Cure the drought

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Real Estate Agent with Realty One Group # S.0190863
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I have taught and been a part of staffing a number of seminars as well as trained agents in a number of real estate offices. I am often struck as to how so many people are programed for failure. We have a society that is programming us (especially through reality TV and talk shows) to be victims. Do you want to be famous for a few months?  Tell the world how you are a victim and they give you instant publicity.

I prefer to pursue the opposite tactic. I prefer to empower people. I prefer to build them up. I prefer to find what they are doing right and point THAT out to them. Why does it matter? Let me tell you a story.

One seminar I was a part of was being taught along with Robert G. Allen ("Nothing Down", "Creating Wealth"). In the seminar, we took teenage kids that society had basically given up on and looked to empower them. I remember one boy that was 17 and by that age he had been kicked out of 26 separate foster homes. I can't even imagine the pain that would have meant to me if that many families told me I was worthless. Another boy was in junior high. He had a problem spelling words as simple as "cat". We took him through a new pattern and then in less than 5 minutes we had him spelling the word "metamorphosis" BOTH FORWARDS AND BACKWARDS! It blew his mind. You see, he had been convinced by an "authority figure" that he couldn't spell - so he gave up trying. When we showed him that he COULD spell, you could see his mind working and thinking "If I really CAN spell when they said I couldn't, I wonder what else I CAN do that they said I couldn't?"

Why does all this matter? Simple. The people you deal with every day have all got their "scars". They have their psychological wounds where they don't see the best in themselves. When you point out what they are doing right, how they are awesome, when you celebrate their victories, they then start to believe that and then they CREATE that even more often. I was once training some agents in an office about 10 years ago and took the time to note how one of my agents was doing a great job and I heard one of the ladies in admin say, "Rocky, you know what? I really like listening to you talk to agents and other people here because you always have good things to say. I'm not used to hearing that."

There is a drought of empowerment. Be the rain. Let it flood.

  

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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
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Powerful stories about those two kids--I agree with your theme here, empowerment and believe in yourself!

Jan 09, 2021 03:19 PM #35
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Rocky Dickerson
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Hello Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR and thank you for the kind words. You may enjoy a 7 part blog series I start on Monday abouot empowering yourself and others.

Jan 09, 2021 05:36 PM #36
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Jan 09, 2021 06:45 PM #37
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Rocky Dickerson
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Good morning and thank you Kathy Streib for placing me on your list once again. Make it a great day!

Jan 10, 2021 07:14 AM #38
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Dorie Dillard Austin TX
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 Good morning Rocky Dickerson,

I'm so glad that Kathy Streib featured your inspiring post as I missed it. I love the message on how important is to not only think positive but empower others with positive praise for their strengths and talents. So much can be accomplished for others with this approach. 

Jan 10, 2021 08:46 AM #39
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Rocky Dickerson
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Good morning Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR kind words are like the spring rain bringing the plants back to life.

Jan 10, 2021 08:56 AM #40
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
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Hi Rocky Dickerson - I am a little torn on this. As much as I agree with you, sometimes people strive to prove those people wrong. Instead of giving up, some people try much harder.  However, youngsters should be encouraged at every opportunity. 

Jan 10, 2021 01:41 PM #41
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Rocky Dickerson
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I think we can all agree it is far better to tell a child what is good and admirable about them as oppossed to focusing solely on their faults.

Jan 10, 2021 01:43 PM #42
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There is such a poweful message in your post, Rocky, especially your final paragraph - thank you for the inspiration.

Jeff

Jan 10, 2021 03:13 PM #43
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Hey there Jeff Dowler, CRS glad that you enjoyed the post my friend

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Hi Rocky Dickerson It really is easy...to be positive towards others...too build them up...to encourage with enthusiasm...to help with positive attitude...too give the power to be a better person...and we can do all of that with just a few words.

I loved your blog and words of encouragement...refresing and enlightening!

Here's to a fantastic 2021!

 

Jan 11, 2021 08:47 AM #45
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Rocky Dickerson
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Good morning Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker yes, building up those around us should be a habit we all adopt

Jan 11, 2021 09:13 AM #46
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It's hard from the time one is a little tyke to make oneself stand out in a family, then school, and then in the world at large. So many go into marriages where spouses are not supportive, it's endless unless you find a way to stand up for yourself. It's sad.  My earliest memories when I tried to do something was "no one in our family has ever done that".  It wasn't that my family was not supportive, they just couldn't figure out how or why I wanted to do these things.  That might have set someone else up for failure before you even start--which was not the case for me.  The bigger the challenge, the better.

Jan 11, 2021 03:07 PM #47
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Rocky Dickerson
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Hello Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® it is so very important to be empowering to those around us.

Jan 11, 2021 04:18 PM #48
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What an awesome story.  Thank you for sharing Rocky Dickerson.

Keep on making people's lives better!

Have a Happy Day! 

Jan 12, 2021 11:54 AM #49
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Rocky Dickerson
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Thank you CANDACE (Candy) STEVENS You're very sweet. It was a priviledge to be there for my dad that way.

Jan 12, 2021 12:03 PM #50
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LOVE THIS POST Rocky!  You are such a kind person, looking for the good in people to lift and empower them.  Good for you!  

Jan 18, 2021 09:47 AM #51
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Rocky Dickerson
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Good morning Jan Green and thank you. As someone once told me, I love people and use money - not vice versa

Jan 18, 2021 10:13 AM #52
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Very cool mantra Rocky!

 

Jan 18, 2021 10:22 AM #53
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Rocky Dickerson
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Thank you very much Jan - it's just one of my core beliefs

Jan 22, 2021 08:43 AM #54
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