How Having a Baby Changed How & Where I Live

Real Estate Agent with DFW FINE PROPERTIES 0506509

Today is my daughter's birthday. Her humble beginnings began in my womb and after giving birth, I weighed 78 pounds for about the first year of her life. Even though she wore me out thin, she kept growing!


We started out in a three-room apartment but after she was born, there was no room once she outgrew her bassinet and the one closet got too full. So, we moved to another apartment with two bedrooms and two closets. The rent was more than double and before long, with all her toys, the crib, baby dresser, playpen, high chair, baby swing, baby hamper, baby clothes, and baby toys with wheels that made her exercise her tiny legs we decided we had to move. 


We moved out of the city of Chicago to the country in Northern, IL after her baby brother was born where they could have a better education and more room to grow. Our apartment in Chicago, located near Downtown Chicago was fine for us, but not for me catching El trains, subway trains, catching city buses, and carrying diaper bags, and toting two little children everywhere I needed to go. 


We learned that as a family, we were happier around farm animals, lots of plants, trees, and we learned about the power and respect for the rivers and lakes. In addition, we learned about what happens when the well dries up and the septic system fails and how long it takes for a landlord to get someone hired to put in a new well and clean the septic system. Furthermore, we learned that someone had to pay for the well and septic and that our significant increase in rent contributed to what it cost the landlord. As tenants, we had no choice but to put up with many inconveniences. 


After nearly three years, we realized that when the landlord purchased another house plus two new rental properties, that our nest egg would never grow at the high cost of rent. The handwriting was on the wall. Once again, we outgrew our space in that old cottage by the lake. We knew we needed more space and a cleaner environment to live because old houses can make you sick. Our children were always sick with colds and suffered from asthma. At that time, many people did not know, that little children's lungs didn't have the capacity to handle cigarette smoke, air pollutants or the cancer causing agents that nobody knew were inside the attic and walls of old homes & cottages when older homes were built. 


Once again, it was just a matter of time before the sizes of the rooms quickly diminished to adequately accommodate our family of four. Plus, guests were always coming to spend the weekends and holidays because they liked to fish and get away from the city. Our lifestyles changed!


We decided... err (I DECIDED) it was time to buy our own house and we did! In the beginning, we didn't even think about the fact that paying a mortgage with a 10 1/2% interest rate was high or ridiculous. We just did it! We paid the mortgage + interest rate + taxes + insurance + household expenses on time without fail. 


When my husband died, I never thought about, how am I going to make it? I assumed responsibility and liability for myself and my children. We got through school and higher education (I did too). Today, we live in three different places and time zones.


She celebrated her birthday beginning with me calling her in the middle of my sleeping hours as she was preparing to climb the Swiss Alps. She sends me photos when she can. These photos were taken in the summer. As seen in my intro photograph, there must be something about tight spaces that makes her feel comfortable. I doubt that she even thinks there is a correlation between the tight spaces we lived in throughout her childhood. However, I am certain her mind is always focused on achievement. When my daughter and son-in-law and my son, his wife and their children are happy, I am happy too! If you are thinking about moving, I have a lot of experience and stories that may be relatable to your situation. Call me! ---Patricia Feager



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                                         Patricia (Peace without Panic) Feager (Faith without Fear)
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MBA (University of Dallas)
(Bachelors of Arts & Science)
Paralegal (Southeastern Career Institute)
Associates (3) (College of Lake County)
KU (University of Kansas)


CRS (Certified Residential Specialist)
SRES (Certified Senior Residential Specialist)
PSA (Certified Pricing Strategies; Mastering the CMA)
CRS (Certified Military Relocation Specialist)
RENE (Real Estte Negotitions Expert)

"With self-discipline most anything is possible." --- Theodore Roosevelt 





Comments (14)

Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA

Happy birthday to your daughter.  She looks like a real adventurer! The Swiss Alps...Wow!

Dec 14, 2021 10:58 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Raymond Henson, eXp Realty - Thank you! Yes, she is quite an adventurer!

Dec 14, 2021 11:02 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your daughter and I hope she has an amazing experience climbing the Swiss Alps.

Dec 14, 2021 01:17 PM
Lynnea Miller
Bend Premier Real Estate - Bend, OR
Premier Real Estate Service in Central Oregon

Congratulations on raising such an amazing daughter.  We do gear our lives around our children and it looks like you did a great job.

Dec 14, 2021 03:29 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Lynnea Miller - Raising a family was my ultimate joy. Challenges were many. I like how you framed that "we do gear our lives around our children." Thank you.

Dec 15, 2021 04:12 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Oh my gosh, I love those photos and hearing about your/their journey. You have amazing children and they have a wonderful mother. What more can I say?

Dec 14, 2021 06:30 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Kat Palmiotti - Thank you. If anyone understands what it means to plant roots and keep planting until you get to where you need to be, that would be you! Thanks, Kat.

