Have You Turned Down A Seller?

Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291


When asked: Have you ever turned down, released, fired, or chosen not to work with someone. My answer was, of course.

It reminded me of a seller who trusted no one.


In the middle of a difficult divorce, a seller wanted me to represent her. I was the buyer's agent when she bought, and she wanted that exact kind of representation.  She was 100%  sure she wanted to sell, and 100% she wanted to use me.

But when it came time to answer  a few essential questions: 

How much do you owe?

Do you have a divorce decree?

Are you current on your payments?

Who could legally sign?


Evasive is the best description for her response.

She was not willing to share the information. 


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Questioning why she would not give me the pertinent answers, her response:

" You sell this house for the most you can. That’s all you need to know."   Her reason for not sharing this information?  She could not and would not trust anyone!  Since my real estate is built on trust...

 That was one I turned down many years ago. 


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Comments (14)

Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I really came into my own by knowing what I don't want and I do want in that way

May 26, 2021 09:05 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Good to see you Laura Cerrano,  So important to know what you want and what you don't want!

May 27, 2021 10:59 PM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

Your questions were very pertinent and easy to answer if the Seller was truthful Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 and an excellent observation on your part.

May 27, 2021 12:03 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Easy to answer, but important questions, Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI 

May 27, 2021 11:02 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Margaret.

Yes ma'm, I have fired two, one  seller and one a buyer.  

May 27, 2021 03:15 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Margaret - some times there are red flags.  And at times those flags are waving furiously.  There are warning signs.  Be aware.  Stay aware.  

May 27, 2021 04:57 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Margaret... I won't say I've turned down tons of listing opportunities, but I have done my share. The handful of times when I didn't trust my instincts and took on a listing I wasn't sure about, I regretted it and ended up having to fire the sellers.

May 27, 2021 05:03 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Margaret
Trust is an essential part of any relationship, whether it be business or personal. 

May 27, 2021 05:26 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Good morning Margaret! Yes, there are some folks that won't trust and I usually find they are not trustworthy

May 27, 2021 07:04 AM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

Absolutely. We have refused to work with sellers and buyers who we didn't think were a good fit. Like you, we expect realisic expectations, transparency, and authenticity. Without those, a transaction can go south in a hurry. 

May 27, 2021 08:30 AM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
Good Company Real Estate - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Asking the right questions, and establishing a trusting and honest relationship up front is the only way to work. I have had to separate myself from unscrupulous individuals on a few occasions.

May 27, 2021 10:02 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Margaret that was a wise decision.  I pity the person who finally ended up representing her.

May 27, 2021 04:09 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

People going through a divorce have little trust but that doesn't help when trying to sell a home.  Very wise decision to just walk away

May 27, 2021 07:31 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

I probably have turned down fewer than average agents have these past 40 years.  However, the account you give with this particular seller would be one I wouldn't wish to represent.  If a client hides things we question of them, then what else are they hiding?  They can quickly entangle you into their dark web, and we simply don't need that.

May 27, 2021 07:55 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Margaret, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

May 27, 2021 07:55 PM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Reminds me of a floor duty call the first year I was licensed.  Guy called and asked if his wife had to sign for him to list their home.  I asked if she was on the deed.  He asked why it mattered.  I got the address, told him she was on the deed and she did have to sign.  He sounded panicked.   Obviously, I didn't waste my time on him.

May 29, 2021 01:32 PM