Are You Walking on Eggshells, or Clapping Along to the Happy Song!

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This post was inspired by a question asked by Lyn Sims  on the Q&A section for Active Rain/Members only.  Thank you Lyn.

 

The general idea of her question is the issue of controversy when it comes to listing a home where politics, weapons,and or religion have a prominent visual display in the home.  It is about how to walk on eggshells.

 

What should an agent suggest? Should the seller take down their displays to make sure, the home has the biggest exposure and does not offend a prospective buyer.  We feel that weapons should be locked in a safe place.

 

These days, we are inundated with group politics requiring us (regardless of what profession you are in) to walk on eggshells by using correct words and terminology when addressing one of these groups or individuals that belong to these groups.

 

We both have been in many homes looking for ourselves and with our branding/marketing clients.  We have seen the gamut of religious altars, nude photos/paintings and other displays.  

 

We were buying the home and not the beliefs/politics of a seller.and the only thing I have ever found mildly offensive was a pile of dog poop around a swimming pool. If we had loved the home, that would not have kept us from making an offer.  

 

How Does One Get in the frame of mind to want to Clap to the Happy Song?

 

1.  Get over yourself.  No gave you the right to critique others, or to be the moral compass for anyone, including your kids.  

 

2. Adapt this motto:  What You Think of Me is None of my Business.  This is the title of a little book by Terry Cole-Whittaker, well worth reading.

 

3.  Appreciate whatever comes your way...When a deal fell through in our commercial real estate firm, Ron and I took the guys out for a celebration.  We knew a better deal was on its way.

 

4.  A friend of ours always says:  Don't deal with people who try to yank your chain.  Don't even return their calls.  They will not cry and miss you, they have a bountiful source available  of those who want their chain yanked.

 

5.  "Be kind whenever possible, it is always possible." Dalai Lama.  Sometimes all you need to do is just smile and move on. 

 

Years ago, Ron and I decided that there only two groups of people, happy people and unhappy people.  Both groups come in every race, color, religion, political party and sexual preferences.  

 

People like doing business with people like themselves!  We have had what some may refer to as "charmed life!"  We attract happy people, and that included sellers, lessors, developers, as well as buyers, leasees, and friends.  There were times when emotions ran high on many sides, but the happy gene prevailed!

 

Are you walking on eggshells or clapping to the Happy Song?

 

I have included the link to the lyrics, if you don't have time to listen to the song...

Are you walking on Eggshells or Clapping to the Happy Song?

 

 

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Comments (70)

Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS Thank you for your very kind words, we appreciate it.  A

Mar 03, 2021 03:04 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

ActiveRain Member Support he has done this twice, the third time, I will push the smythe button with great relish.  In the meantime, he is showing off his true character for all to see.  A

Mar 03, 2021 03:06 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Roy Kelley we always appreciate your taking the time to comment on our posts. A

Mar 03, 2021 03:07 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Nina Hollander we usually bow out gracefully, every so rare  often we get caught in an endless loop, and have learned to bow out of those too. Our health and happiness is of paramount importance...A

Mar 03, 2021 06:02 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Lyn Sims I am certain you do your best, and I would not hesitate to refer you ever.  Rest assured that I would only refer a happy person who would be delighted with your expertise, and someone who would not be offended by anything.  A

Mar 03, 2021 06:04 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Michael Jacobs I did appreciate Liz and Bill Spear 's comment also and read the scorpion post.  We recently got rid of one in the nicest ways.  She had no idea what hit her...LOL. A

Mar 03, 2021 06:07 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Beth Atalay I have no doubts that you do your best.  Some people are not a match, and we all want to have a happy life, in my opinion.  There is no need to take every cart that comes your way as a friend of mine says...A

Mar 03, 2021 06:09 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty we appreciate independence, and having your own company, you can always say NO !  Freedom!  A

Mar 03, 2021 06:11 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Kat Palmiotti I bought the book for a friend who was obsessed by how others saw her.  It is a small book $5, and it changed her life. A

Mar 03, 2021 06:13 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 the moment I heard that quote was a great day and set a great path to follow.  So much good comes of this. A

Mar 03, 2021 06:15 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Wayne Martin for some it is hard to be true to themselves, especially when they believe the more$$$ they amass is the hub of their life.  They will work with anyone who will suck the life out of them.  A

Mar 03, 2021 06:16 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I don’t ever want to walk on eggshells really for anybody. It’s a horrible thing to have to do other than to be yourself.

Mar 03, 2021 09:36 PM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-801-5525

A, #3 is a great idea.  I will adopt it.  Ho celebrate with the clients because the right and better deal is about to manifest and in the meantime we'll sing along with Farrell and dance with Justin.  The spirit of this post is filled with so much joy.  It just permeates everything going on.

Mar 04, 2021 12:12 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Ron and Alexandra Seigel .

I totally love your post..it's spirit and the way to deal with what is currently going on. You can't be all things to all people and you must be true to yourself. #4 is perfect!

Mar 04, 2021 12:58 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

It depends on who is walking beside me.  LOL

I love this post.  Well said.

 

Mar 04, 2021 01:51 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

We really need to put on our best diplomacy when taking a listing where there may be controversial art of misc within the house.

 Seller needs to be reminded that the goal is to sell the house and not make a life statement as well.

Mar 06, 2021 06:33 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Ron and Alexandra Seigel - I remember the days when I walked on eggshells and bent over backward for clients.  It is those situations that help us develop the wisdom to move forward and don't look back.  

Also... I will be singing that song in my head the rest of the day! LOL

Mar 06, 2021 11:48 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® Having had our first business teaching seminars on relationships, it became very clear how to identify people on their emotional status.  In Utah, our waitress at one the finest restaurants in Park City was so much fun, so positive about life, and her and boyfriend's desire to buy land and build a home (she has an architect degree).  She is moving in the vicinity of one of the members here on AR, and I referred them to her...I like referring happy people to other happy people.

As to the song, it was written for kids, and it is good for adults too..Happy Saturday to you.  A

Mar 06, 2021 11:53 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Ron and Alexandra Seigel how the heck did I miss this Carol Williams thank you for featuring this 

Mar 06, 2021 01:26 PM
Gwen Fowler-864-638-3599 SC Mountains Lakes Homes
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Salem, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

If something in a home could be seen as offensive  I do think there is a point where it needs to be addressed before the listing is photographed. Religion and Politics aside certain items; such as certain flags and symbols really should be stored away when trying to sell ones home/property.

Mar 09, 2021 06:53 AM

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