A Christmas Challenge - Yes, There's a Way Around Everything

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A Christmas Challenge - Yes, There's a Way Around Everything

Sad elderly lonely facesDay-in and day-out, clients/sphere were sharing stories about increasing loneliness of those who are at-risk and have found themselves quarantining for 10 straight months. I feel so blessed to have a hubby who gives the best hugs in the world but, it also made me realize how awful it must feel NOT to have that right now. The holidays had to bring on a whole new level of loneliness.

I had to find a way to focus on getting the grandmas in our family, to our home for Christmas. We missed them during Thanksgiving and promised them that we would somehow, some way, figure out Christmas. 

Talking to my best girlfriend, I expressed my sadness for the elderly ladies in our family. She explained that every one was going through this and we just had to be careful. I knew that was a 'pat' answer that she HAD to share with me but, I went on to explain an idea I had.

Fauci had just said that if the COVID-19 virus was going to be spread, it happened within just under 7 days. Their new criteria is now to quarantine 7-10 days. 

My idea was that we, as a family, bubble for 7 to 10 days. We had time and it would give the grandparents in the family hope, being able to see their family. Coincidentally, my BFF is the head of the Southeast's first & largest COVID virtual hospital. She's all about this virus. I knew my suggestion wouldn't get her blessing but, I had planted the seed!

My husband and I began sharing my idea with our family. Some, who work outside the home could not count on being able to bubble but, it gave them time to reschedule outside meetings and travel. Heck, it helped me to prepare and revise my own calendar...just in case. 

Staying safe - bubbling for family

We watched the news, listened to others' sentiments about our plan and FINALLY, my BFF acknowledged they were bubbling and doing the same with only a few members of her family - those she was 100% confident, would not take a single chance. Hallelujah! I had her blessing and can't tell you how much that meant to me.


It also made us more diligent about serious conversations with our family members - we were doing this for the grands who had been closed-in for 10 solid months. IF they couldn't bubble, we would FaceTime with them but, REALLY wanted them to consider their parents/grandparents. Keeping them safe was our MAIN concern. 

Family ROCKS!

 

After much ado, we had a good sized group for Christmas. We were all ecstatic to see other family (IRL) and there were a LOT of tears shed - happy tears! None of us wanted the day to end but, we left with happiness and thankfulness in our hearts - and positive, exciting hopefulness of vaccines to come! We're planning a mid-year celebration together - perhaps a 'COVID-19 is Behind Us' celebration?! We have a while to decide on a name - but, at least we are confident it won't be 10 months again before we see one another.

Many thanks to Head Elf Carol Williams Santa Anna Banana for hosting this fabulous December challenge. There's still time to participate! Read more about the challenge here.

 

© Debe Maxwell | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | CharlotteBroker@icloud.com | A Christmas Challenge - Yes, There's a Way Around Everything

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Kat Palmiotti
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How wonderful that you were able to figure out a way to see your loved ones. Yay!

Dec 27, 2020 04:51 AM #16
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Good morning Debe. What a great idea to provide an opportunity for many to personally visit. With everyone taking responsibility and being honest, much is possible. Enjoy your day!

Dec 27, 2020 05:46 AM #17
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Wonderful post! Thanks for sharing!

Dec 27, 2020 06:49 AM #18
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Did you feel a bit sneaky, Kathy Streib?! We did - in fact, one of the 'moms' who came asked that we not tell her children (who didn't come) that she was not wearing a mask. She was afraid they would lecture her! At some point, mental health DOES have to be taken into consideration!

Dec 27, 2020 09:13 AM #19
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I totally agree, Raymond Henson, SRES, GRI! Hopefully this won't happen again - EVER! I know as we approach another presidential election year, many of us will be incredibly anxious, fearful this nightmare will repeat itself!

Dec 27, 2020 09:14 AM #20
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So, Endre Barath, Jr., my BFF didn't want to support it because of what she is around day-in and day-out. She has seen a LOT of deaths from this virus and is very protective of her elderly parents as well. I was going to do it with or without her blessing but, when I got it (a half-assed blessing, truth be told!), I was thrilled. 

That said, she knows I'm a logical thinker - I HAVE to understand the pathophysiology behind EVERYTHING! She knew that I was right - you simply can't argue with logic!

I will say this - back to your comment the people control - we did not advertise this for fears that you understand. At this point, I don't frankly care - it's done - but, I wasn't going to have our plans be botched by naysayers! To me, it's very sad that we live like that here in the US.

