A Letter to Self on 2020

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It's midnight on a Tuesday night....

.....a glass of wine is nearby... we are always trying to get things right ....

....morning, noon, or night.

I promise to keep it in check....when you've had a glass (or two) the words can flow. They can be wonderful, or they can get you in trouble...in a variety of ways! 

2020 ...

Will those numbers, that year, these times....will they not be forever etched in our memories? I know they will for me. It was a year of first's. (and a second). The first year to spend with my partner post open heart surgery. And ever so thankful he was here by my side during....2020. It would have been a tough road to endure this pandemic alone. 

It was a year to lose my second parent and her brother (my Uncle). That's a whole other post

I was not mentally or financially prepared for another real estate market crash...and I was scared. Damn scared. And yet, life move on in real estate and I marked my single best year to date. Can I have a double AMEN! 

But I have to admit there were days I did little. Or nothing at all. My "get up and go" had just "got up and went." Lots of things (business wise) I should have accomplished last year...but I didn't. So they now face me for 2021. Not a bad thing...but we need to keep our head down. 

I just made one change that will give me more time and energy to focus on my business, and my special slice of life....Serenity Pond. Lots of plans for this Spring....come on Spring get here!! I already feel the weight off my shoulders and I should have take this action a long time ago. 

Alas...see....one can ramble. When I actually wanted to share something specific with you. 

I subscribe to a daily email called The Daily Coach. If you like positive messages, and affirmations, this is a great resource. But as I was working to clean out one of my email inboxes, many of these were still in wait for me to review, re-read, figure out where to save them for another day's read. 

How was your 2020? Did you lose a friend or family member? Was the (and is it still) social distancing and stay-at-home orders a toll on your mental state? It was here, but I think I made it through the rain....

Let me share this.....and may we all have even better and brighter times ahead. 



A Letter to Self on 2020

Your life, voice and story have a purpose. It is okay not to have discovered it today.

Dear Self,

Words cannot capture all of the emotions and feelings that I've experienced this year — and that’s okay. It's okay not to have a full grasp of what’s transpired these last 12 months. It's okay to have more questions than answers. Sometimes wisdom and enlightenment lie in silence, stillness and mystery. 

While you might not see and feel it right now, you have not just grown this year. You have transformed. You’ve been challenged to not only look at your goals and achievements differently but to also view yourself through another lens. Truthful introspection can feel uncomfortable at times. Accepting the person in the mirror each day can feel messy, scary and confusing. And that’s okay. The circumstances and challenges at home, work, within our communities and across the world have provided unique opportunities to lean into the uncertainty, the untouched and our own un-discovered selves.

You have had to reconcile with continued social unrest and injustices. You have had to make sense of how you fit in this ever-changing landscape of career paths, connectivity and deep work in a distracted world. You have been forced to pivot on the go and trust more of your intuition and creative innovation. Self-leadership and self-discipline became more critical than ever while you placed increasing emphasis on courage and truth, as opposed to fear and lies. There has not been a playbook for this year, but the human spirit's power has still found a way and will continue to do so. You continue to rise. We continue to rise.

Life is about moments — split moments. What we do with them creates our canvas. This year has taught us how short and precious it all can be. Life and the next breath can be here one day and gone the next night. We have had to confront our mortality in 2020. As our society mourned icons whom we often put on pedestals, we also realized they were human. They, too, were attempting to navigate this self-discovery journey. As we had to say final goodbyes to the heroes in our own families, in some cases even through technology, we were moved deeply to reflect on our family, our friends and the true meaning of our own lives.

Although we will continue to navigate uncharted waters in 2021 and onward, there will still be beauty, calm, discovery and wisdom immersed within the tide. Your life, voice and story have a purpose. It is okay not to have discovered it today. But don't give up, don't ever stop exploring.

Remember, life doesn't always happen to us. Sometimes it happens for us. This year has shaken us to the depths of who we are. While we won't have all the "answers" and "whys" tomorrow on Jan. 1, the marathon continues to grow, to heal, to let go, to learn, to unlearn, to forgive, to discover, to be kind, to love, to lead, to live and to rise.

In life, when we walk into tunnels of darkness, we’re afforded a unique opportunity to re-emerge into the light with grace and empathy — having evolved and transformed into something far more compassionate and authentic. 

I am proud of you for getting through this moment in time.



Comments (8)

Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
CEO of Vision Drive Realty - Coastal San Diego

2020 revealed who we were. Our strengths, fears, health and resolve. I dare say we all lost someone in 2020, found out who we were and either will be proud of that or ashamed, but 2021 is here and life goes on and the choice is ours whether we live it or it passes us by.

Feb 02, 2021 09:21 PM
Thom Abbott

Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets  ... Indeed life goes on. But I think we will reflect on these times and as you say, who we were, and who we became. 

Feb 02, 2021 09:55 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Thom. 2020 was not a good or bad year for me. I had the advantage of retirement allowing me to shelter in place. 2021 will likely be a better year, but it is too early to tell. Enjoy your day!

Feb 03, 2021 05:24 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Thom - Yes,  It was a moment in time.  And I have discovered(and continue to discover) that moments matter.  

Feb 03, 2021 05:35 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Thanks for sharing this letter and your own thoughts on 2020.  It definitely took a personal toll on me and continues to daily.  That said, real estate was my refuge.  I had the best year of my career too.

Best to just take our new reality day by day, or in some cases, hour by hour.

Feb 03, 2021 09:26 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

I think we all learned some things about ourselves in 2020. For me, it was that I could endure long stretches of isolation and be quite content.  This is because I know how to stay connected and busy even without that in-person contact.  I think we're all itching for the opportunities to reconnect in-person but in the meantime, we have to figure out how to deal with it all and keep our sanity.

Feb 03, 2021 10:21 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Thom- first of all, I'm glad that you had your partner while you were going through all of this. I have been concerned about those who are on their own and live in states that were totally locked down. 

I'm grateful that we were not as locked down as other areas. And it's interesting but I've been doing a lot of reflecting this week on where I was a year ago and all of the different adjustments we've had to make. 

Feb 03, 2021 07:26 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I wish you much peace and success in the midst of all this and then we continue a good flow of good energy through 2021 and beyond!

Feb 09, 2021 07:21 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Gratitude is an amazing motivator and a tremendous source of strength!
Love and light and all the best, Kathy Streib

Feb 09, 2021 07:23 PM