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Have You Seen A Pink Elephant In The Room?

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Theodore RooseveltOne of my favorite U.S. Presidents after Abraham Lincoln has to be Theodore Roosevelt. Although late 19th and early 20th century was his time in the sun, he could teach us a thing or two today.

How about getting through a negotiation? How about getting to the point and clearing through the clutter?

There is a term in communication where everyone talks around a problem. You can see it in real estate where parties to a transaction don't really find out what the other wants. In life, people can dance around marital problems, talking about finances with elderly parents, the birds and the bees talks with young children (although with that last one they might be teaching you these days).

In communication they call it the elephant in the room, but for the sake of this post it will be

                                        HAVE YOU SEEN A PINK ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM?

Pink Elephant

You see pink elephants jokingly when we've had too much to drink. But seriously in many families with an alcoholic or addiction or abuse problems, no one talks about the elephant. It is a silence that needs to be broken, though not easily without assistance from others.

That's where old T.R. comes along. He had a policy in negotiating with other countries to "speak softly but carry a big stick." Meaning you can change things with strength. No one said change was easy. Harnessing resources to open communication, to change situations takes courage and help from others. Find the big sticks in your life to conquer those elephants, pink or otherwise that may reside in your living room.

Festus

 

Or else, things just might Festus (fester) on you.

BTW, Teddy Roosevelt may have been a man of action and strength but the world of his day loved him still. Where do you think we got the Teddy Bear and the national parks from?

Same guy that road his horse up San Juan Hill in the Spanish American war. Quite a character, that Teddy.

 

Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

Gary, when I think of Teddy Roosevelt, I think of Uncle Teddy in Arsenic and Old Lace!  Charge!!!

Italian people speak loudly and carry a big stick too, but I get your meaning.

I have always been honest with my children about my father's alcoholism.  Not because they ever met my dad, he died before they were born, but because it is something that they may inherit if they are not careful.

Great post.   Charge! 

Jun 24, 2008 02:14 PM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

Gary - I live in Teddyland. This was his birthplace (one town over in Hyde Park) and his boyhood home where he also lived his adult life is open to the public - right next to the presidential library (and down the road from the old Vanderbuilt mansion - also open to the public as part of the national park service & donated through TR's encourgement) . He was an amazing man! Nobody will ever be able to duplicate all that he did!  

Jun 24, 2008 03:04 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Susan: I am proud you are honest in your family about the alcoholism background even if you are loud with your big sticks. Alcoholism can have genetic markers and it is something to watch out for. Here is the picture Active Rain did not send through for you. We all need to not let big old elephants be around in our lives. Glad that part of your life is behind you.

Arsenic

 

 

 

Carol: When I was eight years old or maybe seven when I used to live near where you are now I visited that Theodore Roosevelt's house. I would love to go back and see it again some day. He was amazing and had a great American story.

Jun 24, 2008 03:11 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

When I was a kid in school, I didn't have much interest in history.  But in recent years, I increasingly find myself watching documentaries on the Founding Fathers, The American Revolution, etc. 

I continue to be amazed the forefathers came so close to not getting it together to form this great nation.  Yet, always there would appear some divine intervention that would show itself at the proper time.

In spite of the human flaws so many of those great men exhibited - they accomplished so very much!

I must admit however - my favorite president was John Kennedy!

Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest GMAC
http://www.myrljeffcoat.com

 

 

Jun 24, 2008 03:21 PM
Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

Myrl, I have often wondered how the world would have turned out if the John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King and Robert Kenjnedy had lived.  I can't help but thing it would have been pretty wonderful.  Or is that being a dreamer?

Jun 24, 2008 03:26 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Myrl: John F. Kennedy was a visionary. He had his personal demons for sure, but he was one of great ideas.

Susan: I think John Kennedy might have been elected to a second term, Martin Luther King might have made progress with civil rights faster if he had been around, and I remember 1968 real well and think Robert F. Kennedy would have got the nomination and probably beat Nixon. Robert F. Kennedy was supposedly the "best" of the Kennedy boys. He had made such an excellent Attorney General.