Dec 15, 2021 04:13 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Ah, Patricia,

What a beautiful story you shared, and like I agree with Kat Palmiotti you have amazing children and you are an amazing person and mother.  A

Dec 14, 2021 07:36 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Ron and Alexandra Seigel -Thank you. Never in my past did I ever understand how good it is to receive positive feedback about how I lived and what I had to do to bring up my children. In the process of growing, I never bragged. I just kept looking for better options to help them achieve the best I could give; but then again, their cooperation made everything we did worth it. 

Dec 15, 2021 04:17 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Patricia - belated birthday greetings to your daughter.  I enjoyed your story.  There's a powerful message about families and how their growth impacts our everyday life in so many ways including all things real estate.  

Dec 15, 2021 03:54 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Michael Jacobs - Thank you! She was in my thoughts throughout the day. Experience taught me that when a child is born it is a mother's job to push and keep pushing regardless of how long it takes or how much we age and grow as a person. Families do impact everything. For example, schools, the condition of parks and playgrounds, food grown or purchases from grocery stores, clothing (four season clothing can be very costly and a necessity), size of home, transportation, roads, and everything else within the structure of the home and infrastructure of the communities. 

Dec 15, 2021 04:25 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Patricia... loved your photos and loved  your story. I felt like I was "moving" with you throughout the years. My brother and I were the first homeowners in our immediate family. My mother purchased her first coop apartment in NYC at the age of 65. As recently arrived immigrants, owning in NYC was just not in the cards for my family when I was growing up.

Dec 15, 2021 05:09 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Nina Hollander, Broker - Our individual journeys in life are always unique. Your feedback means a lot to me. I liked that you felt as if you were moving along with me through the years. I come from an immigrant background. Even though my parents were first generation Americans, they never purchased a home. My dad inherited his parent's home because the other two brothers were not interested in staying there where my siblings and I were raised. Congratulations to your mother for purchasing her "first coop apartment in NYC at the age of 65!" That was quite an achievement!!! My sisters and I tried countless times to get my mother to sell the property and move close to or with us, but she wasn't comfortable with that idea. I am beginning to think owning property for immigrants wasn't possible for many families and not everyone had parents who worked with white collars in prestigious companies. Where I lived, I was aware of many men and women who lost their limbs in factory machinery. One woman I knew had a lawyer but she never got a penny. Those were tough times and tougher immigrants and children of immigrant families that never took things for granted. 

Dec 15, 2021 05:54 AM
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I always love seeing photos of your family and I hope that your daughter will have an amazing birthday!

Dec 15, 2021 05:33 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Brian England - Thanks! I love to talk to my daughter and son and have intimate conversations with them. To me, my children will always be more interesting than any novel, movie, or theatrical performance. FYI... I'm glad I had a chance to meet you and your family. There is no doubt in my mind how much you love and respect one another.  

Dec 15, 2021 05:58 AM
Elyse Berman, PA
Best Connections Realty, Inc. - Boca Raton, FL
Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824 CRS, ABR, GRI,ePR

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP I loved hearing your story.  It's the years that shape us into who we are today - the sum of our experiences.  And we have many!   Happy Birthday to your daughter!  

Dec 15, 2021 12:10 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Elyse Berman, PA - Thank you for your great comment! Over time, we do get whipped into shape. I do believe there is truth in the lyrics for "The Potters Hand." May you and your loved ones celebrate this holiday season with love and happiness. 

Dec 16, 2021 02:44 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

It's a big step that you have to maneuver your entire life around to accommodate and I commend everybody that does it

Dec 16, 2021 09:43 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Laura Cerrano - You hit the nail on the head. It's accommodation to the family needs that pushes one outside of their comfort zone. Thanks!

Dec 17, 2021 07:57 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Patricia loved your post and oh boy what a HOTTIE your daughter is... keep her away from me I might forget I am three times her age:)) Happy Birthday  to your daughter, Endre

Dec 16, 2021 11:42 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Endre Barath, Jr. - She's taken! She is absolutely, totally, and madly in love with her husband. I wish I could live with them. Thank you.

Dec 17, 2021 07:50 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Patricia, for sharing some your personal story.

You have good reasons to be proud.

Dec 17, 2021 06:47 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Roy Kelley - thanks! Everyone has their own story but when raising a family, we have similar challenges about space, what's available, where do we want to live, and why. A baby changes everything!

Dec 17, 2021 07:56 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Hi Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP  Interest rates were 18% and we got 15% and thought we received a deal on our first house . Yes we need a call we are due 

Dec 17, 2021 07:57 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Hannah Williams - the home I purchased with an interest rate of 10 1/5% occurred on the last day in July, 1979. On Monday, rates jumped and continued rising! I remember thinking back then, just how lucky we were to get that VA loan before the rates went up. Time really is of the essence when buying property. When interest rates drop to record lows is always what buyers like to hear. It will be nice to catch up with you by phone again soon. 

Dec 18, 2021 12:35 AM