Dec 27, 2020 09:21 AM #21
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It really has, James Dray! It's been a tough one and I'm so ready for the new year - SO ready!

Dec 27, 2020 09:21 AM #22
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Hello Debe Maxwell, CRS great idea! So glad you were able to spend time with your family that way.

Dec 27, 2020 09:22 AM #23
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We had a blast - I'm so sad it's over but, it was a much needed mental health break for many family members who have been quarantining since March, Brian England. I love my home but, I can't IMAGINE never leaving it and never being around anyone else - even at a distance. SO many people have done this though. 

Happy Sunday!

Dec 27, 2020 09:23 AM #24
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Well, we figured it out out of necessity! LOL Seriously, some who were shut-in for 10 months really did need a mental health day. I think it was the best gift we could have given them, Kat Palmiotti!

Dec 27, 2020 09:24 AM #25
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Putting the onus on them worked wonders! We all knew who would and wouldn't either be able to or tolerate staying in, Wayne Martin. They were honest and didn't come or their spouses held them accountable. It worked! The week before Christmas is a tough week to stay in too - there's so much 'fun' going on in the world around us - even during the pandemic!

Dec 27, 2020 09:26 AM #26
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And, thank you for reading and for sharing it in a re-blog, Joe Jackson!

Dec 27, 2020 09:27 AM #27
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It worked very well, Rocky Dickerson! We knew it would, if only we could keep it on the down-low and explain the importance of keeping the grands safe. 

Dec 27, 2020 09:28 AM #28
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Hello Debe and Ray,  This has been a weird year.  I lost 3 friends to the Covid-19 and have friends that still have it for the last 2 to 3 weeks.  I wear a msk and gloves all the time and hope that we get over this and soon.  I even did not bake christmas cookie to deliver this year, first time in 19 years.

 

 

Dec 27, 2020 09:30 AM #29
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It really has been, Will Hamm! One of my friends from high school that I've kept up with had a very serious case of it and is very lucky to have survived. I know lots of locals who have tested positive but, never had any symptoms, thankfully. 

I had a bad case of it very early on (March) and cancelled our travel plans (also thankfully) as I was sicker than I've ever been. I was down for two solid weeks and I didn't improve until they gave me steriods. It's scary, no fun and no joke - for sure! 

Like you, I didn't bake cookies and breads or make candies for the masses as I typically do. I wasn't leaving my bubble to deliver fattening foods! LOL

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Hi Debe,
This year has taken a toll on a lot of people. Somehow we have to balance safety and living life.  I have a very small bubble of people I hang out with who are as careful as I am. I have an 84-year-old SIL I am responsible for. She doesn't live with me but I handle all of her affairs and can't afford to get sick, so it's not just about me. We have to do what we have to do for ourselves and our loved ones.  I'm so pleased you were able to make a plan that worked to get your family together... finally.  What a special get-together that must have been.

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Debe we all need to do whatever we need to do to be able to be together during special days.

Glad to hear your family was able to be together, especially the older members of the family.

Dec 27, 2020 11:43 AM #32
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My MIL & her sister both live alone, in different states, Carol Williams. We stopped by Ray's aunt's house on our way back from Hilton Head Island in July. We stood about 20' away and she looked absolutely dejected - not about us standing so far apart but, because she had had no social interaction, other than distancing, since March. It broke my heart. I didn't know how to 'fix' it. We tried for Thanksgiving but, some just couldn't do the bubble thing and she (and my MIL) were afraid to chance it. We were stricter with everyone for Christmas and I think everyone realized what they had cost our 'grands' back in November. They weren't willing to take any chances and everyone adhered to the 'requirements!' 

It was a process but, it was SO worth it! My MIL and her sister barely stopped crying happy tears long enough to eat. They were like children at Disney! Everyone was so happy that we were able to get them out.

We also bought them Alexas with screens (Shows) so that we can phone them any time - it's like FaceTime but, so much easier for them just to 'answer' and sit in front of the Shows to be able to see everyone.

I am confident they are going to make it to the vaccine now - they got their 'charge' on Christmas day! 

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Hi George Souto! Yes, that was the mission. They were so very lonely (both of the ones that came live alone). I cannot imagine having not ventured out for 10 months! They were on a high when they left - our hearts were so full of happiness for them. I think we're on the downside now and they feel like that too! This just gave them the 'charge' they needed to make it to the vaccine and some semblance of normalcy!

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I am so glad you were able to spend time with your family this year.  I took my mom from her assisted living for four days and balled when I had to take her back.  It's unnatural for families to not be together.

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