This is the season for miracles and Scares...

Real Estate Agent with Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices 01238708

This post has been inspired by Andrea Bedard  & Carol Williams  for a December Active Rain Challenge. The first, a December Miracle, I immediately knew what that would be. (In case you missed it, here is the link   A Christmas Miracle by Endre Barath a Beverly Hills Realtor ). This one, however, was much more of a challenge for me. So here goes!

For those who do not know me well, I have always been very demanding of myself. No one has a higher expectation of me than me. I provide the best quality service to my buyers and sellers in the greater Los Angeles area and the advent of the Internet and smart phones has only made this easier; truly, I find there is little or no excuse to not respond to clients and potential clients in a timely manner.

The flip side to this is that in turn, I expect the same from other professionals in the Real Estate realm. Unfortunately, not everyone feels the same as I do which annoys me a great deal. I find myself frustrated, disgruntled and even disappointed in the other person if they do not follow the same standards that I set for myself.

Some people subscribe to the theory: “Don’t blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much from them” or “the secret to happiness is low expectations” and then you may be pleasantly surprised! Clearly, this does not fare well for me. For all of my life I have subscribed to the motto so eloquently stated by Charles Kettering: “High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.” This is one of the reasons I became an Airborne Ranger Infantry CPT in the military; when I became a realtor this same framework led me to achieve the accolades and achievements that I have year after year.

How do I find the happy middle ground for my high expectations? Quite frankly I’m not sure I ever will and that is OK with me. I am a work in progress and look forward to 2022 bringing me new opportunities to help my clients and deal with my own frustrations.

I will leave you with a quote from Albert Einstein: “New frameworks are like climbing a mountain - the larger view encompasses rather than rejects the more restricted view.”

Happy, healthy and prosperous New Year to all of my Active Rain friends near and far!


Wishing you a safe and healthy life and I look forward to your comments. If you are looking for a knowledgeable, focused and goal-oriented Realtor in the Beverly Hills area who will help you achieve your Real Estate goals, please reach out to me directly! If you are looking for a pet friendly Beverly Hills Realtor who can handle and sell the most difficult properties that no one else could, please reach out to me directly!! If you are considering buying or selling a home, a luxury home, luxury investment real estate, luxury vacation homes, or luxury beach properties in Southern California, Los Angeles, Century City, Westwood, West Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Marina Del Rey, Venice or Malibu, feel free to contact me at 310.486.1002 ( m) or visit one of my websites at I contribute a portion of my commission to local animal rescue organizations. Endre Barath, Jr. Realtor at Berkshire Hathaway Home Services

Comments (18)

Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Most people disappoint me a great deal as well with their lack of communication and it really frustrates me.

Dec 28, 2021 03:55 AM
Bill Salvatore - East Valley
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em:

For me poor communication is the most frustrating.  Thank you for posting, have a fabulous Taco Tuesday, and Happy New Year. bill  

Dec 28, 2021 04:12 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Endre - like you and others, I continue to be a "work in progress" on life's path.  

Dec 28, 2021 04:46 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

It's very disappointing and frustrating when people don't behave the way we expect/hope for.

Enjoy your day!

Dec 28, 2021 05:06 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Endre. Have been a work in progress all my life. Thought it would end when I retired. Never thought it was only the beginning. Enjoy your day. 

Dec 28, 2021 05:08 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Endre... I'm afraid I suffer from the same condition as yours... I expect others to have the same standards I set for myself. It's a work in progress not to let failed expectations bring me down.

Dec 28, 2021 05:50 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Endre Barath, Jr. we choose our clients carefully.  We make it clear what we expect and what they can expect from us.  And if we are not a match, we do the Moondance , better known as getting the hell away.  That goes for everything else in life including friends.  A

Dec 28, 2021 07:54 AM
Jim Paulson
Progressive Realty (Boise Idaho) - Boise, ID

You are right on point with expectations.  I have been telling my listing clients from the beginning that we will typically fail at getting feedback from other agents that will be showing their home, but that I will reach out 2-3 times for each showing.  I will email a follow up and if that doesn't produce results, I will call them.  If that doesn't work . . . well, I told you so.

Dec 28, 2021 09:06 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Endre,
I have this affliction too. I believe it's the main reason I always had trouble delegating.  I once read that "expectations ruin relationships" and I know that is so true!  It's a matter of finding those who are of the same mind and trying to associate mostly with them! It's not easy.

Dec 28, 2021 09:30 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Endre those who have high expectations of themselves will achieve much more than those who do not.

Dec 28, 2021 03:18 PM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS

Definitely do not check your high expectations at the door to 2022 Endre Barath, Jr.! I am with you on the getting frustrated part when others are not as responsive, or on it, as we are. Perhaps that is something to work on, to not waste energy on getting frustrated? We can't control how others behave and perform, but we can control how we react to it.  

Dec 28, 2021 05:18 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

I very much appreciate your post.  Have a situation right now that warrants this post.  Receiving a referral from another agent is a gold mine.  Unfortunately, they didn't prepare their clients for a move to Phoenix before theirs was sold and may not qualify for our higher prices, leaving them less enthused about moving here.  Argh!  But I'm also a work on progress, continually monitoring how I can be better. Happy Holidays Endre!  

Dec 28, 2021 05:59 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Oh my goodness, I too am afflicted with the same high-expectations-disappointment-in-others disease, Endre!

I recently had a cross-sale with an agent who was 'touted' by others to be a great agent with whom to work the other side of a deal. She is younger so, I was totally impressed that other agents had given her such high marks. 

I very quickly realized their expectations they set for themselves AND others is not even on the same spectrum as mine! She was UBER slow returning calls and a couple of times, it took days for her to return my text messages.

When I would finally get her on the phone, I will admit that she was fun to chat with. That's all well & good but, my priority is getting my clients' needs met, not for me to have a good time on the phone with the other agent! 

Great entry in this month's challenge. I still have two to write - and the month is nearly over! UGH!!

Dec 29, 2021 05:58 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Endre - I love it.  High expectations lead to higher results.  Better to aim high and fail than to aim low and succeed.

Dec 29, 2021 07:52 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Endre Barath, Jr. - Being a RANGER served you well throughout your life. I sincerely appreciate your sharing and leading by example. Excellence isn't for everyone, but it SHOULD be! We run into this and recognize people who don't have high expectations quickly. I am thankful for people like you!

Dec 29, 2021 08:04 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Endre:

Nothing wrong with setting high expectations as long as one realizes they might not always be met.

No doubt many of us are frustrated with the lack of, or delayed, communication that seems rampant in our business. 


Dec 29, 2021 08:31 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Endre Barath, Jr. - As you probably know, the longer you are in the business, the more you get to know who you can count on and who will return your calls promptly.  Let me down once and you are probably on Santa's naughty list!

Dec 29, 2021 10:00 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

A Ranger with high standards of himself? Of course I can see that happening. Wish we had more Rangers

Dec 29, 2021 02:13 PM