Jun 24, 2008 03:32 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Susan and Gary - When I think of the assasination of Robert F. Kennedy, I see it as a robbery of a great destiny for this nation.  We can only ponder what we lost as a country, by not having him as a president.

He had campaigned in Sacramento, the week before he was killed.  I remember going to see him speak at a local mall.  The charisma he emitted was absolutely electrifying.

Myrl Jeffcoat
http://www.myrljeffcoat.com

 

 

Jun 24, 2008 04:00 PM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

Gary - If you've been there I believe it's made a lasting impression. I was never even a history nut until I went there. I love history now (maybe because I am older now and can appreciate it). I especially love TR history! I am 15 minutes from the site!  

Jun 24, 2008 04:03 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Myrl: Wow, you had a brush with fame. Probably the Vietnam war might have ended sooner with RFK at the helm. Hard to tell.

Carol: I think that Teddy Roosevelt home did make an impression on me, because I remember it. You are very close to it.

Jun 24, 2008 04:12 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Gary, Roosevelt has always fascinated me because he was this physical weakling, totally ADHD, and thumbed his nose at everyone who tried to slow him down.  I really want to see his home on Long Island with all of the animal heads he collected in the Badlands - another place I really want to visit after reading the TR biographies.

And another great post!

Jun 24, 2008 05:03 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Pat: You'll have to link up with Carol Culkin up there as it is in her backyard. He was the big hunter too. I forgot about that.

Jun 24, 2008 05:16 PM
Pam Pugmire
Silvercreek Realty Group - Meridian, ID
Meridian Idaho Real Estate

I have always thought of Theodore Rosevelt as the predecessor to John Wayne.  Both are definitely manly men! 

Jun 24, 2008 06:17 PM
Jesse Clifton
Jesse Clifton & Associates - Fairbanks, AK

TR was definitely a great President...  I'm on the other side of the fence but I would like to think RFK would have been a powerful force for positive change in the country. 

Jun 24, 2008 06:20 PM
* Rate A Home
Rate A Home - Saugatuck, MI

Gary, nice ThemThem to Teddy. I have a friend who deals with alcoholism, of course he doesn't think so, tough to get them to change until they want to themselves, but I continue to try.

Jun 25, 2008 12:42 AM
Patricia Beck
RE/MAX Properties, Inc., ABR, GRI, SRES - Colorado Springs, CO
Colorado Springs Realty

Open communication is key in dealing with those pink elephants in the room! 

Jun 25, 2008 01:44 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Pam: Definitely a manly man not one of those girley men : )

Jesse: RFK looked like he could have been a good leader at the top spot.

Duane: You are right about change. That's like the first step in the AA 12 steps. They have to want to change themselves. No one can do that step for them.

Patricia: You are absolutely correct. Be clear, and open gets rid of the elephant.

Jun 25, 2008 01:57 AM
J Perrin Cornell
Coldwell Banker Cascade Real Estate - Wenatchee, WA
Broker, ABR, VAMRES

Gary... I think that in todays environment negotiating is even more important. Unfortunately I see way too many newer agent that don't know how or believe the a 20K reduction on a listing price of say 300 is way too much and are afraid to ask or get it... it is after all negotiation... but it must be learned.

Jun 25, 2008 03:11 AM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

Gary - After reading more and more of your posts and comments, I'm starting to think you'd be one heck of a candidate for President as well.

Jun 25, 2008 03:16 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Perrin: Good negotiatiors practice it and take risks. You have to ASK to receive and be fearless.

Jason: I don't know about President. That's a tough job for anyone and what a grinder for a campaign nowadays to go through. Too bad it seems ordinary folk don't even consider President as it is such a brutal gauntlet you have to go through, not to mention all the raising of the money, to get there.

Jun 25, 2008 04:55 AM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

You'd have a nice platform here as a start, Gary:-)

Jun 26, 2008 05:56 AM