Motivational Monday…Mistakes...It’s How We Learn

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Motivational Monday…Mistakes...It’s How We Learn

 

The other day, I was having a conversation with the mother of three…8,10, and 14.  The discussion turned to what so many parents face…how much do you do for your children. 

 

She wants so much to do everything for them and protect them from mistakes that she made growing up. And yet, she also knows that this isn’t what they need. 

 

We all face this in life…personal and in our business life.  At work, if our teammates or employees try and fail,  what long-term effect does it have?  How do we guide them but at the same time allow them to learn?

 

With children, there are so many things a parent teaches their children not the least of which is how to go out and be good and capable citizens of the world. 

 

Just as parents do, managers, coaches, and mentors, are tasked with educating and guiding so that their student is able to go out make wise decisions. 


Hopefully, mistakes and oops moments are made under the watchful eye of a parent or mentor.  But that isn’t always the case, is it? 

There will be times when we face bumps in the road. What we do, how we handle them will say who we are.

And, if we’re lucky and smart,  we also learn from them.





In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson. 

WAYNE HUIZENGA

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Comments (31)

Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathy Streib - Great post.  It also ties back to Grant Schneider's post about deligation. We have to allow others, especially our children to learn from mistakes.  It is our job to show compassion and understanding while mentoring them to gain wisdom from that knowledge. 

Jan 17, 2022 08:52 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Kathy - we certainly need to prepare our children but they need to make mistakes to learn.

Jan 17, 2022 10:41 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathy, we will make mistakes, fall on our faces, but makes us stronger and better!   

Jan 17, 2022 12:53 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

There are far fewer mistakes in life than we realize, but far more lessons!

Jan 17, 2022 01:16 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

This sure brings back memories. 

Me sitting under the window, listening to my child outside with friend who is not treating them fairly, and wanting so much to step in and protect my baby.

It is so hard to sit by and let them work it out amongst themselves, but that is the best thing you can do. 

Yes, there were times I did step in, but for the most part I bit my tongue and allowed them to learn valuable lessons.

Jan 17, 2022 01:22 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Growing pains was the name of that TV show for a good reason!!  Best to let the kids figure things out as best they can without constant interference from parents.  And....at times as ,we all know, parents, do need to step in.

Jan 17, 2022 02:35 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Kat Palmiotti even though I was never blessed with my own children, I have had them in my life. I agree with what you said...we need to give them the power to do for themselves. 

Brian England I agree...it shouldn't be a "do as I say but not as I do" parenting. 

Jan 17, 2022 02:38 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Wayne Martin that's wise to do...keep your eyes open, you may learn something. 

Bill Salvatore - YVP Blog hopefully, if we're smart we learn from what we've done that didn't work out. 

Nina Hollander, Broker that has been a problem...parents step in so how can their children possibly learn. 

Jan 17, 2022 02:40 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Michael Jacobs oh, I've had a bunch of those experiences. 

Carol Williams I remember reading Rudolf Dreikurs Logical Consequences in college. It's not easy for parents but look what happens if you hover and do everything for them. 

Jan 17, 2022 02:43 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Roy Kelley selective memory, right!!! Hello to Chef Dolores. 

Hannah Williams  and it is so true!!!!

Ron and Alexandra Seigel  I prefer that positive way of looking at mistakes. Learn from them and move on. 

Jan 17, 2022 02:45 PM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

Great post Kathy Streib - and so true. It's challenging as a parent, boss coach or leader to walk the fine line of preventative measures vs. letting them learn lessons. 

Love This: There will be times when we face bumps in the road. What we do, how we handle them will say who we are.

Jan 17, 2022 03:12 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy somethings are only truly learned from mistakes, and I have a PHD in those lessons.   ☺️

Jan 17, 2022 04:17 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

faye schubert I am very familiar with someone like that. She babied them and still does. The kids understand and wish they had been taught more at home but she doesn't get it. 

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® it's tough to do especially when children are involved but ultimately it's for the best. How else will they learn and thrive in adulthood. 


Jan 17, 2022 05:20 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Grant Schneider exactly. And isn't it better that they make some of those early missteps while still at home where they have the encouragement of their parents. 

 

Joan Cox who in the world doesn't make mistakes!!! It's being human. 

Jan 17, 2022 05:23 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Myrl Jeffcoat lessons are part of how we grow...how we discover who we are. 

Sharon Tara you were wise to do that. And I know that you knew when to step in!!!

Jan 17, 2022 05:25 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker  Part of our childhood is facing the challenges and oops moments. We look back and see what we learned. 

Jan 17, 2022 05:26 PM
Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD
federalfinanciallawgroup.com - Vail, CO
Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

LeRning by mistakes is probably the best way to learn because these lessons will not be forgotten!

Jan 17, 2022 08:08 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy I am such a good learner everything I have learned was by mistakes I made... my father suggested I should be a College Professor and get three months vacation:)) next life I am considering coming back as a college professor:)))))))))Endre

Jan 17, 2022 09:45 PM
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Great post!  I'd also call it enabling behavior.  Parents of children who have been enabled lack an open mind, ability to reason, and may not be as successful.  

Jan 18, 2022 04:55 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Kathy:

Well said!

It's tough to see others make mistakes, whether our children, family, co-workers, or employees. What's worse is when they don't seem to learn from it!

Jeff

Wayne Huizenga's quote is wonderful!!

Jan 18, 2022 05:22 PM