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Dealing With A Kindness Impaired Person

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

This month's challenge hosted by Andrea and Carol asks us to identify one thing we'd like to scare away for the coming new year.

My choice is how to handle a kindness-impaired person. Some agents call me during the year to bounce ideas and ask for advice when dealing with a challenging transaction. And many times, the problem is dealing with a complex personality. 

While lending my ear to a very hurt and unhappy agent about a situation regarding a "toxic" colleague, it reminded me of a problem a long time ago. That's when a person challenged my integrity, and I was visibly upset. A fellow agent figured something significant happened within my family. When I explained the incident, he knew the reputation of this "kindness impaired'' agent. 

He said words that I would never forget.

''You Can't Make Chicken Salad Out of Chicken Poop."

I knew what he meant, and he immediately lifted my mood. When I see or hear about a toxic person, it brings a grin because I  only remember the 'chicken salad' line. 

The problem lies with that other person, do not allow it to affect you.

For the new year, whenever you encounter a 'kindness impaired' person, please relate to this situation and say to yourself:

 You can't Make Chicken Salad Out of Chicken Poop!

Smile and keep going!

 

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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hi Margaret! You know I love this and practice killing them with kindness on a daily basis! I tell my agents, IT WORKS!!

I hope you had a delightful day yesterday. Wishing you an amazing year ahead too! 

Dec 26, 2021 10:17 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Debe, your agents are so lucky to have you. Thanks for the good wishes.

Dec 26, 2021 07:42 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

"The problem lies with that other person, do not allow it to affect you."  Those are wise words, Margaret!

Dec 26, 2021 04:23 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Margaret, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Dec 26, 2021 04:24 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Myrl Jeffcoat, Good to see you and thanks for the feature!

Dec 26, 2021 07:43 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you! I'm so blessed to be 'honored' with this position. I never, in a million years, would have thought they would have wanted me to do this job. How lucky am I?!!!

Have a fantabulous week, my sweet friend!

Dec 26, 2021 07:44 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Haha this is great Margaret!  I had somebody try to dump some chicken poop last week and it was quite humorous to me. I find that it's always all about the other person, not the one they're attacking or blaming.  One of my favorite sayings is Not my circus, not my monkeys.  And that situation was that too as it was none real estate related. Circus poop I guess!  LOL!!

Dec 27, 2021 03:42 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker It's so good we have a crap-tacular group whether for the chicken or the circus poop

Dec 27, 2021 03:54 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Margaret I think it's great for Banantude as well!  I'm still chuckling at your saying!  I'll have fun using it when apropiate!

Dec 27, 2021 03:58 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist Thanks for the feature. As I said to Anna above, we NEED your Crap-Tacular group for posts like this one!

Dec 27, 2021 04:02 PM
Miriam Odegard
United Real Estate Indianapolis - Indianapolis, IN
Real Estate Broker Serving Greater Indianapolis

Not gonna lie: actually laughed out loud at your "chicken poop" comment. Those who are "kindness impaired" are unable to comprehend those of us who are not. Your phrase reminds me of another: don't wrestle with a pig, because you're only going to get dirty and besides, the pig likes it. Thanks for a very informative post!

Dec 27, 2021 04:25 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Miriam Odegard, This is another good one:  don't wrestle with a pig, because you're only going to get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it."

I can't wait for the right opportunity to use it. 

Dec 27, 2021 04:34 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

OH OH OH! I can see a weekly  post coming from these great sayings Margaret!!

Dec 27, 2021 08:28 PM
Miriam Odegard

Ha! You are very welcome!! :) 

Dec 27, 2021 04:35 PM
Brian Skaar
VanDyk Mortgage - VA, FHA, Conventional, VA Jumbo, Jumbo, Purchase Loans, & Refinance, Direct Lender - San Diego, CA
Purchase Loan Specialist - VA, FHA, Conventional

Now I know why I never liked Chicken Salad.  it just feels like and tastes like P&@p. 

Dec 28, 2021 12:08 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Margaret,
What a great saying... and I love Miriam Odegard's pig reference too! 

Dec 28, 2021 05:53 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

I love this and sadly, there are just some people who prefer to stay down in the poop!

Dec 28, 2021 08:19 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Abd those, Paula, are the folks we stay away from.

Dec 28, 2021 09:09 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Brian Skaar, If made with good chicken it's good.

Dec 28, 2021 09:03 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Carol Williams, They are both excellent sayings.  Just wait for the right time to use them.

Dec 28, 2021 09:05 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

That is the perfect line to change a mood - chicken poop!  Hilarious but to the point!

Dec 28, 2021 04:13 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Jan Green Sometimes we just need that perfect saying, even if not said out loud, to get through the situation. 

Dec 29, 2021 05:58 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ

Exactly!  Can change your perspective at the right times!

Dec 29, 2021 11:09 AM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS

You can't make chicken salad out of chicken poop.

You can't make chicken salad out of chicken poop.

You can't make chicken salad out of chicken poop.

I am practicing Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 and may just make this my mantra for 2022 because I can feel it working already! 

Thank you for 2 fabulous entries into Carol's and my (first) contest. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, for all your love and support, and countless walk and talks!  

Dec 31, 2021 07:10 AM
Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

"Karens" are taking over the business and the world.  Not sure why control has become such an issue.

Dec 31, 2021 11:50 AM
Gary J. Muccio, Associate Broker
Keller Williams of Central PA - Camp Hill, PA
Exceptional Customer Service!

Good morning, Margaret! Love this post! Sorry I missed it back in December. I too counsel a lot of agents. I always remind agents we can only control how we react to others. There are numerous "kindness-impaired" individuals (both clients and agents) as well as those that lack emotional intelligence. And, it can be, and often is, very hurtful. I so enjoy your saying and will begin to share it with others! Continued success to you! 

Mar 17, 2022 06:38 AM