Motivational Monday...You Have a Choice

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Home Stager with Room Service Home Staging

Motivational Monday...You Have a Choice

Have you ever read a text or comment on a social media post or had a conversation and felt compelled to add your opposing two cents?

 

The other day my niece told me that she used every ounce in her body to refrain from responding in a text thread to someone’s comment. It was a family thread and would only cause hard feelings if she did.

I asked her if what she wanted to say would add something to the conversation or if she wanted to say it to be snarky, put them down, or show that she did not agree with their opinion.

She smiled and knew what I meant and said that was exactly why she did not say anything.  

 

 

The thing is while I do believe in a person’s right to say what they want, I also believe that with this freedom comes responsibility and showing respect for others.

 

I know you’ve seen this happen on Facebook, Twitter, Nextdoor, here, and other social media sites. There’s always someone who has to chime in. The other day on Nextdoor someone felt compelled to correct what he thought was someone’s misuse of a particular word.

In my opinion, people who do this are not trying to add anything to the conversation at all. They have no interest in furthering the discussion. What they want to do is elevate themselves by putting someone else down.

 

When what you want to say serves ONLY you...don’t say it.  (KGS)


When we’re speaking, we need our voice, our mind, but we also need our hearts. 


 

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. Lao Tzu

 

Goodness is about character - integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people. 

Dennis Prager

Comments (30)

Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Kathy,

In a post I recently read, I had the urge to say something. And time and again, I hear the Dalai Lama whispering, "be kind whenever possible, it is always possible."  And I rejoice when I find the kind words to write.  It is a win/win for both the writer and the commenter.  A

Nov 01, 2021 07:38 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

I've read some really horrible things that people feel a need to share. I've gotten into a few back and forth, waste of time, matches with people on fb. Nobody wins.

Nov 01, 2021 07:47 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I could not agree more Kathy. The only thing I can say on the subject is Lets Go Brandon.

Nov 01, 2021 08:03 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Good Morning Kathy and you know I love quotes and you have some good ones today.  Make it a great day!

 

Nov 01, 2021 09:02 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

Thank you for motivating me to be a better me. Thank you for sharing Kathy...

Nov 01, 2021 11:02 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good afternoon Kathy - I have had that happen to me.  When it did I ignored it.

Nov 01, 2021 11:37 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Sham Reddy CRS isn't that a wonderful quote, and one to live by!!

Wayne Martin oh yes, often we do not choose wisely. 

Buzz Mackintosh oh yes...I think all mothers have been programmed to say that. 

Nov 01, 2021 11:40 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Exactly Brian England all of our differences can help us learn and become stronger. 

Kat Palmiotti I'm in the same boat!!! 

Michael Jacobs there was a study a few years ago that revealed that though we think they don't hear what were saying, children actually do ...and they remember and listen. 

Nov 01, 2021 11:43 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

I'm with you Nina Hollander, Broker I often repeat what I wanted to say in my head, count to 10 and then drop it. 

Bill Salvatore - YVP Blog I'm glad that so far we can say what we want to say. 

Nov 01, 2021 11:44 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Roy Kelley hope that you and Chef Dolores have a wonderful week as well. 

Raymond Henson, eXp Realty I think it's one of those things we all have to learn. We're only human. 

Nov 01, 2021 11:45 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Ron and Alexandra Seigel And when we do practice leaving or sharing only kindness, we walk away feeling much better about ourselves. 

Sharon Tara you're so right. I've had to make myself bite my tongue on Twitter. 


Nov 01, 2021 11:49 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty I'm laughing because I had to Google that several days ago!!!!!

Thank you Will Hamm I love reading your quotes as well. 

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS I doubt very seriously if you need motivation to be a better person!!!! You motivate us. 


Nov 01, 2021 11:53 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Grant Schneider I've learned to bit my tongue a lot. 

Nov 01, 2021 11:54 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Kathy I 've heard a lot of not so great things this past few years or so and I have tuned it all out quite well.  I received a nasty text a year or so ago from somebody &  it  was so far off base  from how I think, say or do.....  I said to her, very kindly, did you really mean to say this to me - this  text must be  for someone else.  Very odd. She never  responded or apologized.  On SM I simply stay away from all the craziness. There is no point to it. My Mom said the same thing that Buzz Mackintosh Mom said!   I can hear her saying it now!!

Nov 01, 2021 03:20 PM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker love what you said to the person!!!  Social media and texting seems to give some people the feeling that they're wearing Harry Potter's Cloak of Invisibility!!!

Nov 01, 2021 04:19 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy in my opinion constructive disagreement is useful if done in a proper way.  But all to often disagreement is of no benefit to anyone.  Your niece showed wisdom.

Nov 01, 2021 04:23 PM
Aura Alex
Co-Founder, CloseMyDeal, LLC - Seattle, WA
Transaction Management Services

WORDS matter!  You have given me an idea for my next post's subject.  Stay tuned...Thank you for sharing, Kathy Streib.  Enjoy the rest of this week.

Nov 02, 2021 01:23 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy  loved reading your post and the comments... now with that said:

The thing is while I do believe in a person’s right to say what they want, I also believe that with this freedom comes responsibility and showing respect for others.

 

Keep in mind easier said than done, I battle this issue every time I write a post or a comment, Endre

Nov 02, 2021 10:37 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

The words in this post hit me where I'm at, Kathy.  I think with so much of our country divided on so many issues it is hard to remain silent at times.  I'm not always successful at it.  I tell myself that folks seem so entrenched in their own opinions that it is difficult to change them anyway.  Just a little while ago, I jumped in the car and took a ride up the road a bit, to try and cool my thoughts and find a little equalibrium.  I've learned there is a power in surrender.

And, I love that "blah, blah, blah," graphic.  I think we should send it to Greta Thunberg.  I suspect she could use it often.🙃

Nov 03, 2021 04:52 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Kathy, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Nov 03, 2021 04:52 PM