Recently, I was in a LinkedIn class by Zoom. There were dozens of attendees in the meeting from all around the region. In the class, the instructor covered a simple favor that we should all ask each other. It was covered in the class and the instructor said that we should all perform this favor for each other.
So, I contacted as many of the attendees as I could. I asked to exchange the favor just as the instructor requested. There were some that exchanged the favor with me just as asked. There were some that ignored the message that I had sent to them. There were some that did a part of the favor, but not the entire favor. And there were some that replied they had completed the favor – but when you check, you can see they did absolutely none of it.
I recalled what a mentor told me – everything counts. My mentor would take business partners out golfing. And he would watch them. You see, golf is a sport where the player is their own referee. The player is the one that penalizes themselves. So, my mentor would watch and those that cheated: moved their ball, counted only some of their strokes, etc., my mentor would know that is a person that could not be trusted. And he would not do business with them. Why? Because everything counts. A lack of character in one area will expose a lack of character that will show in other areas.
So, backed to LinkedIn. Now that I have seen (and kept record of) those that did not keep their word, I will remember. Some of those folks I may have been able to connect them with people I know for their benefit. But now I will not. Some of those people I could have sent referrals to. But now I will not. Why? Because everything counts. A lack of character in one area can easily bleed into a lack of character in another. I don’t ever want to connect folks with someone that shows a lack of character.