My Story: My Derailed Career as a Professional Golfer

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My Story:  My Derailed Career as a Professional Golfer

The Challenge for February is to write our story or at least a few chapters as a sneak preview.  In a previous chapter of my life, I described the formation of my character and how it influenced me as I grew older. But then that's why they call them the formative years.  

I was always active with sports, but as I so enjoyed baseball, I never had the swiftness of speed to be truly successful. I was a catcher and had a decent arm so very few ever succeeded in stealing. I was too vertically challenged to be a basketball player and the speed again hurt me in football. I was curious about golf and a few adventures at a driving range got me started.

For my 14th birthday, I got my first set of golf clubs and have been addicted since. Through high school, college I played whenever I could and although I never took a lesson was able to hold my own and even hand a single digit handicap.


I won my share of local events and seldom was the one reaching for my wallet after a round. As I was approaching 47 years of age, I turned to my wife and asked her to have the trust and patience with me to allow me to prepare to play on the senior golf tur when I turned 50. She was at first positive, but when I explained that I would need a year of lessons, and then at least 6-8 months trying to qualify for a tour card, and then a year on the then minor league Nike tour.

When she recognized that I was going to be not working for at least 3 years, that was the end of the dream.  I tried to get her to realize that I wasn't seeking the top spots, but by at least coming into the top 20 positions I could be earning between $15-$20,000 with each event. The answer was still no.

I did give up the country club membership with the understanding that the money spent there would be used for our vacations instead.


I have enjoyed the game over the years and have been fortunate to have gotten a few hole-in-ones. The one above is special as I made that one on the morning that we got married. 

As we are a recycled couple, we wanted a small ceremony with just family and my wife insisted that I play golf that morning with my regular crew.  It was an omen, that the union was blessed. 

It was further proven as I got another ace 3 weeks before our 5th anniversary and another one 2 weeks after our 10th anniversary. For the 15th, 20 and 325, I scored eagles within the same month.  I am not the golfer I once was, but at the very least hope I can continue to enjoy the game for a few more years and continue to walk the course. No carts for me.

My Story:  My Derailed Career as a Professional Golfer


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Comments (30)

Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Ed, what a story you have experienced!    Not being able to bring home money for three years does seem like a bit of a gamble.    Hope you get to play a lot now, or at least when the courses are open.

Feb 11, 2022 09:27 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Ed,
I knew you love golf and am glad you still enjoy it in spite of not being able to follow a big dream of going pro.

I often wished I had been introduced to golf earlier in my life so I could have gotten real professional lessons. I didn't even know such a thing existed during my college days. Darn it!  I started hacking when I was about 20 but never really played much until after I got married. Max and I really enjoyed golfing together and always had our clubs with us on road trips.  My lowest handicap was an 11 but that's long gone and I'm happy now to stay in the 14 - 16 category.  We'll see what this upcoming season brings. 

Thanks for sharing and participating in our February Challenge.

Feb 11, 2022 10:21 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Bill Salvatore - YVP Blog   That tournament is always a big draw and al the top hitters should be there.


Brian England   I once worked with a man that was exceptional, a plus 2 handicap.  He had someone with deep pockets sponsor him and sent him to Florida to Q school.  He would take lessons during the morning session and then go to the range after lunch to practice.   While there in the afternoon, some of the young lads that were acting as caddies in the morning were practicing as well. and they were out hitting him with each club.  he turned tail and came home to CT

Feb 11, 2022 02:20 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Ron and Alexandra Seigel   A my wife tells everyone she is my second love and she's ok with that.


Michael Jacobs   There was really nothing in the post that needed pondering.

Feb 11, 2022 02:21 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Joan Cox   I had a meet-up in Charlotte for coffee this morning and then went and played my first round of 2022 with a cousin.


Carol Williams   My wife tried it once and didn't care for it plus it hurt her shoulders later.  She has no issue with the golf I play as it is always during the day, and she is seldom too far away

Feb 11, 2022 02:24 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Ed and here I was under the impression your nickname was "Speedy Silva"  ☺️

Feb 11, 2022 04:35 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

No George Souto   They once called me fast Eddie

Feb 11, 2022 04:43 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate Brokered by Real - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

A fantastic story of your love of golf, Ed. Never knew you enjoyed it that much and as Ben Hogan once said, "The most important shot in golf is the next one." I wish you many straight drives down the fairway and one putts!

Feb 11, 2022 06:40 PM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

I enjoyed reading your story Bill. Yes sometimes things have to be reworked, but your passion of the game continues to be alive and well!

Feb 12, 2022 04:01 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Ed Silva - Coming from a family of golfers, I get it.  I am not a golfer but understand the passion of the sport.  I caddied for my dad many times and we took vacations to resorts with golf courses. 

You put your marriage about your passion and the Universe is paying you back near your anniversary for the sacrifice you have made.  Great story for Valentine's Day.

Feb 12, 2022 08:13 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Wow Ed, this is a great chapter to share with us here in the Rain.  I wish I could play golf again but with back surgery, dr. said at least 2 years.  Counting the days.


Feb 12, 2022 08:50 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I am so sorry Ed that your dream was not realized but on the brighter side for me anyways is I would’ve never got to know you if you were a lofty golf professional 🙂

Feb 12, 2022 09:52 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!   My wife says she is okay with being second in my heart to the game, and I have to keep assuring her it's the other way .


Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400   We have all had crossroads that we have had to navigate and hopefully the path we chose didn't disappoint

Feb 12, 2022 11:59 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Sheri Sperry - MCNE®   I don't look at it as a lost opportunity and yes I out the passion into the marriage and saved some for the links.


Will Hamm  Can't mess with the back as the game will place a lot of strain on the spine

Feb 12, 2022 12:01 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS   We have to believe we are taking the right path and if we feel we have accomplished a lot, then all is right

Feb 12, 2022 12:02 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I had a love for golf Ed Silva but with the flood of 2011 I lost thousands of dollars of equipment and every course in town was severely damaged and closed for a couple of years. I did immediately purchase new clubs for my son and I but by the time we got out on the course the same love was no longer there. I am truly hoping it comes back this summer.

Thank you for sharing this side of you with us.

Feb 13, 2022 06:02 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Ed:

I really enjoyed reading your post and learning more about your personally. I am not a golfer and don't ever expect to be but I think I still understand the love that many have for the sport. I probably couldn't even hit the ball.


Feb 14, 2022 04:34 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

That's a lot of Hole in Ones Ed!  Love it!  Hey did you watch the PHX Open last weekend?  2 Hole in Ones on the 16th hole - which is rare. The crowd went WILD (glad i was watching at home).  That could have been you years ago!  And I agree, we all  take the path that seems right at the time and go for it.  I picked up my firstset of clubs in junior  high and lasted a few years but then got more into tennis and skiing.  Took me awhile to get back to golf. And honestly I wish I would/could have gone pro.  Maybe in our next life, et?  :)

Feb 15, 2022 03:11 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Feb 15, 2022 03:12 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

To this day, how anyone could land a hole in one mystifies, intrigues and causes me to pause in wonder. I believe those who accomplish this are remarkable. Thank you for being special Ed and for sharing

Feb 18, 2022 11:21 AM