Aspire to Grind It Out occasionally vs. Living in The Grind.
There seem to be a fascination almost a "hero worship" in America regarding working long hours and then bragging about your grind - as if that makes them more successful or committed than the "work/life balanced" people.
The "hypnotized" believe that there's some sort of badge of honor; when in fact there's more likely strained relationships at home and neglected sleep / health. Yes, you must hustle and work hard when you first start a job or open a business, but at some point you need to set boundaries and live your life along with having this career or owning your business and recharge your batteries to remain healthy in mind and body and competitive at work.
Now, before you come at me with stories of having to work 2 jobs just to support yourself, etc., know this: from 1982 - 2018, I worked two steady jobs and occasionally three when I picked up some temp work. I've never had only one job or business since I was a paperboy at at 11. For the last 41 years, I've had multiple simultaneous careers and or jobs.
But, I have a healthy marriage and home life, good relationships with my friends and I'm usually home for dinner ever night between 6PM-7PM. I have not worked a Sunday as a REALTOR* in about 13 years officially, closer to 15 years but admittedly I snuck-in some gigs in on a few Sundays as a DJ back then. Yep, for 30 years I was a Night Club & Mobile DJ and that 30 years overlapped the first 17 years of my real estate career.
Days off: pick your day or pick a couple half days, there's no ture right or wrong, but stick to it and use the time to decompress and recharge. Yes, you'll miss out on some work opportunities occasionally. There's a cost to the good life. But, you'll catch up with many, many life-opportunities and that will be a greater opportunity.
I know what it's like to work long hours, to have no days off and to come home sweaty, dirty, cut, bruised and exhausted. But, I aspired to leave that behind as soon as possible.
Too long in The Grind created burn out and sadness for me. My early work life from my late 20's through my mid 30's took my first marriage, ruined my health and alienated my friends. They used to say "you can't have a conversation unless it involves work." and would get sick of talking to me.
This is why I share this concept with you. Work hard yes, but work smart as you work hard. Working smart means you have boundaries so you can take care of your health, properly rest & recharge, spend quality time with your family and hobbies, enjoy friends socially and be more involved in your community and faith.
Grind It Out occasionally but do not reside in The Grind
I don't live in a bubble; yes there may me days still or even weeks here and there at work due to a special client or project, where you must grind it out to get it done - but let them be the exception not the rule. The Grind is not always by choice, I get it. But, this advice is for when it is a choice and you choose to fool yourself into thinking it's necessary when what really is needed is down time. Your cell phone needs to recharge it's batteries or it ...dies. Imagine if your pilot thought about stopping to re-fuel the way you feel about rest & recharging i.e. a day off or closing by a certain time each night?
My last share on this topic is this:
"When you are at work, work like a dog.
When you are at play, play like a puppy". ~ Unknown
Which means FOCUS! I truly think people work longer hours because they screw around at work and extend their days. They are letting calls, emails, pop-ups, social media and office time bandits sneak into their hours and rob them of their focus.
You can go home guilt-free at a reasonable hour if you put in the work when you're at work and get it done. And then, for goodness-sakes, when you're off, be off. No work calls, texts or emails, no work distractions from your family-focus, your fun-focus and your "finally I get 6-8 hours of sleep"-focus.
You'll never wished you worked more hours when you lay dying, but you may regret the time you didn't spend on your life, with your family and endulging your passions. One life my friend, don't blow it.