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Friday's Food For Thought: Compassion For The War-Torn Innocence

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"Peace does not mean an absence of conflicts; differences will always be there. Peace means solving these differences through peaceful means; through dialogue, education, knowledge; and through humane ways." -- Dalai Lama

This post is not about a political story or a politician. It's about being human in all people with compassion struggling to understand this devastating, senseless war and the invasion forced upon the Ukrainians.

The headlines are grim. The world is more bitterly divided than in living memory, the rhetoric more heated and political. Hardly a day goes by without news of violence and the devastating war between Ukraine and Russia: attacks, shootings, murders, protests, threats, or other equally dark news.

It's easy to react with bitterness or anger, and it's easy to lash out at the other side or some group we deem responsible for the latest tragedy. 

Of course, it can be hard to show compassion in the face of events like these. So how does one go about doing that? It takes more effort than simply being willing to "walk a mile in the other person's shoes." It takes a genuine effort to understand where others are coming from and what's driving their thinking, feelings, and actions, which can have devastating consequences.

One thing is clear. This is not about turning the other cheek or simply accepting abuses that get heaped on us or a nation. And a world. It's about being brave enough to restrain anger and respond with compassion rather than with rage, even in the face of those things.

What specific things can we do to ease those people's suffering? Let's not forget that the "innocent people of both Ukraine and Russia do not want this senseless war."

Sometimes, that can be as simple as being willing to lend a sympathetic ear or a shoulder to cry on. At other times, something more may be appropriate. The first, best thing you can do is keep your anger in check and focus on soothing the hurt when, where, and as you are able.

The Story of Being There for Someone 

The power of simply being there for someone should never be understated.

In the video, the soldier (fresh from the war) saw a person in need of human company and decided to be there for him. The older man mistakenly thought the young man was his son, but he was incorrect.

The young soldier realized the value of being there for people in need. He knew that it does not matter who you are, what nationality you are, or what you believe, and humans are humans.

We can see this happening in the Ukraine-Russia conflict. People are opening their hearts and homes to the Ukrainians, desperately attempting to flee this horrific war for their lives.

The neighboring countries are providing shelter, a new home, food, clothing, and so much more because they know that they must be there for the innocent people of Ukraine.

Desperate situations and circumstances can bring out the best in people. In such scenarios, we forget the color of our skin, the passport we hold, and our religious beliefs. All we see are our fellow human beings who need help, and we feel privileged to be in a position to help them.

No matter how much money you have (or don't have), kindness is a gift you can always afford to give.

So, let's remember to be there for our fellow humans and treat them as we would want to be treated. Imagine what you would have done if your family members were among those innocent souls!

"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them." -- Dalai Lama

 

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After a fulfilling career spanning 16 years in the corporate world and 22 years in real estate, I have entered a new chapter of life---retirement. As a proud grandmother, I cherish every moment with my precious family. In the remaining hours, I am ready to pursue my lifelong passion for writing!

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Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I am fond of the teaching of the Dalai Lama.  And, I love this quote about peace.

Mar 25, 2022 09:26 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Aura, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Mar 25, 2022 09:27 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Aura loved your post and the comments that were augmenting your post, so sad and what a shame, Endre

Mar 25, 2022 10:40 PM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

What a beautiful post about an ugly situation. Compassion should be at the heart of any conversation about this senseless war.  Wish we could give every one in the world a happy and kindness pill and be done with it.  Imagine, if we could just start with the leaders? 

Mar 26, 2022 07:45 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Aura- what a lovely post!  It can be hard, but we have to remember that we're all human beings and not put labels on each other. Many are suffering and good or bad, right or wrong, we have to reach down - sometimes deep down- for compassion for that person. 

Mar 26, 2022 12:42 PM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Myrl Jeffcoat, I echo your fondness of Dalai Lama's teaching. I memorize most of his quotes and have watched many of his teachings on YouTube. Such inspirations he provides!Thank you for the feature on your famous group!

Mar 26, 2022 03:23 PM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Endre Barath, Jr. 

I thought of you and your family when fleeing Hungary while writing this post. I bet you can relate to some of the pains you and your family went through. But, I'm a firm believer that the sun always shines after a bad storm!

Mar 26, 2022 03:27 PM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD 

Maybe it's hard to comprehend such humans could do such horrific things to others. I remain hopeful that there are actual "humans" in the Russian leaders' people, and they have a family too!  

Mar 26, 2022 03:36 PM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Kathy Streib 

You spoke my thought with your beautiful and heartfelt words. Thank YOU!

Mar 26, 2022 03:39 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Aura loved your comment yes the sun always comes out after a storm:)Endre

Mar 26, 2022 10:58 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh my, what a beautiful post, packed with so much love and compassion, Aura. If this doesn't pull at one's heartstrings, well, heartless comes to mind.

 

I so wish I could do more than just donate. That seems so trivial when, among the many heroes helping in the war-torn area, women from neighboring countries are bravely delivering strollers to that war-torn area. 

Thank you for this post, Aura. Everyone on the planet needs to read it!

Mar 27, 2022 07:48 AM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Debe Maxwell, CRS 

There's so much anger, and who wouldn't be in this madness created by political leaders.

The thing is, the little people want to hear and feel our compassion. Getting angry and wishing ill for the deplorable criminals will fall on deft ears. So, without looking the other way, what we can do is comfort those in need as best we can. Let's redirect our energy toward positive action, one person or one day at a time! If there's a way, count me in!

Thank you for your thoughtful comments. 

Mar 27, 2022 06:38 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Count me in too, Aura! Anger never does help; that's for sure.

Have an amazing week ahead!

Mar 27, 2022 06:43 PM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

A very heartwarming video and great message about being there for someone in need.  Thanks for following me!

Mar 29, 2022 06:25 PM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Aloha, Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089 

It's a pleasure to follow you. Thank you so much for being here. 

Mar 29, 2022 07:15 PM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

This is a very sweet reminder that everyone you meet and those you will never know are all fighting some kind of battle, kindness to just one could heal the entire planet if everyone did it, just once, every day. 💖

Apr 04, 2022 09:08 AM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Candice A. Donofrio 

I am so happy you're here, and I only saw you once in a while in the Q&A section. Mimi Foster has said nice things about you! Thank you for your comment on my post and follow. 

Apr 04, 2022 09:59 AM
Candice A. Donofrio

I say nice things about MM too! And her romance novels . . . multi talented lady and the biggest heart on the planet!

Apr 04, 2022 10:01 AM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

Wow, thank you! Beautiful post, Aura. I tell my grandsons all the time - you can't control what other people do, but you can control yourself, so be kind. Thank you for sharing your kindness.

And thank you, Candice A. Donofrio. Miss you and your "realness." Would love to talk soon! Huge hugs to you both!

Apr 04, 2022 10:19 AM
Aura Alex

Mimi Foster I was up last night reading your novel. I couldn't put it down!! What a lovely book. Thank you for your comment on my post.

Apr 04, 2022 10:43 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Which one are you reading, Aura? Inquiring minds want to know!!

Apr 04, 2022 11:44 AM
Aura Alex

Debe Maxwell, CRS "Maisy's Mirror." I got it downloaded on my Kindle.

Apr 04, 2022 03:44 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

There’s something from always be said about just being human toward another. Being kind is pretty much the basis for every kind of thing that works

Apr 05, 2022 03:25 PM