Which direction?

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Real Estate Agent with Realty One Group # S.0190863

I had a conversation with a woman once that was wanting to go on a date with me. She was trying to impress me with how much of an optimist she is. Funny thing was that she had no idea how negative she was. Really, she was.

You see, we need to be aware of how we ask for things. We need to be aware of the “rules” we have in our mind about the way things need to be. We need to all be careful in how we approach things. Are you saying what you DO want or what you DON'T want? I asked this woman what she liked. Her answer? She told me about 20 things she does NOT like. It's funny how just that one small difference can make a huge impact. If I did end up wanting to go out with her (and I know as attractive as she is there are HUNDREDS of guys that want to go out with her), I would know nothing about how to please her. Why? because all that would be on my mind is what she does NOT like. I would much rather tell you what I want as opposed to what I don't want on the off chance that you might give it to me. Think about it. If a client asks "What do you want me to do?" do you reply with "I don't want you to list this for $200,000 over market at a 2% commission" or do you reply with "I want you to list this 1% below market at a 7% commission." I'll ask for the latter just in case they might want to give me what I want.

As the old saying goes, “What you think about, you bring about”. If you are focused on what you want to avoid, you only end up drawing yourself closer to it. Focusing on the powerful positive outcome takes you closer to that direction. Then look as well at your beliefs and “rules” for how you want things to be. I helped a friend years ago discover how to find the man of her dreams (she is married with a child now). We looked at her belief structure because nobody ever told her the importance it has. If you want to see the sun RISE, don’t face West. Make sense?

She said she wanted a “take charge” kind of guy and then wondered why she kept finding the guys she was dating were controlling. DUH! They were taking charge. Examining your beliefs and stating them in the affirmative and positive makes a world of difference. If you are not getting the results you want, make small changes until you do get what you want. You may want to face East to see that sun RISE!

Being positive means stating things in the positive not the negative. I don't know about you, but I don't hang around with negative people. Oops – correct that. I want to only hang around with positive people.

 

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Comments (34)

Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Rocky Dickerson - Great points. Like you, I only want to be around positive people. I actually start my day enjoying the sunrise and it puts me in the right mood to tackle my day ahead.

Jan 08, 2021 06:44 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Good morning Joe Jackson I'm glad that you enjoyed today's post my friend

Jan 08, 2021 06:48 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Good morning Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 yes, tonality comes into play as well. 7% of what you communicate is words and 38% is tonality. Actually, mind focus and communication is a part of a 7 part blog I am posting next week. You may enjoy it. I took a lot from what I used to teach in seminars.

Jan 08, 2021 06:51 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Good morning Sheri Sperry - MCNE® as we focus upon what we desire, we are drawn closer to that outcome.

Jan 08, 2021 06:52 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

In my opinion critiquing someone is indulging oneself in the negative arena.  Critiquing people attract more people to critique.  A

Jan 08, 2021 07:19 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Rocky, you brought back many memories when I was dating actively, and all the different personalities.   

Jan 08, 2021 07:34 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Good morning Ron and Alexandra Seigel we just need to be careful we don't critique the critiquing people. LOL

Jan 08, 2021 07:41 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Good morning Joan Cox the key is to focus upon what we actually want instead of focusing our attentions upon what we do not desire.

Jan 08, 2021 07:42 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Rocky,

This becomes an endless loop, we just don't even begin to go there.  A

Jan 08, 2021 07:52 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Rocky, for sharing your experience and your advice.

Take care, be safe and have a great day.

Jan 08, 2021 08:48 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I prefer to work with positive people but a positive approach can be the perfect compliment to working with difficult situations 🤓

Happy Friday Rocky Dickerson 

Jan 08, 2021 09:13 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Hello and thank you Roy Kelley I appreciate all the kind words. They mean a lot.

Jan 08, 2021 09:19 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Hello Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS  I may be wrong, but from what I gather from your posts, you are one of the most positive folks I know.

Jan 08, 2021 09:20 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Rocky- the first thing I have to say is I loved Brian England comment!!!  

That said, you've pointed out something very true and which we don't often thing about...do everything you can do express yourself in a "positive" way. We're only human and when we begin to hear negatives come out of someone's mouth, we put up a big wall. 

Jan 08, 2021 02:11 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Hello Kathy Streib yes, I have been single a long time and so I have dated more than 4 women in my lifetime Brian England. LOL. That being said, I think you'll enjoy next week's process in my blogs. A 7 part series all about making this very transition.

Jan 08, 2021 02:32 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Rocky what I want to really know is how attractive was she?  ☺️

Jan 08, 2021 03:14 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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Okay, George Souto we will go there. She was gorgeous on the outside. I just never went out with her because of the negativity on the inside.

Jan 08, 2021 04:26 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

 Can't imagine hanging out with negativos!  I'm thankful Gary is so postive.  Good luck on finding your perfect match!

Jan 08, 2021 04:42 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Thank you Anna Banana Kruchten CRS CRB, Phoenix Broker as they say in the biz, each no is 1 step closer to a yes

Jan 08, 2021 05:05 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
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What you think about expands and thus we focus on what we want and let what we don't want to fade from our mind entirely.

Jan 25, 2021 09:50 AM

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