To Move Or Not To Move

Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

Deciding to move 

Working with classic clients and the mature population, the decision to sell is huge, and it needs to happen in stages. First, the question,

Where will the seller go?

There are choices to consider: assisted living, a retirement community, a move closer to children, a nearby condo, or even into the children's home. 

I recently met with a friend of one of my favorite sellers about a move.  We were just there to chat and get to know each paperwork at this time. Her children are all in different states, and one daughter wants Mom nearby. How does one decide whether to stay in Baltimore or move to a city closer to the children?


Plus...Minus   HomeRome 410-530-2400

I took out a piece of paper and wrote Baltimore and NJ at the top.  Then a plus sign and minus sign under both.

And we started a conversation.

What are the advantages of staying in Baltimore or moving to NJ?

There were reasons to stay- friends, love of the house, familiar shopping, doctors, community involvement, and the comfort of being in your beloved home.  Then we talked about the advantages of moving to New Jersey, and there were several advantages. Being close to family,  celebrating birthdays and holidays together, getting involved in a new community, and decorating a new home with her beautiful collections. 



When they decide, I will enjoy representing this property, where every inch is filled with exciting arts and crafts and loaded with eye candy.

I had to leave before we got to the negatives. Funny, I was only going to stop by for a few minutes at noon to introduce myself, and the next thing I know almost late for my two o'clock showing appointment.


This exercise is not high-tech, but it effectively helps makes a decision.

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Comments (17)

Aura Alex
CloseMyDeal, LLC - Seattle, WA
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Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400; the situation you mentioned in this post is reminiscent of one of my neighbors who, after 33 years of living there and after his wife passed away, decided to stay because he couldn't afford to vacate the home. So much stuff (good and not so good) in the house that could easily bankrupt the poor guy in an attempt to move! 

Apr 18, 2022 04:33 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Margaret- deciding whether or not to move when you don't have to, is such a hard decision. I remember going through that before we moved back to Houston. 

Apr 18, 2022 05:39 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Aura Alex, That sounds like a really hard and sad situation.

Apr 18, 2022 07:30 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Kathy Streib, For sure you know the challenge of making the decision firsthand.

Apr 18, 2022 07:32 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude


Making those decisions about moving and where can be tough, and it's generally a process, unless medical conditions warrant other necessary decisions.

How fortunate your seller's friend is to have you help work through some important questions and issues so the right decision can be made. 


Apr 18, 2022 07:50 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Jeff, It is a tough decision that we have all been a part of. Thank you for your, always positive, comments!

Apr 19, 2022 08:15 AM
Gwen Fowler-864-710-4518 SC * Mountain* Lake*Home
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

Charting the positives and negatives will open your eyes to what is essential.  I stress to all my clients to decide before it has to be made for you.

Apr 19, 2022 05:05 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Good to see you, Gwen.  And it is a important to make the decision before it has to be made by others.

Apr 19, 2022 08:18 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Putting pluses and minuses on paper can help emphasize a decision you were already leaning towards!

Apr 19, 2022 05:08 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400


Quite simple, but also quite an effective way to help make the decision.

Apr 19, 2022 08:21 AM
Eileen Burns
Trans State Commercial RE Ft. Lauderdale/Miami/Palm Beach - Fort Lauderdale, FL
FLorida Real Estate Connector

Most folks do not realize it's a process to get the home listed and sold.  The decision must come first and the + or - must happen in the preparation process.  Ever watch love it or list it?  Many decide to stay after the experience of home redesign.  I watch elderly neighbors struggle to keep their independence living alone.  It gets harder as you age in place alone.  

Apr 19, 2022 05:41 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Eileen, I am glad that agents like you can help with this stressful process! 

Apr 19, 2022 08:23 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Margaret - I like the exercise.  I actually did it which many father years ago and it helped him make a decision.

Apr 19, 2022 06:20 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Good for you, Grant Schneider. It is a simple but effective exercise!

Apr 19, 2022 08:27 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Hello Margaret, weighing the pros and cons of a move when a person is unsure is a prudent thing to do.  No doubt, she will figure it out and make the right decision. 

Apr 19, 2022 09:02 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Good to see you, Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist,

Weighing the pros and cons can help make the  right decision. 

Apr 19, 2022 09:52 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Margaret I am approaching that stage in life, and all the choices you mentioned are a possibility except moving in with my children.  The only way I would ever agree to that would be if their were an in-law apartment so I could have my own space.

Apr 19, 2022 02:43 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

George Souto I’m glad you see this post as relevant to your thinking. 

Apr 19, 2022 06:49 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

For those Baltimore buyers and sellers, who decide to move, their choice to use Margaret Rome would be a wise one.

Apr 19, 2022 07:48 PM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Good idea!  And I think doing that exercise with another person is very helpful!

Apr 20, 2022 01:35 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

This is an excellent method to flush out opinions.  It could be even more interesting if a husband and wife had to put pen to paper for each category separately!   Great post!

Apr 26, 2022 10:34 AM