WHO DIED AND LEFT HIM BOSS?

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Have you ever heard someone say, "Who died and left him in charge?"  But is certainly true in many cases that leadership is not given it it assumed.  I believe that.  Think about your own formal and informal teams.  Haven't leaders emerged for reasons such as assuming responsibility, developing trust, or just being the go to person.  I can remember when I was HR Director for a company and I would always listen to "Manny in the warehouse" to test run a new program.  I believe that you gain recognition as a leader by showing the way for others and by leading by example. Follow me, not do as I say.

You may have the management role with the authority but there is a difference between power and authority. As the owner or manager, you have the authority by virtue of your role. However, your power is granted by those on your team or those you supervise. There are always certain people who are sought out or considered “go to” people? They may have no title at all, and people seem to value their opinions and respect them. These are individuals who have been granted power by others by virtue of their leadership skills.

How much power do you do you have? Why not find out. Ask your colleagues or employees to give you some “360 feedback.” Ask them what they feel is your biggest leadership challenge and what you can do to improve it. That should develop some respect and helps you connect because you are showing you value their feedback. The first time you do this they may be reluctant. It might mean you have some work to do to get them to feel comfortable giving you the total “honest” truth.

Acting on their suggestions may not be easy.   While you can change and improve your traits, it will take real commitment, discipline, and desire to change your old habits. However, if you expect to get the team to see you as trusted leader you are going to have to succeed in making changes yourself. You will need to change your behavior and habits if you expect others to do so. A leader leads from the front.

Our habits are a function of our attitudes which are patterns of thought developed from our conditioning. Maybe during your career, for example, you had a very bad boss. What did you learn from that? It is important that you see the damage that bad boss caused. Unfortunately, some people just continue the habits that they learned from the bad boss.

Another bad habit is thinking that this is what I had to do to get to my role. Others should do the same. Break that mindset and place your eyes on your team and learn to know what motivates them.

Bad Habits

Understanding motivation and having empathy for others in helping them is just one component for getting performance from teams of employees, associates, or volunteers. Master this and you can work on the others.  For a similar blog on our website see WHO APPOINTED HIM TO TAKE CHARGE?

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Comments (31)

Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Grant, I know people that always think they are the boss and wonder how they come up with that.

 

Sep 20, 2021 10:18 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Grant I bet many managers would be afraid to take your suggestion, because they really don't want to know what their team members really think.

Sep 20, 2021 02:28 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

I would rather that my friends work for leaders that empower instead of bosses that rule.

Sep 20, 2021 07:48 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Will - they could act like it and no one follows or they can assume accountability and be seen as a leader.

George - I suggest to the ones I work with and it can really upend them.

Rocky - that is what most people want.

Sep 21, 2021 03:16 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

I like how you clear up the difference between power and authority Grant. Through my working years I have seen several who may have had the authority but shouldn't have!

Sep 21, 2021 04:47 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

YES! Finding out how others feel is so important, Grant. And, yes, I've heard that phrase before - in fact, I think I've said it myself a few times in my life! LOL

See you at 2:00!!

Sep 21, 2021 07:17 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Grant, when I worked in Corporate America I saw this scenario lots of time.   And some took the "authority" too far.

Sep 21, 2021 08:16 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Grant- it's a bit like parenting, isn't it. We often mimick how our parents raised us and do the same with out children, never stopping to consider if there might be a better way. 

Sep 21, 2021 10:36 AM
Tom Bailey
Margaret Rudd & Associates Inc. - Oak Island, NC

Grant, a lot of helpful information! I have managed a medium size business and several  sales forces in the past. The worst situation is to have responsibility without authority 

Sep 21, 2021 12:59 PM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Tuesday afternoon, Grant.

Take care, be safe and have an outstanding week.

Sep 21, 2021 02:04 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I have heard this more than once Grant Schneider. I hope you had a Happy Tuesday 🙂

Sep 21, 2021 07:13 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Larry and Sheila - yes, or in some cases that had not learned how to lead people.  That is more than likely the issue.

Debe - it comes right back to empathy and interpersonal.

Joan -  this still happens in corporate America but I try to help that.

Kathy - exactly.  If I was able to learn this way so should you.

Tom - that is no good and that is one of the management axions that responsibility must be matched with authority.

Roy - have a great week.

Paul - hope you have a great day.

Sep 22, 2021 05:39 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Grant, "boss" has a strong meaning behind, I like leader or mentor better.

Sep 23, 2021 09:29 AM
Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD
federalfinanciallawgroup.com - Vail, CO
Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

it seems more and more people aregrabbing more and more power in every industry...I refer to it as the "movie theatre usher syrndrome" where the $10/hr movie theatre empllyee can make you put your feet doen...just because they can

Sep 23, 2021 07:19 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

We have all been there with bosses that seldom had a clue.  I experienced it within a family owned company and we got long just fine when my family member boss just stayed out of my way

Sep 24, 2021 04:39 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

One way to find out if you are a successful leader is to pay attention to whether you are being followed. If you set a direction and no one goes there, there is a problem. If you set expectations and no one works to meet them, there is a problem.

Sep 24, 2021 10:48 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Grant:

I found the 360 Feedback approach very helpful in my Human Resources careers, and other managers I know who did this found so as well. Sometimes the feedback was not at all what was expected!

Jeff

Sep 24, 2021 03:16 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Grant Schneider - Great post as usual.  I have found that many who say "Who died and left him boss" are showing signs of a jealous nature when that person does not have the title.  A true leader should listen to their employees, show them respect, and have empathy for their position.  If you truly value your employees, they will see it and be very open to you and your direction. 

Sep 26, 2021 09:18 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Joan - yes, that is true.

Paddy - yes, that is interesting.

Ed - stay out of the way means no leader there.

John - yes, that is absolutely right.

Jeff - yes, I have exerienced those reactions with the  feedback.

Sheri - and the title is not necessary.  I know one organization where the head always says thank you for your leadership.

Sep 27, 2021 04:43 AM
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Great post Grant!  Having served on several boards I can relate to your post.  For some it's not a democracy but a dictatorship without the ability for volunteers to voice an opinion.  That type of atmosphere creates tension and eliminates creativity.  

Sep 27, 2021 02:45 PM