New Year's Eve Scares...A Contest In Shrinking F.E.A.R.

Real Estate Agent with Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 CA BRE# 01261476

New Year's Eve Scares? My second entry in this month's contest:

'Tis the Season for (Buyer) Miracles...A Contest

The one thing I'd like to scare away or free myself from; not bringing it into the new year with me is stress born of fears. I want to shrink irrational fears in my life.

Zig Ziglar said, "Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real".

I've also heard it said by unknown authors:

"Worry is interest paid on money never borrowed."


"Worry doesn't take away tomorrow's troubles. It takes away today's peace."

Will Smith shares this powerful observation about fear:

I think fear has it's place in nature, we have fight or flight instincts; a bear, a suspicious person, a street we decide to avoid, etc. We have a gut instinct we must trust. But, worrying about money, health or God forbid politics is a waste of time, energy and resources. It's a distraction that knocks us off course on the way to our goals.


Fear poor health? I'll change my eating habits, I'll exercise more, I'll see my health professionals more regularly. Fear not having enough money? I'll work more creatively, seek different mentors and coaches, read books and take classes to help me improve my business and sharpen my edge. 

You get my point, if I fear something I want to face it, walk towards it and make it shrink. When I hear a noise in the middle of the night downstairs, I get up, hit the lights and walk towards it I don't hide under the covers.

I want to work on my peace of mind, my faith and my efforts to continue to shrink fear in my life. President Franklin D. Roosevelt famously advised us:

"So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that

the only thing we have to fear is...fear itself

— nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which

paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance."

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Thomas J. Nelson
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Comments (12)

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Hello Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets you have some great plans to shrink fear, irrational or otherwise.  Just face the fear!

May you live with love and joy in your heart and always be healthy and happy. 

Merry Merry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄

Happy Happy Everything. 

Dec 25, 2021 01:34 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I totally agree. Fear and worry are two things to leave in the dust!

Dec 25, 2021 03:57 PM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

So sorry for the drive by comment today, just wanted to take a moment and wish you a very

Dec 25, 2021 04:38 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Thomas- you are not alone in this.  Fearing some things can be a large bear coming at you. But fearing some things can paralyze us.  I have a feeling you'll be successful at this in the coming year. The first step is one you're already taken...realizing what is causing you anxiety and facing it head on. 


Dec 25, 2021 06:27 PM
Bill Salvatore - East Valley
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em:

Great information.  Thanks for sharing and happy holidays! Bill

Dec 26, 2021 03:34 AM
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Facing our fears is definitely important in being able to overcome them and not have them affect our lives in a negative manner.

Dec 26, 2021 04:47 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

One cannot take a positive step forward if afraid of what might be there.  Life itself is a risk and we get up each morning ready to face the challenges of the day

Dec 26, 2021 07:56 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

My fears always lead to anxiety and I have found anxiety leaves scars. I hope you’re having a wonderful holiday weekend Thomas 🙂

Dec 26, 2021 08:43 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Good morning, Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets .
I love this entry into the December Challenge. Fear is something that can keep us from enjoying life and doing some amazing things. 

Dec 26, 2021 09:24 AM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS

Oh I feel this Thomas! Fear and worry can be paralyzing. I wholeheartedly believe, what you focus on, grows. When we focus on worries, they'll become bigger, taking up the space that we could otherwise fill with creativity, productivity and solutions.  

I'm with you! Thank you for inspiring me to checking "fear" at the door that is 2021. 

Dec 26, 2021 10:20 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Thomas - there's a lot of logic here for what at times is not the most logical of subjects.  But that doesn't mean that it's not real for that person at that time.  

Dec 27, 2021 06:51 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets - I get it! I understand completely! During the pandemic I stayed up late watching a lot of old movies (1940 - 1960's era). In just about every movie there was something that evoked fear! Boogie Man, Thieves, Murderers, Attacks on people, etc. I came to the conclusion these fearful shadows were conditioned in me from a very early age and now that I'm older, the Media and politicians scare me all over again! I consider this to be a masterpiece composition that needs to be reviewed in private and to keep adding. I'm going to do that for myself, starting with what I learned about fear from T.V. 

Dec 31, 2021 12:07 PM