"I'm Just Not Feeling It"

Real Estate Agent with Golden Girls with SW Desert Homes BR564219000

I've been working with an out of state buyer for a year - she's hoping to find a horse property, with facilities, as close to her family as possible.  I go to each property of interest and send copious small videos with narration, and then we talk when complete.  It works with her schedule.

Throughout the year her criteria has changed, and I get it.  Some times you don't realize what you need or what's important until you've looked under a few rocks, so to speak.

At first thought, you may think...working for a YEAR...but one must consider our Tucson Area inventory.

Tucson Marana Horse Ranch Property for Sale

Days on the market are less than a month, and niche properties, such as a horse ranch property, WITH actual facilities, can be tricky.

And then, there's the multiple offers.  My client and I have come in second for more offers than I care to mention.  We understand the importance of being first, personal letters seem to work, a clean offer with few concessions, escalation clauses, and all of that.  Believe me, we've tried it.  But when your client is financing half the transaction, CASH almost always wins out.

So, what's my point in blogging today?

Well, I mentioned that my client is out of state.  So that means her relatives often come to view a property with me.  

The last property I sent her, her mother wasn't "feeling the property" after seeing the photos.  This was the first interesting and appealing ranch that had popped up in the last month.


As an experienced agent, my job is to guide a client through understanding certain aspects.  Not all photos are professional, or well taken. Not all MLS sheets are completely accurate.  Seeing a home online is not the same as in person:  Paint, carpet, and so much more can be changed.

As family members to those searching for Tucson Homes for Sale, or Tucson Horse Ranches and Properties for sale need to keep in mind...condition, care, location, pricing, updates....THOSE are things we need to convey to those we are representing.  NOT feelings, personal taste, or emotional woo woo.

I get that a new home purchase is emotional, but the emotions belong to the buyer, not the buyer's relatives.


Too many cooks can spoil the stew...or however the saying goes.

Meanwhile, if you are thinking of listing your Tucson area horse property...I can help with that.  ;)


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If I can assist you in your home buying or selling in Marana, Tucson, Oro Valley, or Vail, please don't hesitate to call me!  Email at Cara@SWDeserthomes.com

Cara Marcelle Mancuso, Golden Girls with SW Desert Homes


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Comments (7)

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Oh my heavens,  I cringed when I read this ... not the working for a year part, not we came in second so many times, it was the not feeling it part. 

The eye buys as Barbara Todaro says. Yet. If the photos are crappy and the rest of the property meets the criteria it is worth looking at! 


Nov 24, 2020 07:54 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services



Mr. Crappy Says

Let the Decision Maker

The Buyer




Nov 24, 2020 07:56 AM
Cara Marcelle Mancuso

Thank you Kathleen.  I hesitated on posting, and tried to make it not so whiney, but I'm sure many agents out there deal with "family" selling.  Appreciate the feature Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist 

Nov 24, 2020 08:16 AM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Hi Cara - like Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist said, the cringe part is the "I'm not feeling it" from the relative, no less. 

Nov 24, 2020 08:14 AM
Cara Marcelle Mancuso

Lottie Kendall   Happy Thanksgiving!  I'll be thankful when I find just the right horse property for HER.

Nov 24, 2020 08:18 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Not feeling it et?   Really?   Who's looking for a home, You?   Well no I don't want another home.  Well then.....is it really about your feelings?  Not really.


Then listen to the relatives agent - she knows what she's talking about!

Nov 24, 2020 09:54 AM
Cara Marcelle Mancuso

I'm striving for a "balance" between appreciating that they care and want to help, and telling them that they are out of line.  

Nov 25, 2020 06:32 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Cara---each of us has dealt with buyers who come up with all sorts of reasons why a property is not the right "fit".  Although,  it's no consolation, "sighs"  matter.

Nov 24, 2020 11:54 AM
Cara Marcelle Mancuso

Very true - and MOST of them did go on to find a home with me that they never even had within their criteria.  Patience helps, so does a little luck. Have a great holiday weekend, Michael Jacobs 

Nov 25, 2020 06:37 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Cara- it's hard when those around the seller enter into the decision making process. 

Nov 24, 2020 06:05 PM
Cara Marcelle Mancuso

She is an interior designer, imagine that.  Can you see yourself walking into a clients home and telling them you aren't feeling it??  Of course not...she needs to remember what it's like back when she was working as a professional.  If we'd have been together when she shared her last opinion, I'm certain I would have told her it's not about US, but about the details, but this one happened "virtually"  Happy Thanksgiving Kathy Streib 

Nov 25, 2020 06:35 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Cara, it sounds like we have the same client, although mine does live in town, but the criteria continues to vary.   Good luck with this client, and hope one day one will GRAB them! 

Dec 04, 2020 07:20 AM
Cara Marcelle Mancuso

Hey Joan Cox  -- sorry to hear that!  I hope yours gets GRABBED as well.

Dec 07, 2020 01:58 PM