TO BE OR NOT TO BE NUMBER ONE

By
Real Estate Agent with DFW FINE PROPERTIES 0506509

"Innovation Distinguishes Between A

Leader and a Follower" ---Steve Jobs

 

GROUP THINKERS OR OUT-OF-THE-BOX THINKER

Have you ever noticed that when people follow crowds, they become group thinkers, and if you think outside the box and others don't agree, you could be perceived as being difficult or exiled from the group? Yet, some of the most out-of-the box thinkers have been the most successful innovators in history! Why is following the crowd so easy for some and not for others? Steve Jobs was an innovative thinker who was not able to adjust to formal education and went on to become co-founder of Apple Computers revolutionizing high technology.  

 

HUMAN BEHAVIOR

Crowd behavior is very interesting. You have to be odd to be number one and that's what makes you unique. Being your authentic self can pave the way to your individualized success. The world would be a very boring place if everyone looked the same, thought the same way, dressed the same, did the same, and no one was different. When it comes to business, you have to be distinguished. People notice. Eventually, Steve Jobs became successful and his product gave him a good reputation.  

 

WHAT SETS PEOPLE APART

Our minds and bodies are not cloned to be the same as everyone else. I learned very early on in life, when choosing paint colors for your home, there may be psychosocial roots in human irrationality based on behavior and personal agendas or history. For example, trending designs comes to mind. For several years gray was popping up in many new home constructions and inside of people's homes. Today, people may say, gray is out, green is in. I say, how do colors make you feel? Paint stores make a fortune on selling popular colors. And the odd thing I noticed is I haven't found one person who bought a new home to find the exact match of color in stores that sell the same shade of paint from what the builders used. 

 

MOOD CHANGERS

Colors can definitely be mood changers. Before I was 21 years old, I painted my bedroom red thinking it was romantic; but I never slept well. Perhaps the bold red colors made me restless instead of restful? Or maybe it had something to do with transitioning because of age? I wondered if a fairy tale story from childhood, "The Red Shoes," had a bad effect on me and gave me nightmares? At the time I chose the color red, it was very popular and I followed the crowd. It didn't make me happy. Last year, I had a client who couldn't afford new construction. Whenever we went to a home when something inside was painted red, her mind was closed to changing the colors. Once, she  refused to walk into the dining room because it was painted red. "No! I do not like it," she said. There was nothing I could say to convince her paint was easy to change. 

 

IT ISN'T EASY BEING GREEN

In my first apartment everything was green. Appliances, carpeting, and even the walls in the bathroom were green. My spouse who was recently released from the Army was miserable, especially when we received avocado green pots and pans, green dishes, green hamper, and a green bedspread. Even though the color avocado green was popular, my husband's eyes were mean green. No! He could not adjust to living in a green civilian world! We had to move out and start over without the color green.

FOLLOWING THE CROWD CAN BE DANGEROUS

Places like Jonestown and events like the Branch Davidians, in Waco, Texas comes to mind. It's okay to be odd and not follow the crowd. Famous examples of Groupthink and consequences are Bay of Pigs Invasion and the horrific Challenger Space Shuttle disaster. Or what about the Columbia Disaster on January 21, 2003? I was taking a real estate exam in a high rise building when the instructor interrupted the class to tell us it was expected to be flying over Dallas any minute. People can definitely get off track and out of focus when someone plants an idea about gloom and doom in your head. There are times when it's okay to be the odd one and not panic. Association to life events  can have a profound affect on other people's mood. Is it no wonder why when something tragic happens, like 9/11 people who lived through it remember exactly where they were, time, and place?

 

BEING NUMBER ONE

Someone who impressed me early on in Business School was Robert Kiyosaki: "No one achieves great things by following the crowd. Have a spine. Follow your own path." 

Another person who inspired me was Albert Einstein: "The one who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The one who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been." 

