The Sound of a Voice

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Rulnick Realty, Inc.

The Sound of a Voice

It had been several months, at least. My long-time friend had moved to another state years ago. She used to live across the street.  We would see each other frequently, have girls-night, kicking out the husbands, and splurging on sushi. When she moved away, we still kept in touch. At first it was real birthday cards, and talks, and going over life issues. Then it became electronic. The cards were selected from a batch online, still chosen carefully. The talks became less. After a while, it was an occasional email. And, of course, the Facebook “like”.

I hadn’t actually talked to my dear friend for a very long time.  We had to text about some business, and she asked if we could talk some time. Imagine that! Asking to “talk” to a dear friend, instead of texting or emailing? Asking permission?  I knew something was wrong and told her I was available right then. 

When she called me and I heard her voice it was a rush of love. It was like coming home to our friendship. I knew every cadence of her tone, her Midwestern accent, the catches as she spoke. The nuances of her speaking. It was wonderful. I missed her.  We spoke at length about medical issues, like we always do, and gave advice. It was most important. I knew it would be ok. I told her to call me next week, when she got the results of her tests. And I meant “call”. On the phone.

Facebook  “likes” don’t cut it. They are an excuse for intimacy. A text is better. But there is nothing like a real voice, which sends out its heart vibes. Of healing. Of friendship.

 

 

Wendy Rulnick

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Comments (25)

Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Wendy- I think many of us have experienced that. When texting came about, I was annoyed with it but it was good for my friend because she could communicate while sitting at her young children's after school activities. Sometimes though, we'd stop in the middle of texting and pick up the phone because it was a lot easier to talk. 

I hope your friend's results are ok. 

Sep 16, 2021 06:07 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Kathy Streib Yeah, when texting a lot it goes to the point of ridiculum sometimes, and I sometimes forget you can just pick up the phone!

Sep 17, 2021 06:34 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Wendy Rulnick - When the foundation is built in childhood or young adulthood between two good friends they are more than casual acquaintances. They are soul sisters and deserve so much more than text or a silly like on FB. I hope you will have an opportunity to visit with her to see and talk face-to-face. It sounds like your support (whichever way you can provide) is greatly needed. I wish her good health and opportunities for the two of you to talk or meet and to always be there for each other. 

Sep 16, 2021 07:03 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP That is right!  Thank you for the wishes, as well.

Sep 17, 2021 06:33 AM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Morning Wendy.

There are several friends I haven't heard from in a long time.  I don't have their number, they are not on FB or any other media.  However, I can assure you if they call I will recognize their voice.  

Sep 17, 2021 12:25 AM
Wendy Rulnick

James Dray That is so cool! I hope you hear from one of them, soon!

Sep 17, 2021 06:32 AM
Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

In this age of text and email, being able to speak on the phone has so much more meaning.  For business purposes, I prefer text and email, but for close friends, I prefer face to face or hearing their voice on the phone.

Sep 17, 2021 06:08 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Brian England  It is definitely more meaningful to a friendship.

Sep 17, 2021 06:31 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Good evening, the voice of a friend can be like a warm blanket on a cool night

Sep 17, 2021 11:18 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Rocky Dickerson That's a lovely analogy.

Sep 18, 2021 07:22 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Wendy - the need for human interaction remains important and your post shows that benefit very nicely.  

Sep 18, 2021 06:52 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Michael Jacobs I think human interaction has been underrated in this age of technology lately.

Sep 18, 2021 07:21 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Sep 18, 2021 06:16 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Kathy Streib I am honored to be included. Thank you! Have a wonderful day!

Sep 19, 2021 09:02 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Wendy - I know what you mean.  I posted an anniversay picture that received comments.  I decided to call and now am setting up a get together.

Sep 19, 2021 04:41 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Grant Schneider In person - even better!

Sep 19, 2021 09:02 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Wendy. Sometimes I have to remind myself that the little device in my pocket has the ability to be used as a phone and talking. Land line be gone. Enjoy your day.

Sep 19, 2021 05:30 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Wayne Martin Me, too! A lot of texting, then, I forgot I could actually call!!

Sep 19, 2021 09:01 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I couldn't agree more. Speaking one-on-one is becoming something that truly is a gift because we don't do it a lot.

