Backspace...Delete...Move On

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Backspace...Delete...Move On

 

No, it’s not what you think...it’s not about what others might say. 

 

The other day while commenting, my little fingers were just whizzing away. It wasn’t anything that was negative or derogatory...not at all. 

 

But I stopped and asked myself...Is all this really necessary?  I’d already made a comment that showed I’d actually read the post. 

 

And more to the point, what I was writing was extraneous or perhaps just added fluff to my comment. 

 

And so, I reread my comment and decided to backspace and delete the extra words. 

 

 

I asked myself if what I added would matter to the author or add anything to the conversation other than the one going on in my head. (one of many)  I asked myself if what I added would be of interest to others reading my comment (assuming that anyone would read it) 



The point is, when you are tempted to say something, ask yourself if it’s to add to the conversation or to add to your ego. 

 

There are times when less is more than enough. 

 

Brevity is the soul of wit. William Shakespeare



Comments (25)

Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

The backspace and delete buttons get used quite often on my keyboard, haha.  I usually try to keep my comments short and sweet, with an emphasis on sweet.

Apr 27, 2021 05:14 AM
Kathy Streib

Brian- I do too but sometimes it's like in the real world...you have more to say. 

Apr 27, 2021 12:50 PM
Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

But why use discretion when there's a chance to hijack a Featured post?? <evil grin>

Apr 27, 2021 05:40 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

That kind of hijacking, not so bad.  The more recent kind, better to let some sleeping dogs take their naps.

Apr 27, 2021 02:28 PM
Kathy Streib

Bill- do you remember the hijacked posts we used to have?  Lots of fun. 

Apr 27, 2021 12:52 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

I back space and delete a lot but most of that is because we don't have a working spell check. And I tend to cut to the chase and not add a lot of fluff

Apr 27, 2021 06:04 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Ed- if it weren't for Grammarly no one could read what I type. 

Apr 27, 2021 12:53 PM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Kathy, sometimes, less is more. When I click on a post, I do scroll down and read some of the comments, sometimes, all of them. Great advice!

Apr 27, 2021 06:05 AM
Kathy Streib

hi Beth- so do I unless I'm really short on time. And thank you for the Feature on our favorite Group. 

Apr 27, 2021 12:53 PM
Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Hi Kathy,

Yes, sometimes less is enough. It's like when a lawyer instructs you to only answer the question asked and nothing more.

Apr 27, 2021 06:52 AM
Kathy Streib

Ah yes, Doug!!!  That runny mouth could get you into trouble. 

Apr 27, 2021 12:55 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Good morning Kathy! Love your post and look forward to seeing you on the call

Apr 27, 2021 07:07 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Rocky- wasn't it a good Zoom meeting today. Loved it. 

Apr 27, 2021 12:55 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Been there and done that all too often. "Edit" should be my middle name. LOL

Apr 27, 2021 07:07 AM
Kathy Streib

Sharon-it's the trait of a stager...we edit. 

Apr 27, 2021 12:56 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Kathy,

I have noticed that about my comments at times, and like you I have deleted many sentences.  Wishing you a wonderful day..A

Apr 27, 2021 07:56 AM
Kathy Streib

Alexandra- I think we all want to have that back and forth conversation like in real life but it's not always possible here. 

Apr 27, 2021 01:04 PM
Karen Climer
Demetree School of Real Estate - Orlando, FL
Teaching people to pass the real estate exam

So true.  The more you say, the less you are listened to.

Apr 27, 2021 08:46 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Karen- that's an interesting point. 

Apr 27, 2021 01:04 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

I think for me it depends on what the post is about.  

Apr 27, 2021 10:08 AM
Kathy Streib

Very true, Sharon.   

Apr 27, 2021 01:05 PM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

Interesting. I think the real estate business is one which is full of ego (with lots of type A personality to boot). Sometimes stroking the ego of our fellow agents can make us a few extra $$$$

Apr 27, 2021 11:14 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Jeffrey-that is also a good and valid point!

Apr 27, 2021 01:06 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Love it Kathy. I just left a rather lengthy comment on a post regarding winning bids in today's market. I felt it was important to point out a few more ideas to help out agents.  Rarely do I leave a novel-length comment!!

Apr 27, 2021 04:00 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy when I read the title I thought it was referring to my typing which is 2 letters forward, and 1 back ...... LOL

Apr 27, 2021 04:10 PM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, EXP - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Hi Kathy,  Thanks for the reminder - I find myself getting long winded at times.

Apr 27, 2021 07:59 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Kathy.

I'm with you, sometimes when I see a post I just pass it over.  No need to say anything

Apr 28, 2021 02:04 AM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

Wise words of advice! I have had to learn this skill in AR and on social media too  Kathy. I answer 60% less questions in our AR Q&A the last 2 years because I can't seem to answer many of them without decapitating the poster with my retort.

Best to remain silent and kind. 

Apr 28, 2021 07:32 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

I've found myself doing the same thing so many times.  Less is always more.  If you give too long a comment, maybe it should be a post.

Apr 28, 2021 02:42 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

I backspace and delete more often than I care to admit, Kathy.  And, I think that's a good thing!😉

Apr 28, 2021 07:04 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Kathy, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Apr 28, 2021 07:04 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV, MD
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Oh, I've been there more than once. Sadly, I didn't always backspace or delete. There is great value in an unexpressed thought. 

May 12, 2021 04:34 PM