In sum, without having a backbone to stand up to others and follow your gut to face life's challenges, you may be dumping yourself into the bucket of Group Thinkers and not the critical thinkers. 2022 is definitely the year to stay alert, observe, and be true to who you are and not what others want you to be. If Steve Jobs wasn't true to himself, his life would not have had such a great domino effect on the entire world. Life is short. He knew that and said it best:


"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.

Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of

other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions

drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the 

courage to follow your heart and intuition." 

---Steve Jobs

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Comments (33)

Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Love the quote about being odd and number one.

Naturally I related to the paint colors part of your post...your poor husband with the green colors! And you with the red bedroom...and the client who couldn't understand the concept of changing the paint colors in potential homes. All of it!

I am still loving my gray walls and I have a very dark blue bedroom that brings a smile to my face each and every day. That is what is important when it comes to color...it must make you happy!

Jan 20, 2022 08:52 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia I do not follow the crowd, so I guess it makes me one of those difficult people ..... LOL

Jan 20, 2022 01:49 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

George Souto - You're such a rebel! A Rebel with a Great Cause!

Sharon Tara - I'm delighted you commented because if anyone understands colors and mood changers, it's YOU! Remember when Mauve was trending in the 80's? I ordered custom made Mauve blinds for my kitchen. It didn't match anything in the kitchen, so I painted the walls to match! But then something was off between the mauve walls and the white ceiling, so I hand painted green ivy vines; but then it didn't go with the kitchen curtains, so I ordered new curtains but then the colors in the Living Room didn't go with the flow, so I painted those walls a light beige but then I had to replace the living room furniture! And just when I thought I was done, the carpeting in the living room looked UGLY! So, all the carpeting had to be replaced!  LOL

Ron and Alexandra Seigel - What a romantic love story! I loved it! 

Actually, I started out being odd and my parents and siblings kept say, you're not like any of us. I heard it so often I was sad and tried so hard to fit in but the truth is, I never did fit in. I was caste from a different mold and once I figured out that I did not want to move into their world and I began to like who I was, I was a happy camper!

Jan 20, 2022 02:50 PM
Sharon Tara

OMG....I have post traumatic syndrome when it comes to Mauve. My mother had everything mauve and it was overwhelming! When they were moving we helped them pack up the house. We found mauve dinner candles in every drawer and closet. Soooo many. When asked about them, she said "well you know, they are very hard to find in that color." Obviously NOT Mom.

Jan 21, 2022 02:37 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Sharon Tara - I am roaring with laughter reading your comments! Your mother definitely lived in a Mauve World! I think it's fair to say if you never see the color Mauve again you won't miss it. I know it's true for me! Yes! PTS is what happens when there's too much Mauve! LOL! Funny story: I did get rid of everything Mauve when I moved to TX in 1997, except one Mauve Queen Anne's Chair. I couldn't part with it because it cost me a fortune and it was in perfect condition. But there came a time when I was ready to let it go and I put it out to the curb in case somebody wanted it. Within 3 to 5 minutes it disappeared! I was glad someone liked it and that it didn't have to go in the trash on trash day. But a few years ago (long after it was at the curb) a neighbor of mine was having a Garage Sale in her driveway. Lo and behold, she had my chair! One day when I drove by, everything was sold EXCEPT the Mauve Chair! I don't know what happened to it, but I will never have to see it again - unless of course some other neighbor has it and it ends up at the curb or in a Garage Sale!!!

Jan 21, 2022 03:24 PM
Aura Alex
CloseMyDeal, LLC - Seattle, WA
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George Souto brought back memory when I attended the "Frontline Leadership Training" many years ago and learned about difficult people and how to deal with them. At the end of the training, the instructor asked us: "what have you learned about the difficult people" And then he said "are you one of the difficult people?" Whoa, what? Who me? difficult?" It's like looking at yourself in a mirror and seeing doubles! Great post! Patricia. Thank you.

