There is a time to talk, and a time to listen.

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Real Estate Agent with HomeSmart SA541769000

Listening

 

How do we learn? Is it by talking, or listening? It is often said that when you speak you are only repeating ideas that you already know. But when you listen you learn new things that you may have never learned.

You do not have to agree with what you are hearing, only acknowledge that there are ideas and facts that are different from ours. It is the first step in growing.

The mindset that because we learned something once and that is the way it should always be relegates us to the stone age. We should never forget that there was a time when the smartest people on the planet believed that the world is flat. If you get too close to the edge you will fall off. Their minds were closed. Anyone that thought differently was a heretic or a fool.

Our ability to listen and learn helps us be better people. Like a plant that is growing in our yard, new viewpoints establish roots and branches that strengthen us. They increase our presence and make us more powerful.

So next time you find yourself dominating the conversation, imparting your wealth of knowledge to all that will listen. Stop for a minute and let the other person speak. You may learn something new.

As humorist Will Rogers once said: “Never miss a good chance to shut up.”

 

Joe Domino is a Realtor® serving the Phoenix/Scottsdale area. Need more information? Or to Search for your next home, visit www.Scottsdale-AZHomes.com

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Comments (29)

Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Love the photo Joseph!  Perfect for the subject!!  Listening is critical to being a top notch professional.  I have many stories on this one......

Jan 06, 2021 04:19 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

If you put your ear to the railroad track you can hear the train coming.

Jan 06, 2021 05:47 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Joseph= what a wonderful quote and post. Whether it's in business or our personal lives, listening is an art we could all develop. I've found that some of the most charismatic people I've met were ones who actually listened to what was being said. 

Jan 06, 2021 05:07 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

You can tell when someone is listening or just letting you talk until they can speak. Listening is an art.

Jan 08, 2021 11:53 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Joseph Domino 480-390-6011 - the biggest problem is the people talk more than they listen.  Turn that around and watch the results.

Jan 09, 2021 05:38 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

I agree. Thanks Grant.

Jan 09, 2021 07:11 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Joseph Domino 480-390-6011 ,

I'm so glad that Carol Williams featured your post in her Second Chance Saturday Series as I missed it. Love the photo and the Will Rogers quote!. Listening is an art that needs to be worked on and when you listen its amazing what you will learn!!

Jan 09, 2021 06:52 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011
HomeSmart - Scottsdale, AZ
Real Estate Made Easy

Like the old saying says. "Stop, Look and Listen".

Jan 09, 2021 07:16 AM
Jim Paulson
Progressive Realty (Boise Idaho) www.Progressive-Realty.info - Boise, ID
Owner,Broker

We were born with two ears and only one mouth.  We were designed to listen twice as much as we speak, but few realize that. I frequently tell my clients, "I am sorry, I have been doing all the speaking and not enough listening, tell me more about your real estate needs".

Jan 09, 2021 10:05 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

Good point. Nice beard.

Jan 09, 2021 03:10 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

People fail to appreciate that it is impossible to get the other person's feelings or opinions when the only noise to be heard is coming from their own mouths

Jan 09, 2021 12:19 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

It is hard to listen and talk at the same time.

Jan 10, 2021 08:03 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Funny but, I just had this conversation with someone yesterday - they listen to respond, not to really HEAR. That drives me absolutely batty, Joseph! 

Great post and oh, so TRUE!

Jan 09, 2021 12:31 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

A lot of sales people have been taught to counter every arguement. When that happens, they forget to listen.

Jan 10, 2021 08:02 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Joseph:

There is lots of wise advice in your post. I think listening may be one of the most important skills we need to have, and use effectively, in our business.

Jeff

Jan 09, 2021 01:18 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

Thanks Jeff.

Jan 10, 2021 08:03 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Jan 09, 2021 06:40 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

Thanks Kathy.

Jan 10, 2021 08:03 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Wise words. We have two ears and one mouth! Listen intently, speak when appropriate.

Jan 09, 2021 10:08 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

I hear ya!

Jan 10, 2021 08:04 AM
June Piper-Brandon
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Ellicott City, MD
Piecing Dreams One Home at a Time

Confuscious say, wise man close mouth and open ears.  I got this in a fortune cookie once

Jan 10, 2021 08:08 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

That is a good one to remember.

Jan 11, 2021 03:10 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Joseph Domino 480-390-6011 - We can't learn anything if we are talking.  Listen and people will respect you for it. 

Jan 10, 2021 01:29 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

My wife is always on my case for not listening. Hmmm.

Jan 11, 2021 03:11 PM
Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker
Mike McCann - Broker, Mach1 Realty Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska - Kearney, NE
Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940

Hi Joseph Domino 480-390-6011 Thank you for sharing. 

I talk...a lot!  Oh, how quiet it would be if everyone was only listening!

Unlike many others...I learn more by Doing than by listening or reading or even talking.  

 

Jan 11, 2021 06:38 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

True, someone has to talk or it wouldn't be a conversation.

Jan 11, 2021 03:12 PM
Joe Jackson
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Columbus, OH
Clintonville and Central Ohio Real Estate Expert

Being a good listener is key to learning something new!

Jan 11, 2021 01:17 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

Thanks Joe.

Jan 11, 2021 03:14 PM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

That includes phone calls.  When someone calls you, do you give that person a chance to tell you why they called you?

Jan 11, 2021 02:48 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

Good point. I like to listen and take notes. Hard to do if you are talking.

Jan 11, 2021 03:13 PM
CANDACE (Candy) STEVENS, EA
Number Cruncher LLC - Overton, NV
Helping Taxpayers Resolve IRS problems

I struggle with talking too much.  I work on shutting up and listening all the time.   I have heard the saying we have two ears and one mouth for a reason!

Thank you for sharing Joseph Domino 480-390-6011.  Congratulations on having your blog featured.

Jan 12, 2021 10:58 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

Thanks Candace for reading.

Jan 15, 2021 02:40 PM
Kimo Jarrett
Cyber Properties - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

It depends on who you're talking to, doesn't it? I have a conversation every night and pray He is listening intently.

Jan 12, 2021 10:57 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

Maybe we should be more like him.

Jan 15, 2021 02:41 PM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Listening to others--can learn a lot!  I am amazed at how many times pp get interuppted when they talk. Very annoying. Almost as annoying as those that go on and on and on without stopping or engaging other person

Jan 15, 2021 02:16 PM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011

I hate it when you can't get a word in. A conversation takes two people, most of the time.

Jan 20, 2021 06:46 AM
Dorte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Joseph,

Good advice. Where is the scupture? Very appropriate.

Jan 24, 2021 08:58 AM