Motivational Monday...Seek To Be Enlightened

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Home Stager with Room Service Home Staging

Motivational Monday...Seek To Be Enlightened


There was a time many moons ago when a friend and I were not seeing eye to eye about a subject. It wasn’t about anything life-threatening or earth-shattering, nor was it about the two taboo subjects...religion and politics.

 She would not stop talking or debating (I’m being kind) long enough for me to say a word. At one point I wondered if she was talking to hear herself talk or just couldn’t stop...like those wind-up dolls. 

 

The only reason I was in this conversation was to interact with her and maybe even to learn something. 

 

For her it was a contest to win...win no matter what. And therein lies the problem. 

 

We will never agree with everyone about everything. And that’s a good thing. We can use our differences of opinion as an opportunity to enlighten ourselves...to learn something...to grow...to solve a problem. 

 

We also learn about the other person...how they view things, what motivates them. 



Take your ego out of the disagreement. Listen and see what you might learn. And do not view it as a win or lose situation. 

 





The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress.

Joseph Joubert

 

Comments (34)

Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Good morning Kathy! Love that point - take your ego out of the disagreement

Jun 28, 2021 07:56 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Kathy - this information is perfect timing.  I am dealing with this now with an organization.  For me,  I see to get people to seek consensus not know out the others.

Jun 28, 2021 10:54 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Nina Hollander, Broker I saw her argue with her father about the color of the printer in his office. 

Wayne Martin we can choose to learn or put up a wall. It's our choice. 

Michael Jacobs oh yes...let that mind of yours wander!!!

Jun 28, 2021 12:14 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker

Kathy Streib can you see my eyes rolling all the way in Charlotte, Kathy?

Jun 28, 2021 12:42 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Brian England I couldn't agree more and that makes us a winner. 

Kat Palmiotti so true. I worked for an entrepreneur and something I admired so much in him was that he was willing to listen and admit if another idea was better. 

Jun 28, 2021 12:27 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathy Streib - Great topic for discussion...One of the biggest things I learned about listening skills is that most people are forming their retort while the other is talking.  This means that they are not listening and not able to get a clear understanding of anything being said. 

Jun 28, 2021 12:49 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Sham Reddy CRS isn't that a great quote. 

Bill Salvatore - YVP Blog it would be an awful world if we were not allowed our own opinions or the right to voice them. 

Jun 28, 2021 01:39 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

You are so right Myrl Jeffcoat There are many people with knowledge that could fill the oceans but sadly lack the wisdom it takes to know what to do with it. 

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD I can remember when I learned a good friend and I had different political views. It's a shame when anyone allows that to color how you feel about that person. 

Jun 28, 2021 04:11 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Hi Kathy I've run into know-it alls and need to be right types on occasion over the years.  Usually the relationship didn't go anywhere as it's just too much of a struggle or rather pain in the you know what!  Listening is an art and some folks just don't get that part.

Jun 28, 2021 04:12 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Well said Jeffrey Richman and with our friends especially, it's important to remember that they are our friends and accept them!

Ron and Alexandra Seigel I love that quote as well. When we close of different points of view or ideas we're only hurting ourselves. We continue to grow when we learn. 

Jun 28, 2021 06:03 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Roy Kelley hope that you and Chef Dolores are getting out and about again. 

faye schubert that is hysterical!!!  

George Souto you are so right!  And that's too bad because they're the ones missing out. 

Jun 28, 2021 06:12 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Thank you Rocky Dickerson You often see it with those higher up in a position who cannot push that over-sized ego aside. 

Grant Schneider I know that you'll find a way. Get them to leave their egos at the door!

Jun 28, 2021 06:15 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Nina Hollander, Broker I was sitting next to her when this happened. And yes, your eyes probably rolled as mine did.

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® that is so true. And often you can tell when you're talking to them that their thoughts are elsewhere...forming their retort. Some of my favorite people I've met have been those you can tell that they're listening to every word you say. 

 

Jun 28, 2021 06:18 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker I've always said that one of the perks of getting older is that you don't have to put up with people that drag you down!

Jun 28, 2021 06:22 PM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Those kinds of people are tiring.  Unfortunately, our world encourages this behavior.  It's not conducive to anything positive.

Jun 28, 2021 07:29 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy loved your post, we have friends who have different points of view about religion, politics and the list goes on and on... we can have long wonderful conversation with them because we are friends.... then again there are others that make a decision based on our religious or political views and can not get over it... they are not real friends... they are... never mind...Endre

Jun 28, 2021 11:46 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Kathy.

One can always agree to disagree.  For those who always want to win, well that's on them.

Jun 29, 2021 12:22 AM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

My emotional closet hold skeletons from years past when I needed argue because I knew I was right.  I cringe when looking back at some of those times and my immaturity.  While embarrassed of times passed I am grateful in knowing the difference now.  Never too late.  Mark

Jun 29, 2021 04:50 PM
Elyse Berman, PA
Best Connections Realty, Inc. - Boca Raton, FL
Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824 CRS, ABR, GRI,ePR

Hi Kathy,  Wise words from a very smart lady.

Jun 30, 2021 04:02 AM
Raymond Henson, eXp Realty
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

It would be wonderful to be able to get back to respectful conversations, even with those taboo subjects.  We really need to learn that people may have good reasons for thinking differently than ourselves and that those reasons don't make us bad.

Jul 05, 2021 07:24 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

It can really be exhausting sometimes. It just isn't worth it. I will avoid confrontation at all cost. LOL

Jul 06, 2021 03:00 PM