Jan 20, 2022 02:56 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Aura Alex and George Souto - Here's a book I have on my bookshelf that you might like. My book was published in 1990 so there may be a revised publication. I'm glad you liked my post! It means a lot! The book is great!

Jan 20, 2022 03:16 PM
Aura Alex

Goodness! Patricia. You're such a resourceful pro. I'll check into it (this does look familiar).  As I recall, the training was in the mid-90s during my project management years. Thank you. :)

Jan 20, 2022 07:36 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Years and years ago I attended a very intense leadership seminar - and it was kick you know what, and we did just that.  Everyone was a leader of self - and we knew how to follow when needed.  I still follow those principles to this day Patricia.  As for designing I kind of lucked out in that department as my Mom was an incredible decorator and let me do whatever I wanted from about age 10 on.  I remember her saying - if you don't like that color - just paint it again.  I had some misses and a lot of hits.  A little paint does wonders!!  Thanks Mom!

Jan 20, 2022 03:54 PM
Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD
federalfinanciallawgroup.com - Vail, CO
Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

mu mother was a pioneer...a pint sized powerhouse with flaming red hair and a daunting right hook....her wedding vows: I will respect and honor Father, but I will not obey". They don't make 'em like that any longer

Jan 20, 2022 10:30 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Patricia I have never followed the crowd and always paved my own way for better or worse... it has never been about money it has always been about doing the right thing no matter what and often I paid the price but the good news was I always slept well and had no problem looking in the mirror when I shaved:))Endre

Jan 20, 2022 11:34 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker - your mom was a very special woman. I love the fact that she helped you to be you to shape you into who were were destined to be! That's a gift that keeps on giving. Some people gravitate towards color; others see a vision and that changes everything!

Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD - your mom was the incredible woman of her era! I loved her wedding vows to her husband! As for height, I'm also pint size and had strawberry blonde hair before my hair turned snow white. There came a time in my life when I had no choice but to pull myself up by my bootstraps and became quite powerful. For the sake of my children, I did have a paradigm shift and decided then and there, I would never go back to live in anyone's shadow.

Endre Barath, Jr. - When I began College after having kids and being a single parent, I learned about Maslow hierarchy of needs and felt the desire to have a sense of belonging. Many pursuers tried to win me over but I would never allow myself to be won over for all the wrong reasons; nor would I ever give up on myself or my children. Over the many years of leadership training both in my previous business and real estate, I learned leadership does bestow power on everyone and doesn't mean cha-ching! Unless you have self-respect and you are true to yourself by always doing the right thing, you don't succeed. Doing the right thing was my own personal belief long before growing up into adulthood. Money was important for me and my children to survive. But because of how I conducted myself and guided my children, the three of us became better off. None of us were motivated by greed and that's what made the difference.

Your comment illustrates a fine example. If you want to sleep well, you have to do the right thing, no matter what!

Jan 21, 2022 01:34 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Friday morning, Patricia.

Take care, be safe and have a great day.

Jan 21, 2022 07:24 AM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

I do think freedom to make mistakes allows us to be our true selves. Fear of missteps often keeps people stuck on a path that doesn't ring true for them. It takes courage to break the mold.  Here's to all the brave souls who march to a different drummer. 

Jan 21, 2022 07:28 AM
M.C. Dwyer
Melody Russell Team at eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Felton, CA
MC Dwyer-Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

This is such a well written post with fabulous examples and quotes - I'm delighted I found it on the daily e-mail, and now I'm following you - thank you Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP 

Jan 21, 2022 08:37 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - I really appreciate your comment and honestly. When it comes to transparency, that's me but because I'm only human, I often wonder, what do people think of me? I live and learn and make mistakes and pick myself up by my bootstraps over and over again. I will be loyal until I'm given a reason to disembark. As you know, Chicago is where I got my humble beginnings. I learned early on to separate myself from the mob and follow principles that are deeply rooted.   

