Confidence Comes From Within

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

 

When we are young, and in our teens, it seems to be all about our looks. Am I too tall, too thin, too fair, too flat? Is my hair too curly or too straight? And a zit can paralyze at this age? 

I once wrote about Kickass shoes. Whenever I spoke, I had on my high heels. They gave me the confidence to stand in front of clients or a group. But after an ankle reconstruction, no more KA shoes. Uh oh, does that mean I can no longer speak in front of a group? Was it the shoes that gave me that confidence?

 

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I had to find that same confidence from within. I thought back to a hair and makeup for a photoshoot and filming and how I felt...great, beautiful, confident.   But there was no change in me, only in the mirror! Going to the gym, working out, sweaty, no makeup, how to bring that same feeling of confidence. Nobody cares or notices how you look. They are only interested in the way they present themselves. 

It’s funny when we are in our teens and twenties, looking back at how “perfect” we were. But the confidence was not there. 

Reach inside, remember that good feeling from the shoes or the haircut, doing a great job or whatever it was that gave you that confidence. 

That’s what I would like to teach everyone. To feel pretty, intelligent, successful, and confident without makeup, without the strict diet, the tanning salon, or whatever "prop" gives you that feeling. 

Where do you get your confidence?

 

 

Margaret Rome

 

Comments (42)

Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Chris Ann Cleland,

Love your comment about still having the plastic on the car mirror! You really get it! Thanks so much for the feature in your special group. 

Jul 17, 2021 05:14 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Jul 17, 2021 06:09 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Kathy Streib  Thank you for the feature and for all you do to make AR the place to be!

Jul 17, 2021 06:19 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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George Souto  What a great comment!

  I do think our clients want us to look professional when we meet with them, but I think they are far more interested in how we represent them.  My confidence comes from knowing I am knowledgeable about my business, and the BEST at what I do.

Jul 17, 2021 06:21 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Dorie Dillard Austin TX And this comment is true:

"I've found the best confidence builder is to be comfortable in my own skin and feel good about who I am."

Jul 17, 2021 06:24 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD

Your comment summed up confidence:

 "Why was I so terrified of all these people when I was young? They are just nice people with kids and grandkids. Just like me!" 

Jul 17, 2021 06:26 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Carol Williams  Thanks for all you do.

What a perfect comment! 

For me, "confidence" and "competence" are tied together.

Jul 17, 2021 06:28 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Grant Schneider Always good to see you and great comment.

Celebrate the small successes.  But also stay away from negative people.

Jul 17, 2021 06:30 PM
faye schubert
Branson, MO
Living the Branson Lake Life

So agree, confidence isnt your hair style, weight, height or anything else. I've noticed the MOST non-confident people are with nice external features but inside they are a MESS!

Jul 18, 2021 06:35 AM
Raymond Henson, eXp Realty
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

Confidence has always been a tough one for me.  I work at it and get better as time goes by, but it is a process.  Maybe I need some of those special shoes, sans the high heals. 😉

Jul 18, 2021 06:54 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

faye schubert  What an interesting comment.

"...MOST non-confident people are with nice external features but inside they are a MESS!"

Jul 18, 2021 07:08 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Raymond Denton Here's a pair for you

                                                                Kick Ass Shoes

Jul 18, 2021 07:13 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Since COVID struck us, I've found myself wearing FAR less make-up and feeling quite confident continuing that as my new 'norm!' As you said, it's about the confidence from within and knowing that you don't HAVE to look picture-perfect at all times is quite liberating!!

 

See you on Tuesday - with a little make-up on!! ;-) 

Jul 18, 2021 11:11 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Confidence in myself has never been a weakness for me and at times it comes across as something else all together

Jul 18, 2021 01:59 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Debe Maxwell, CRS Love your comment and looking forward to seeing you. You are beautiful with or without!!

Jul 18, 2021 05:50 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Ed Silva I would love to hear more about this comment:

"Confidence in myself has never been a weakness for me and at times it comes across as something else all together."

Care to share?

Jul 18, 2021 05:53 PM
Beth and Richard Witt
Long Island Cash Home Buyer - Center Moriches, NY
Long Island Cash Home Buyer 516-330-6940

I believe confidence comes from wisdom... 

Jul 19, 2021 09:06 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Beth and Richard Witt, I, too, think that the more wisdom, the more confidence.

Jul 23, 2021 08:20 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

My confidence comes from Whom I place my identity and that is Christ.

Jul 20, 2021 06:19 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Paula McDonald, Ph.D. And you do display wonderful confidence!

Jul 23, 2021 08:18 AM
Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
Carolina Life RealEstate & Relocation 919-602-8489

Margaret, It doesn't seem that long ago that I was that teen worried about how I looked, having the newest clothes or shoes, etc. Now, it is about being prepared. I set myself up for appointments by being prepared. I have all my data and plan what I'm going to say. People don't care about how I look (as long as I'm presentable) no more than I care about how the people I do business with looks. After all, I don't choose a doctor, dentist, hair stylist by how pretty they are. But, I do want them to feel confident in the advice they're giving me.

Jul 21, 2021 05:28 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Carla Freund, I love how you said this and your comment would make a good stand-alone blog!

Jul 23, 2021 08:17 AM
Carla Freund

Thank you @ Margaret Rome. I'll have to give that some thought. 

Jul 24, 2021 04:34 AM