How to Use Questions to Get to Know Someone

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So many people today have a difficult time connecting with others. Often, this can be remedied through the use of simple questions.

In general, we all love talking about ourselves and our lives. When someone asks you a question, you immediately like them because they are showing an interest in you.

So, use this to your advantage!

Plus, the best thing about questions is that you can prepare a few ahead of time and "keep them in your back pocket." Here are great yes or no questions to use when you need to break the ice or find something in common with someone. The best thing about these questions is that the person doesn't have to elaborate, but they often will because they want to!

Do you like social media games?

Do you follow your brain over your heart? Or your heart over your brain?

Do you like to go to parties? Or to host them?

Are you happy living where you live?

 Do you trust people easily?

Do you recycle?

Have you ever fallen head over heels in love?

Are you a rule follower?

Have you ever bought a home?

Do you like to go shopping?

Have you ever lost a big bet?

Do you like coffee?

Have you ever forgotten an important date?

Do you eat breakfast?

Do you consider yourself a “health-minded” person?


These are just the tip of the iceberg for questions. All that really matters is that you are asking someone about their lives. 

Extra tips for conversation:

Listen Deeply

Instead of thinking of your response right away, truly listen to what the other person has to say. They will notice how engaged and interested you are.

Ask Follow Up Questions

By asking follow-up questions it tells the person you are speaking with that you are listening!

In Conclusion

All in all, people just want to feel that they are heard. That's what we want too, right? So, if you want to get to know people on a deeper level (and have them like you on a deeper level), start asking questions! Sure, they can be about real estate or your professional life, but they don't have to be. Often, people do business with you because of your related interests outside of work. You just have to find them!

Comments (3)

Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Jennifer - those basics are worth following.  Always focusing on the other person is the way to create lasting relationships.

Oct 08, 2021 09:17 AM
Trish Cole
Veterans United Home Loans of Puget Sound - Puyallup, WA

I love some of the questions.  They can directly lead into interesting conversations.  I agree with Grant that focusing on the other person is a great way to deepen and achieve lasting relationships.  And to keep them!

Oct 08, 2021 10:38 AM
John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service

Hello Jennifer Kropf thank you for sharing very good valuable questions to get to know someone.

Oct 08, 2021 02:57 PM