health!! 2020 has been good to you in a number of ways, despite the pandemic!

Thank you for your entry - I so enjoyed reading it.


Nov 06, 2020 10:40 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Nick, great post, and prayers for every visit to the doc for a clean bill of health.  There are so many things around us to be thankful for!  

Nov 06, 2020 10:59 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Glad to read that you received good news for your health issues Nick, and I can understand why you have much gratitude this year!

Nov 06, 2020 11:53 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Nick- your post is so full of gratitude that I can't wipe the smile off my face. I am so happy that you are continuing your journey for happiness in your life. Happy about your medical news and the new lady in your life. 

Nov 06, 2020 05:40 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

You have overcome some huge challenges in life Nick and I can see that you definitely Revel in Victory every day, well done! Congrats on the feature, earned and deserved.

Nov 06, 2020 06:13 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Ron and Alexandra Seigel I love your comment and the richness of the words, thank you.

Michael Jacobs something worth pondering.

Hannah Williams I love to think positively.

I am looking forward to 2021 with hope and positivity Anna Banana Kruchten CRS CRB, Phoenix Broker 

Jeff Dowler, CRS I enjoyed writing it, so much to be thankful for.

Nov 06, 2020 07:11 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Joan Cox thank you for the good thoughts.

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 thank you, looking forward to next year, have some great things planned for 2021.

Kathy Streib thank you, i love your comment, made me smile and I agree both are things to be happy about.

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! truly I Revel in Victory, cannot wait to get that t-shirt. maybe in several color ways.

Nov 06, 2020 07:15 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I feel like it can be that way a lot. Love and like and all the best!

Nov 06, 2020 10:10 PM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-801-5525

Nick, I resonate with those attitudes, Gratitude opens many doors. Victor not survivor.

A friend also met someone special during lockdown and as things progressed, their first dates were in her backyard, a creative workaround.  Where there's a will, there's a way :). 

Nov 07, 2020 02:20 AM
Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

From following your posts over the years, I would say that you seem to follow the right path and I enjoy seeing your success.

Nov 07, 2020 04:50 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

How wonderful. Living in the moment is an amazing thing, and it sounds like your moment(s) right now are fantastic.

Nov 07, 2020 05:32 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Laura Cerrano thank you for stopping by.

Kris Collis, Associate Broker that was our first date, then a walk in a local preserve, then a local brewery, etc. 

Brian England it is easy to get off track sometimes though, but then all you have to do is adjust and find the path again.

Kat Palmiotti thank you, they are, loving life.

Nov 07, 2020 06:32 AM
Joe Jackson
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Columbus, OH
Clintonville and Central Ohio Real Estate Expert

Great post! Thank you for making this content!

Nov 11, 2020 06:50 AM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Honest and inspiring post Nick!  My husband was treated for prostate cancer--all OK now but I wondering about the future--it is just so common in older men. Enjoy those new wheels!

Nov 12, 2020 08:22 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Joe Jackson thanks for reading and commenting.

Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR I had not known the statistics that after surgery about 30% need radiation and hormone treatment later. I still would have had surgery, but I might not have been so freaked out last year when I saw the numbers climbing. Tell your husband, which I am sure he does to keep an eye on his PSA.

Nov 12, 2020 08:46 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

Congrats on many things, including having a featured post. 

Nov 12, 2020 04:45 PM
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Congralatons on beating the big "C" and all of your accomplishments this year.  Having an attitude of gratitude beats the odds 99% of the time, refocusing energy to it's best use! 

Nov 14, 2020 10:08 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089 thank you, will have to make my way to Hawaii when I can, never been.

Jan Green thank you, an attitude of gratitude beats any other attitude.

Nov 14, 2020 02:56 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Positivity breeds even more positivity, Nick and you are ONE positive person!! Your attitude can certainly take you to places you never thought you could go...but, YOU believed in yourself and look at you now!

Nov 28, 2020 09:56 AM