Get After It: Have You Listened Or Just Heard?

Real Estate Agent with Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 CA BRE# 01261476

"The biggest problem 
in communication
is the illusion
that it has taken place."

~ Writer, George Bernard Shaw


Your action for today

is to have a conversation

with someone with whom

you've resolved a problem.

Ask if everything is

still okay in that area.


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Comments (9)

Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

We will have to open up our minds a little bit and kind of diverge from the path that we are used to, I suppose. :)

May 14, 2022 11:38 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I don't know why, but these words from George Bernard Shaw, remind me of another quote that asks a question: "If a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?"  

May 15, 2022 04:25 AM
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Hmm, I have never really thought of following up after a problem had been resolved.  For me, I guess if I really wanted that person in my life, I would definitely follow up.

May 15, 2022 06:01 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Thomas - things of all kinds happen for all sorts of reasons.  And not.  

May 15, 2022 06:25 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Thomas. Everyone is guilty at one time or another of hearing a comment but not listening! A good reminder, the wise listen! Enjoy your day.

May 15, 2022 07:08 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hmmm... I'm not sure I want to dredge up any wounds that have started to heal. I'll have to think about this one.

May 15, 2022 07:33 AM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

Carol Williams I understand your hesitation; let me give you context. I wouldn't revisit old wounds, but I'd check in with people I love and or care about. E.G. 

Once I repair a leak, I verify the pipes are dry. Then 24 hours later, I revisit the pipe with the tissue test, if the facial tissue remains dry when I've wiped the affected plumbing and area, then I know the leak truly was repaired.

I check in with my bride once per week, typically Sundays, on three questions:

1. Can I be doing more as your husband?

2. Is there something I should do less of or stop doing as your husband?

3. Is there something you need from me that you currently do not feel you have?

and then, if we'd recently made up from a disagreement, I'll ask, how are we doing?

I ask because I care to listen to (not hear) the truthful answer and just digest it and decide what to do next with the information. It's not about reheating an issue or getting back into to it. 

May 15, 2022 07:47 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Thomas, when necessary, I do check back around with folks. Example our house cleaners (owner/boss) has been very ill and I wanted to cheer her on and let her know all is ok and her daughter is handling everything for all the clients in a great manner so she wouldn't worry.   And there is a line I won't cross - and that my friend is 'drama land'.  Some folks prefer living in 'drama land'  for years and that's fine.  There are other folks to handle that land category!  Just not Banana!

May 15, 2022 11:04 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Thomas - if I think that I may have been misunderstood or if someone said things were ok just to shut me up, I may try to approach them to make sure things were ok. 

May 15, 2022 06:46 PM