Jan 21, 2022 11:16 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

M.C. Dwyer - What a nice surprise! Your comment touched my heart. Thank you, so much! I will follow you too!!! 

Jan 21, 2022 11:18 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

I LOVE this post, Patricia! I have always fit in with the crowd but, never followed - if that makes any sense at all! I absolutely embrace being odd and am okay if others don't like my oddness!

I was just thinking about colors today - we have a 'temporary' red fridge sitting in our foyer because we lost our kitchen fridge. Everything that I could put into the garage fridge, I did; the rest went in bins out in the snow to keep cool. Today, I had to bring my red fridge up from the dock - it's a retro 'look' and we have loved that fridge (since buying it for the dock last year).

Anyway, we were talking about harvest gold and avocado green appliances and how 'fun' those colors were. They turned ugly (like the maroon walls!) after a few years but, like most every other 'fad,' they come back into popularity. 

Those colors beat to their own drummer in a sense and in the end, they come back. Maybe I'm the odd woman out who loves retro but, I don't think I am! Those colors bring back amazing memories for a lot of people - in my mind, they'll always be special - odd but, special!

Jan 22, 2022 05:43 PM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

I love the way you think and write...

Did you know the reason Pizza Hut Roofs are red is because they did studies on colors and Red makes people hungry...  that is why all their furniture was red and red carpet and table clothes... really!  Fun Fact!

 

Jan 22, 2022 10:52 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debe Maxwell, CRS - My dad's favorite line: If everyone else jumps off the cliff, are you going to fall off the cliff?  I never jumped off a cliff but I climbed up them a lot at the Bluffs in LaCrosse, WI with my daughter and son when she attended Viterbo University! We saw the views and hiked back down including discovering cliffs in Minnesota! I love red refrigerators! I consider funky colors from the 1970s as Art Deco! They are fun! But not everyone can adjust. When it comes to business, companies must have spent billions in training and development to get employees to follow! Follow! Follow! Steve Jobs was an iconic example of someone who like so many others lost their jobs because they didn't play by their rules when it came to school and his own company! That took courage! The difference with Jobs is his out-of-the-box thinking and innovations made him a fortune and he died a rich and humble man. I pity the ones who were forced out of their companies and didn't go on to greater things but got stuck in a regretful world of depression caused by being ousted and fired. I think that last quote of his on my post embodies the spirit of a man who marched to a different drum and gave others the inspiration to embrace their own individuality. 

I love your stories about the lake house and all the fun you're having. From the constructions and modifications to all the joy it brought you as life and new opportunities and family additions continue. To all the doors you opened, closed, and replaced, I applaud you! Debe, you're a beautiful person inside and out and you have good VISIONS! 

Thank you for commenting on my post and being inspirational. 

Jan 23, 2022 04:16 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debra Leisek - Thank you for sharing why Pizza Hut painted their roofs red. I did not know that! I guess that's why so many really good Italian restaurants use red and white checkered table cloths and red napkins. Now that explains why every time someone uses their red napkin they can't stop eating pizza, spaghetti, and red wine! Plus, come to think of it, here in America there was a time long ago that off nearly all major highways was a hotel chain called the Red Roof Inn! Obviously very alluring and a welcome sight to many tired and hungry tourists and travelers!

Thanks for sharing that fun fact! You got me going and recalling that day I started painting the bedroom the color red. I was so energized! I couldn't stop until the room was done! Have a great and wonderful day and thanks for sharing!!!

Jan 23, 2022 04:25 AM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Top of the morning Patricia.  Lot's of interesting comments to an interesting post.  I have not walked on one side of the line all the time.  Both to myself and with others.  Mark

Jan 23, 2022 07:57 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

Steve Jobs was an inspiration however he had many demons and I think it cost him dearly in his short life. I hope you’re having a blessed Sunday Patricia 🙂

Jan 23, 2022 08:42 AM