I'm glad you were able to talk when your friend needed you.

Sep 19, 2021 06:39 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Kat Palmiotti It is a gift! I was, thank you.

Sep 19, 2021 09:00 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Hi Wendy! What is SO crazy is I had this very conversation this weekend with a dear friend. We have so many 'electronic' friends that we spread ourselves too thin, I believe.

I also believe that when we are experiencing a difficult transaction, the written word can be interpretted in so many different ways - often snarky when not meant to be. I'd rather pick up the phone and have a 'friendly' conversation. I find that my business transactions go so much better than others in my area simply BECAUSE I will pick up the phone! I hear horror stories and often ask, "Why didn't you just phone them?" 

GREAT post and thank you for sharing this. I hope your friend is going to be okay, Wendy.

Sep 20, 2021 07:47 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Debe Maxwell, CRS You are right. Texts can be misinterpreted and their is an overreliance on them, and email. It's so rewarded to actually "speak" to another soul!  Thank you!

Sep 20, 2021 08:50 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

Such a great post. Thanks for sharing.

Sep 20, 2021 08:27 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Ginger Harper You are welcome. I am glad you like it!

Sep 20, 2021 08:49 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

There are some voices that I wish I had heard in person more often than I did.  I can't hear them any longer and will maybe get a chance some day in the future to again here them and we'll sit on clouds and talk about the ones left behind

Sep 20, 2021 12:38 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Ed Silva ❤️ Beautiful, so right.

Sep 20, 2021 03:51 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Wendy:

What a wonderful reminder for us all about using the phone for more actual conversations...I have been guilty of this from time to time.

Glad to hear you connected with your friend!

Jeff

Sep 20, 2021 05:36 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Thank you, Jeff Dowler, CRS !

Sep 20, 2021 05:37 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Bravo for such a wonderful post. The human voice carries energy and frequency that are important for all of us to hear.

Sep 20, 2021 07:18 PM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
MOOERS REALTY - Houlton, ME
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

One friend, talking one on one and no interruption, no pings from social media to distract or take away any of the connection. That is special. One real friend and keeping the connection that spans years going is to be cherished because it takes two to do it. If one writes a letter, the other just sends a post card.... better than nothing but not the same effort. Social media friends can be like press releases and FOMO happens with many who post. Instead of how are you doing it's look how well I am doing and aren't you just a tad jealous or envious filling with "fear of missing out"? That's not a true friend or the kind you want to work hard to keep.

Sep 21, 2021 03:03 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573 You've expressed it deeply.

Sep 21, 2021 05:49 AM
Dorte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Wendy,

What a sweet reminder. We get so busy sometimes, that a month passes without having talked to a real friend. It might be good to intentionally plan for a conversation with a friend once or twice a week. Good for us and good for them.

Sep 21, 2021 07:55 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Dorte Engel Yeah, I am trying to plan on that, too!!

Sep 21, 2021 10:12 AM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate and German * M.A. ABR ASP

I love your post Wendy! I'm not sure if it's a side effect of the pandemic but I am social-media-fatigued. I'm back to writing cards and calling somebody every day. Yes, a real voice is so much bigger and better and wholesome and comforting and real and ... than a virtual like. 

Sep 21, 2021 06:10 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Andrea Bedard I like your dedication seeking real human contact. Social-media-fatigue is spot on, getting worse, too.

Sep 22, 2021 08:33 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

What a great observation and a fantastic post... too many of us have been in similar situations of the fading voice communication.... now with that said the reality when you pick up the phone the connection is as strong as the last time you talked does not matter if years have passed in between, Endre

Sep 22, 2021 10:43 AM
Wendy Rulnick

Endre Barath, Jr. It's a great feeling! I talked to one of my co-workers from 25 years ago, and it all came back, it was great!

Sep 22, 2021 11:38 AM
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

So very true!  Facebook is a back up instead of having a real conversation.  Sure it has it's benefits, but there's nothing like talking on the phone.  Best of luck to your friend!

Sep 27, 2021 03:45 PM
Wendy Rulnick

Jan Green Thank you, and I will call her again tomorrow!

Sep 27, 2021 03:46 PM