NO, You Should Not Bring Your Cat To The Party

Commercial Real Estate Agent with Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker AZ BR 528507000

A LONG time back, like maybe the 70s (?) I read a magazine article called 'How To Be Unforgettable'.

One of the 'ideas' was to bring your cat to a party.








There are ways to be distinctive, and ways to get attention for the moment, but make the wrong impression in the big picture.

Here are a few ways to make the wrong name for yourself in the ActiveRain Community:

1. Challenge or threaten ARMS. Come on people. These guys work FOR FREE to keep this site afloat. In case you haven't been paying attention, there's virtually NO ONE minding the store. We see it daily in Q/A . . . 'I keep being charged', 'Where are my points', 'This doesn't work' WELL HOW DO YOU THINK THOSE THINGS GET FIXED? Patience and respect are called for.

2. CONTINUALLY trying to 'herd cats'. I love it. Baby agents or new members charge in wanting to reinvent the wheel. Sit the F down and learn something, toddlers!

3. Personal attacks or disrespect directed at members you disagree with. If you can't be trusted to behave properly, who's gonna trust you with their referrals?

YOU ARE here for BUSINESS, right?

4. Waving your arms for attention at inappropriate times. Example: copy/pasting a 'canned answer' and posting it to every question like no one on the thread can read the answers. Yes, we see you as we scroll by.

5. Choosing on someone who has earned the respect of the community. You cannot obtain 'cred' by piggybacking on someone else's. Build your own, over time, like those who came before.

6. NEVER letting ANYTHING GO. Bringing up and rehashing your 'greatest butthurt moments' involving another member or the PTB. 

I love cats. But leave yours at home.

They'll appreciate it!


(I just thought this was cool, doesn't really relate to the post. Or does it? LOL)

Comments (16)

Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Amen, Oh Wise one,  Candice.  

Seriously,  I have a friend who had a cat that always went to parties in the neighborhood they lived in,  He would smell a party.  Everyone loved him and welcomed him, they called him PC for Party Cat.  A

Aug 18, 2021 09:51 AM
Candice A. Donofrio


Aug 18, 2021 09:57 AM
Lynnea Miller
Bend Premier Real Estate - Bend, OR
Premier Real Estate Service in Central Oregon

Well said, Candice A. Donofrio .  You always have wonderful words of wisdom, expressed in your own unique style!

Aug 18, 2021 10:27 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

Thank you maam! Always appreciate you!

Aug 18, 2021 11:37 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Candice: not that there was ever a doubt.  This ain't a place for any pussy-footin' .   No offense to any felines or their human companions.

Aug 19, 2021 01:47 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

LOL right? We don't pussy foot around these parts! Hahahahah!

Aug 19, 2021 06:45 AM
Michael Jacobs


Aug 19, 2021 06:47 AM
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

You speak the truth!  I love that you back your attitude up with knowledge, such a fun personality you have! 🧠

Aug 19, 2021 05:28 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

Thank you 🧠! Hahahah! that's why we're friends - both about funnin! LOL

Aug 19, 2021 06:46 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Candice- you're the kind of girl/woman I always wanted to be when and if I ever grow up.  Just kidding...I'm older than you are but I love that you tell it like it is.  

Aug 19, 2021 10:50 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

I don't think you're older than me, ♎

But I ain't growing up anytime soon either!

Aug 19, 2021 11:30 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Aug 21, 2021 06:39 PM
Candice A. Donofrio

Thank you maam!

Aug 23, 2021 07:08 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Candy. Good thing I am allergic to cats. Don't have one so can't bring one! Enjoy your day.

Aug 22, 2021 04:28 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

Hahahah I had a client who found her dream man and he was allergic to her cats! She had to cut him loose. The guy, never the cats! LOL

Aug 23, 2021 07:08 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Candice A. Donofrio - Every once and a while I see some newer people misbehaving.  I can remember  some who are no longer on this platform whining and complaining.  Not good.

Aug 22, 2021 04:31 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

Oh yeah I remember some of the former members who flat out bullied other members and piled on their minions. They are all gone now. I would never refer to any of them!

Aug 23, 2021 07:09 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I am so glad Kathy Streib included this in her weekly post because somehow I missed it the first time. I agree with all your points! 

Aug 22, 2021 05:51 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

Thank you maam!

Aug 23, 2021 07:32 AM
Wendy Rulnick
Rulnick Realty, Inc. - Destin, FL
"It's Wendy... It's Sold!"

Candice A. Donofrio My kitties don't even come to my own parties - until the guests are ready for them!

Aug 22, 2021 06:14 AM
Candice A. Donofrio


Aug 23, 2021 07:32 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Candice A. Donofrio, you are a wise lady. Sometimes, I read some of the comments and say "what's the point?". 

Aug 22, 2021 06:37 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

I say WTF a lot! Hahaha!

Aug 23, 2021 07:33 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Candice:

Well said, as only you can say it. I like cats, BUT there is a time and a place...or maybe not.


Aug 22, 2021 11:01 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

LOL maybe not! 

Aug 23, 2021 07:33 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Candice A. Donofrio - Lots of great points!  Some of the newbies can learn something here. 

Aug 22, 2021 03:35 PM
Candice A. Donofrio

The ones who want to learn will! :D

Aug 23, 2021 07:33 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Candice A. Donofrio - This is so funny it isn't funny when butt holes open up and show their ignorance. It's as if everyone noticed the zit but won't say a word or try to stop it from growing out of control. 

Sep 12, 2021 09:08 AM
Jim Patton
Aspire Home Real Estate 209-404-0816 - Modesto, CA
Realtor - Stanislaus ,Merced, San Joaquin Counties

All good points Candice A. Donofrio,mostly common sense.  But then again that seems to be in short supply these days.

Oct 05, 2021 03:44 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate Brokered by Real - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Haha! I would never bring my kitty to the party Candice  but a parrot would be a conversation opener and very COOL!

Oct 07, 2021 02:15 PM