Ask An Ambassador: It's Personal

Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Alliance 513.520.5305 SAL.2002007747

There are some places where I think personal is good.

In the right circumstances, in the right amount, personal can be a very good thing for us personally, and for our business.

At the closing table I often mix the personal with business. 

While our garden has been a disaster of weeds and clutter over the last couple of years, it still offers me opportunity to take some pictures that I enjoy sharing on Facebook.  Each year I'll pull what I think are a dozen of my best/most interesting photos and use Shutterfly to make boxes of note cards to give as closing gifts.  While note cards might be a bit "old school" in today's world of emails/texts/social media posts, there's still a place for a hand written note.

There's no "cards by The Liz Spear Team of RE/MAX Alliance" or any other advertising on the cards, but I know that whenever they pull one of those cards they'll remember where the cards came from.

That's use of personal in a good way IMO.

On the other hand, there are certain aspects of my personal life I'm going to keep personal because I find there's very little positive to be gained by sharing that aspect of my life.

E.g. if I share my opinion on anything political (in this forum or any other), there are some possible and likely outcomes:

1.   You totally agree with me.

2.  You totally disagree with me and decide I'm the scum of the earth because I don't align with YOUR personal thoughts.

3.  Some stranger wants to pick a fight with me and otherwise cause trouble.

4.  I lose the opportunity for business from a consumer and/or agent referrals.

Far more negative outcomes that positive for me, and frankly I'm not looking for more marks on my permanent record :)

I'm more than willing to talk one on one on MOST topics, personal to personal so to speak.

But I'm not here in the Rain to lose friends and lose business.  Both can still happen (it has, and it will), but it's not the primary driver for why I'm here.

It's your option, you can be as personal as you want to be if you're prepared for the consequences.

Until next Tuesday, just Ask An Ambassador,

Bill & Liz aka BLiz



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Comments (18)

Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


We keep the personal out of the social life and always have.  By nature we have a private side, and I heartily agree with you.  I have been given lovely notecards with no promotion, and I enjoy them.  Happy Tuesday.  A

Nov 16, 2021 06:31 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

I've seen too many trainwrecks and just have no interest in going down the political rabbithole in public as one example.

Nov 16, 2021 08:32 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Bill - I have seen far too many examples of forked tongue syndrome in and away from social media.  It's definitely not a spoonful of sugar however it is delivered.  Talk about mixing metaphors.  Or are those just utensils used as tools of trade?  

Nov 16, 2021 06:56 AM
Michael Jacobs

HaHa - yes, that image definitely comes "alive".  Online and "off".

Nov 16, 2021 09:05 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

The old cartoon about "on the internet, no one knows you're a dog" does apply.  Is the online persona real, or a facade?

Nov 16, 2021 08:33 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Liz and Bill Spear - I swear! I checked FB and noticed some local lady from my subdivision was appalled because she was concerned about food and products off the shelf and she offered some tips thinking she could be helpful. Instead she got a lot of insane political rants, backlash, and a lot of criticism because of what she wrote. Lucky for me, I didn't read her post because the powers that be took it down. So, she decided to write it all over again. She must have posted moments before I saw it because the this was her second post (with explanation why she writing the same thing all over again) and the other one was removed. I closed the neighborhood gossip column and came here. Yours was the first one I read. Yes! I'm laughing but not at you. I am always thankful for everything you post and I have never had any reason to complain. Thank you Liz & Bill!!! Loved the photo too!!!

Nov 16, 2021 10:30 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

I love reading certain comics every day.  What I know to avoid is the comments underneath the online comic because it seems for some that even the most innocent comic with no obvious political slant turns into an excuse for another political rant.

Some people just have to learn to drop the shovel, the hole is already deep enough.

And there can be a lot going on with a dandelion, I loved the patterns of the individual seeds to be.

Nov 16, 2021 10:37 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Liz and Bill Spear - I'm with you on this topic. As the dandeloin teaches, look to the good and spread joy. I can't think of one child who hasn't had fun blowing dandeloins in the wind, playing, and enjoying life. The seeds look like a burst of stars that float when you give them a gentle blow.

What do you think the world would be like if people abided by the Constitution and there was an Amendment to free speech against political rants? 

Nov 18, 2021 03:58 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

But there's a long history of political rants, Sam Adams and company got us started :)

Nov 18, 2021 05:23 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Bill- I've seen your garden photos so I know that the note cards are welcomed and just perfect. To me it shows that you care and that's what it's all about. 

