HURRAH, HOARDING SHOWS I LIKE!

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Casual Uncluttering LLC

HURRAH, HOARDING SHOWS I LIKE!!!!! I am sooooooooooooooooooo soooooooooooooooo thrilled to be able to point people to hoarding reality TV which is gentle, thoughtful, empathetic, realistic and even carefully humorous. We need to go across the pond to Britain.

 

Jasmine Harman, Help for Hoarders, bravely documented her experience as the daughter of Vasoulla, her Mom with hoarding disorder, in a 2011 BBC One documentary My Hoarder Mum and Me. Equally courageous, her Mom also speaks on camera about her battles and triumphs with articulate insight and increasing self-compassion. My Hoarder Mum and Me led to the 2012 series Britain's Biggest Hoarders with Harman and her Mom. Harman and her Mom offer personal support to people with hoarding disorder, and also bring in complementary therapeutic and organizing support as needed.

 

I'm also keen on The Hoarder Next Door, a series which ran on Britain's Channel 4 from 2012 - 2014. The Hoarder Next Door stars psychotherapist Stelios Kiosses and Professional Organizers Zoe Steel and Allyson Pritchard of Declutter Divas. I'm not even slightly surprised that the Divas belong to APDO, the Association of Professional Declutterers & Organisers, the UK equivalent of my beloved NAPO, the National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals.

 

Why do I like these shows? They emphasize therapy first, sorting and letting-go next. They emphasize a deliberate, months-long, purely-client-driven process, even if that activity involves a sequence of one bag out and two bags in, two bags out and no bags in, one bag in and three bags out... They avoid, as scrupulously as possible, inducing the on-camera client meltdowns I LOATHE on their American counterparts. And when such meltdowns do occur, as they must sometimes, the staff of the shows have established authentic relationships with their clients - because they've been working with their clients before, repeat BEFORE, the sorting begins, and genuinely address the issues spilling over. Unless I'm utterly mistaken, the American versions only introduce clients and therapists the day the filming begins. To some degree, avoiding drama is qualitatively  easier for The Hoarder Next Door: none of the situations in this series involve eviction notices or public nuisance fines, the hoarding is generally indoors. But Harman rolls up her sleeves with people who or may not lose everything.

 

It's not easy to find these shows - I'm catching them on the YouTube channel Only Human. But worth it.

Comments (7)

Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

I was referred a client and OMG I walked in there were 12 cats four or five in and out the rest plain out door types.... fifty years of hoarding and where there was space it was filled with 50 lbs type cat kibble... anyway I did not take the listing... ran home and took a shower and left my clothes outside... you get the idea... the headline reminded me of this event I experienced last year:)Endre

Nov 16, 2021 10:22 PM
Michael Jacobs

Endre - Yikes!  I remember going to visit a home and the owner said "ignore that @r^* in the corner and I wondered if it was really @r^* or just some random hoarding "finds". 

Nov 17, 2021 03:54 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO, CVPO

Endre Barath, Jr. Hoarding and/or squalor are very very difficult situations to deal with, undeniably. Still poorly understood, very very difficult to treat, and often with horrible outcomes. Agonizing all around. Lauren

Nov 20, 2021 08:17 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

p.s: now to your post yes Therapy is what is needed not a Realtor to help people like this, Endre

Nov 16, 2021 10:23 PM
Lauren Williams, CPO, CVPO

Endre Barath, Jr. It's considered a fundamental practice that, if an Organizer thinks a situation is severe enough (and there are tools to objectively assess environments), his/her client must demonstrably be in therapy. Lauren

Nov 20, 2021 08:21 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I'm all about decluttering so hoarding culture applies to me in some interesting ways

Nov 16, 2021 10:34 PM
Lauren Williams, CPO, CVPO

Laura Cerrano Always feel free to ask questions!! Lauren

Nov 20, 2021 08:26 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Lauren - thank you for the education from the other side of the pond.  My only "exposure" to hoarding shows has been the American version which are far too painful to watch.  

Nov 17, 2021 03:55 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO, CVPO

Michael Jacobs I DESPISE the American shows, despite knowing and respecting a huge number of the professionals on those shows. Lauren

Nov 20, 2021 08:34 PM
Bill Salvatore - East Valley
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em: golfArizona@cox.net

Never forget showing a house in Phoenix 10 or so years ago. Walked in, floor to ceiling cages of animals in almost every room, Boy, did it smell.   Thanks again for  the post, enjoyed it.  We have made it to Hump Day, the weekend is half way here. Make it a productive day. bill

Nov 17, 2021 04:16 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO, CVPO

Bill Salvatore - YVP Blog We've been having floods, power outages, downed trees, the works, out here. So YES, Hurray for Hump Day! Lauren

Nov 20, 2021 08:35 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Lauren. Going from a single family home to an apartment in the sky requires constant monitoring of what can be tossed. So hoarding is not a topic that I think about as I purge. Enjoy your day.

Nov 17, 2021 04:34 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO, CVPO

Wayne Martin Kudos for your discipline! Lauren

Nov 20, 2021 08:36 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Shows with empathy! They're so hard to find, aren't they?

 

Nov 17, 2021 05:01 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO, CVPO

Kat Palmiotti Yes, yes and yes! Miserably true. Lauren

Nov 20, 2021 08:16 PM