Do Not Settle So You Can Settle On The Right One

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

 

 

Many years ago, my friends told me I was too picky with the guys I went out with. Ten minutes on a date for me was enough to know whether I was the least bit interested in pursuing a relationship. Many times I would try to “fix” my date up with someone I thought suitable. I met wonderful people and matched others up. Everyone I went out with looked perfect on “paper,” but they were not the “right” ones.

 

 That was until I met my Lee Rome.

On paper, he was not perfect. He was older, divorced, had a son, and vowed he would never marry again.

Most girls would have passed. But that did not stop me. He was exciting, intriguing, and knocked my sox off! Please take a look at my

“best close ever.''

 

So thankful that I did not settle! 

 

This quote is by Steve Jobs

 

steve jobs Do not settle

 

 

And what about Real Estate

We can relate this same story to buying a house. My husband was not interested in “owing” anyone or being tied to a mortgage. We discussed a budget, and he dared me to find a home in a  price range that he would consider. For years I looked with and without the benefit of an agent. I took him to see only a few. Each time he found something to object to.

And then I found a For Sale By Owner a few doors from our dear friends. When I went to look, I was in love with the house, and he could find nothing to object to. That was forty-five years ago. And I have no plans of moving.

Why?

Because I did not settle!

 

Note: 

This post was inspired by Hannah Williams, who wrote, " Buying a home is a marriage in your future. You do not get married to someone because you are settling; you wait for the right person - It is the same as a house. It is a home and waiting for you - You will know you will get that loving feeling.'' 

And another comment from Kathy Streib  "You're investing a lot of money just to settle." 

 

Thinking about finding your right home

Call Margaret Rome

 

Margaret Rome

 

 

Comments (19)

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Margaret how in the world did I miss the story of you and Lee.  Love it!  You two were a match made in heaven!  Thanks again for sharing!!

Apr 17, 2021 09:07 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker  And I am so late responding to your comment. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

May 01, 2021 04:43 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Two very special posts that speak to staying the course until the right fit presents itself

Apr 18, 2021 04:39 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Thanks, Ed Silva for taking the time to stop by.


Important to stay the course until the right fit presents itself!

May 01, 2021 04:44 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Margaret - I went back and read your wonderful story.  True of houses too.  That is why people are emotionally tied to their houses.

Apr 18, 2021 04:39 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Grant Schneider


Another good comment. "That is why people are emotionally tied to their houses"

May 01, 2021 04:46 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I love this post. People who are looking for "the one," whether that's a significant other or a home, should pursue the right one and forsake all others!

Apr 18, 2021 05:15 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Kat Palmiotti, And you know this is how I feel!

May 01, 2021 04:47 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Margaret - nicely told.  

Apr 18, 2021 05:24 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Thank you, Michael Jacobs 

May 01, 2021 04:47 PM
Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

You were certainly wise not to settle!  I advise buyers not to settle, if there is something they don't like about the home now, it will certainly drive them crazy a year from now, haha.

Apr 18, 2021 05:49 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Brian England, I knew from the beginning... I could not settle!


 

May 01, 2021 04:49 PM
Bill Salvatore - YVP Blog
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - Valley of the Sun / golfArizona@cox.net

Margaret,

Patience is right.  So tough in this agreesive market. Have a wonderful Sunday, and enjoy.  Thanks for the post.  Bill Salvatore 

Apr 18, 2021 05:53 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Good to see you, Bill

May 01, 2021 04:51 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Margaret. Yep, you know what you know when you know it. Prior to that you are just window shopping. Enjoy your day.

Apr 18, 2021 06:08 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Wayne Martin Hmm, I like this:


"Prior to that you are just window shopping." 

May 01, 2021 04:53 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Margaret,

What a lovely story, and the quote by Steve Jobs is perfect.  We refuse to settle on any count.  Regardless of what others say, do, or what the trends are we don't get caught up in them...A

Apr 18, 2021 07:01 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Ron and Alexandra Seigel 


Thank you so much! Steve Jobs's quote is perfect.

May 01, 2021 04:54 PM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

Agree with you 100% - and how wonderful to marry the man who knocked your sox off. :)  Good advice for houses too, as you mention. I see a lot of people "settling" right now and spending far more than they should have to - there are likely a few regrets that will be popping back up on the market one day soon. 

Apr 18, 2021 07:32 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD  It was magical to marry the man that knocked my sox off !!

May 01, 2021 04:56 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Margaret,
Your story has so many parallels to Max and me. I was told more than once that I would never marry because I was too picky.  Like you and Lee, there were a lot of reasons we shouldn't be together but we found 1 reason to be together... LOVE.  It reminds me of that song:
Million Reasons, which includes these Lyrics:

I've got a hundred million reasons to walk away
But, baby, I just need one good one, good one
Tell me that you'll be the good one, good one
Baby, I just need one good one to sta
Apr 18, 2021 11:05 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Carol Williams Late getting to your wonderful comment! So glad you had your Max! Just listened to the song Million Reasons...love it! Thanks for sharing.

May 01, 2021 05:07 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

That's wise advice, Margaret.  Years ago, I remember pushing to get an offer accepted on a house that wasn't quite what we wanted, but was afraid the best we could do.  It wasn't to be.  Nothing seemed to satisfy that seller.  So, we continued looking for an additional several days, and voila, the perfect home came on the market, at a lower price and a delightful seller.

Apr 18, 2021 11:30 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Myrl Jeffcoat, I love reading your comment and knowing you found the perfect home!

May 01, 2021 05:08 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Margaret, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Apr 18, 2021 11:31 AM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Margaret.

What a great story.  I agree, never settle for anything, until the right one comes along

Apr 18, 2021 01:41 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

James Dray,  yep so true!


"never settle for anything, until the right one comes along..."

May 01, 2021 05:09 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Margaret those who just settle usually regret what they settled for.

Apr 18, 2021 03:09 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

George Souto And we have all seen those who have settled...it's sad!

May 01, 2021 05:10 PM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Of course, not settling should not be confused with setting unreasonable expectations.  I see a lot of buyers making the latter mistake.  

I have seen buyers start to settle when I KNOW the home they want IS out there.  I always tell them when I think they are doing that.

Apr 18, 2021 04:33 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Chris Ann Cleland, They need to have enough confidence and trust in us to take our well-meaning advice.

May 01, 2021 05:12 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Margaret- Years ago when so many of my friends were getting married or already married, my mother wished out loud that I would get married. when I reminded her how many of them were already divorced, her reply was...Well at least they got married!

I am so grateful that I never settled because I got hit the Jackpot by waiting. 

Apr 18, 2021 05:44 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Kathy Streib So glad you never settled! In this case, Mother was not right!


Congratulations on waiting for the Jackpot!!! 

May 01, 2021 05:14 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Good evening Margaret! Great advice from a wise man indeed

Apr 18, 2021 10:01 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Rocky Dickerson That was great advice from a wise man!

May 01, 2021 05:15 PM