Nov 16, 2021 12:49 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Those pictures are the other side of the coin from being an engineer :)

Nov 16, 2021 07:05 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

There is a very fine line that we must tow when we posy anything anyplace as there are people enjoy nothing better than to find an excuse to tear apart and being too personal can be a bad thing

Nov 16, 2021 03:25 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Ed, Definitely a risk of those seeking to be "offended" finding a way to interpret even the most earnest of comments.   There are things I'd like to say on some threads, but I take a look at who else is commenting and know it's best not to put forth that opinion (or any not perfectly aligned with the group).

Nov 16, 2021 07:06 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

There are times when personal is not only fine, it's perfect. And other times personal should stay that way!

Enjoy your evening!

Nov 16, 2021 03:55 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

I'm accustomed to holding back a fair amount of what I think.  An output of my Navy and Corporate America days.  Some days I'd rather be employed than right.

Nov 16, 2021 07:07 PM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Liz and Bill Spear  I don't know any more just feel like I really have to be me! There is a certain amount of me but that side of me is to much trouble to hide - Happy Tuesday 

Nov 16, 2021 05:22 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Different paths for different people.  Me, I just don't have much energy for the trolls out there.

Nov 16, 2021 07:08 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Bill:

I think the note cards are a great idea. I made many of my own cards with my photos (no advertising) but haven't done much with note cards as gifts...something to consider.

As far as being personal, well, there are always potential consequences from everyhing we do, good and bad. Something to keep in mind.


Nov 16, 2021 08:15 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

I think the risk often depends on the venue.  Go into a public forum on Facebook and the troll percentage is much higher than it would be here in the Rain.

Nov 17, 2021 04:57 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

It's always kind of personal when you care about what you do, right? Great post

Nov 16, 2021 10:32 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

I can still care even when I choose to keep my personal opinions close to the chest, it's just a matter of how and when I choose to put that aspect of my life out there.

Nov 17, 2021 04:58 AM
Erik Hiss
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Worthington, OH
You can trust me for all your real estate needs!

Yes there are certain things to say in this hostile environment we are in now. Take caution and don't will be good.

Nov 17, 2021 05:41 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Different opinions are going to happen, it's how we express ourselves during that difference that carries some weight with me.

Nov 17, 2021 03:33 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate Brokered by Real - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Some things should remain personal, I do agree Bliz. Some personal things also are meant to be shared. Too many out there who come out of nowhere and want to virtually put up their dukes because my thoughts or opinion is not in line with theirs! They wouldn't dare be so bold in person.

Nov 17, 2021 01:01 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

True, a lot of things that are said on Facebook, or even here, would never be said in person.

Nov 17, 2021 03:35 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

It takes a 'wise' mix of personal and too personal for sure Bill.  And I agree with your approach and ideas.   Love this photo....and the bee photo you shared to other day on FB too!

Nov 17, 2021 03:36 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

One of the perks of having the hives, the honeybees give me some opportunities for some close ups :0

Nov 17, 2021 07:47 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones


I agree totally with you..there can be a balance of personal mixed in with business but best for some topics to be avoided. It's our choice how personal to to be with clients but have to realize there can be unintended consequences 😆

Nov 17, 2021 04:16 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

You just never know what might be a client's hot button topic, and with that the consequences of being on the "wrong" side of the issue as far as they're concerned.

Nov 17, 2021 07:48 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

I love your photo and agree,  "Those pictures are the other side of the coin from being an engineer :)"

Nov 17, 2021 09:21 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

It's hard to believe the type of clarity we can get with today's cell phones :)

Nov 18, 2021 04:51 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

I love the 'mix,' too, Bill but, talking politics - I steer clear! I keep it personal on FB (mostly) because my clients know 'me' and I prefer it that way!

Nov 18, 2021 02:00 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

I think a lot of it is knowing your audience and who is likely to react and how.  There are certain friends on Facebook that I don't engage with often not because of them, but because of their friend circle.  I know if I say anything counter to their alignment, they're not going to react well.

Nov 18, 2021 05:25 PM
Gwen Fowler-864-710-4518 SC * Mountain* Lake*Home
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

Sometimes it's not a good thing to get too personal.  People sometimes release too much personal information on social media which results in negative consequences.  People, be careful about disclosing information about being out of town or maybe too much information about your children or maybe too much about your financial status.  Hope you all have a great day.

Feb 15, 2022 06:07 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Gwen,  I see it regularly in one of the local Facebook groups:  "anyone that can watch our dog while we're out of town X date to Y date?".

Feb 15, 2022 06:24 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I agree with Bill and Liz that you have to do what you have to do but you have to have people that you trust

Feb 23, 2022 06:24 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

One of the red flags for me is when a client doesn't seem to trust us.

Feb 23, 2022 10:56 AM