Kindness - Is it a Lost Art?

Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX PALM REALTY 3247553


Everyone knows that todays market is a crazy one.  We have potential buyers lined up outside open houses and going waaaaaay beyond normal terms in their offers, we have listing agents getting to put together information on tons of multiple offers per listing, we have buyers agents  with customers putting in offers over and over and not coming out the "winner".  Yes, tempers are running short, we have frustration running rampant all day long from all parties.                                                                                     

   Be Kind                                                                                    

In all of this madness and chaos there is really one thing you can control and that is how you treat each other.   Real estate agents on both sides of a transaction are working towards the same goal - to get the house sold with terms that both seller and buyer can agree on.  It takes a lot to accomplish this goal.  

Realizing that some kindness goes a long way.  Calling/texting a listing agent over and over again when they don't pick up the phone on the first call - leave a message.  Let the buyers agents know in a timely manner that their buyers' offer was not chosen and that you'll let them know if anything changes.  It's just little things that can go a long way towards making the market we find ourselves in work a little better and run a little smoother.

If all else fails, remember you WILL have to work with these agents again at some point in the future and unkind treatment tends to stick in a persons' memory for a long time.


"They may forget what you said — but they will never forget how you made them feel."--- CARL W. BUEHNER


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Vickie Teel
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Comments (15)

Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Yes, yes, yes. This is so true. Being kind costs nothing but can pay huge rewards. And the ripples we make by being kind can grow and grow. 

Apr 25, 2021 08:11 AM
Vickie Teel
RE/MAX PALM REALTY - Port Charlotte, FL
Sharing Florida sunshine one homeowner at a time!

Yes Kat - you are so right.  It really does grow.

Apr 25, 2021 08:15 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


Kindness is not a lost art, no in our environment both personal and  commercial.  Happy Sunday. A

Apr 25, 2021 09:03 AM
John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service

Hello Vickie, generally kindness is not a loss art, but some people take advantage for being kind to them.

Apr 25, 2021 10:06 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Vickie, I do believe kindness, courtesy, respect all have gone out the windows with some, and just plain sad! 

Apr 25, 2021 02:33 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Good evening Vickie! I look to find and to shopw kindness in each day. Hopefully it makes a difference

Apr 26, 2021 07:15 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Vickie. You are so right, kindness is remembered well. Enjoy your day 

May 01, 2021 02:54 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Vickie - kindness is always the right way to handle things.  What goes around comes around.

May 01, 2021 04:09 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Vickie - real estate markets change but there is no reason to think kindness is lost.  Evidence of it continue to provide hope, good feeling and generally a positive approach to life.  Thanks to Carol Williams for spotlighting this post in her SCS Second Chance Saturday post today.  

May 01, 2021 06:45 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Vickie,

Glad to see your post featured in Carol's Second Chance Saturday Series. Kindness does go a long way and I personally enjoy acting with kindness towards everyone and find it is recpriocated.

May 01, 2021 07:30 AM
Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
Carolina Life RealEstate & Relocation 919-602-8489

Vickie, Yes, kindness goes a long way. May I also mention patience and trying to understand the perspective of the other party vs. just assuming. I see a lot of assuming out there. And you know what they say about that.

May 02, 2021 05:21 AM
Matt Brady
Finance Of America - Del Mar, CA
One of San Diego's Best Lenders

I absolutely agree with you. I suppose 20 years of lending gives me a better perspective, but I do not understand the vitriol and lack of professionalism that some Realtors exhibit. Being rude does not make a transaction go faster. But, I will not have to work with certain people in the future, which makes your point.

May 02, 2021 06:35 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376


I agree it is important to be kind and call each agent and let them know their offer was not accepted. In a market like this, I have no idea why an agent would have an Open House and have a spectacle of buyers outside the sellers' house some without agents who may not even be qualified when there are plenty of qualified buyers waiting to see this house with their agents. Is this kind?

Glad Carol Featured this as I missed this post 

May 02, 2021 08:31 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Vickie:

It IS a challenging market for all, and a bit of kindness to all involved, whatever the role, can make a huge difference. It's not hard to do!


May 02, 2021 08:11 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Vickie, I agree, especially with a CRAZY market, you should show kindness, other agents will remember that, not short tempers.

Dec 15, 2021 03:30 PM