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You Say You Want Better Quality of Life

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You Say You Want Better Quality of Life

But what does that really mean?

Usually after a very busy spring, I start to get the calls:

Denise, I am so burned out! I don’t even want to get out of bed tomorrow!

Denise, I need to have a week where I don’t have to talk to anyone!

Denise, that’s it! I can’t do real estate anymore. I am just so out of balance!

Most real estate agents I know work like this. They get a mountain of business, then they burn out and don’t talk with anyone. Then after a few weeks of not talking to anyone, they start to panic about their lack of business and rev back up again.

We all know this amount of stress isn’t healthy, but you can’t just flip a switch and change the way you approach business and your life. Most of you who identify with what I just said would be miserable at a 9-5 desk job, so the key is to make small adjustments and be mindful of your quality of life before you get too far out of balance.

How do you establish good quality of life habits? I have a three-step process for that!

STEP ONE: DEFINE YOUR QUALITY OF LIFE

I want you to think about this step in three separate categories:

  1. What do you need to recharge your batteries?
  2. What do you enjoy in your life?
  3. What do you need in terms of your time off?

Let’s take a closer look at each of these questions:

What do you need to recharge your batteries?

Some people need time each week in which they can catch up and don’t have to talk with anyone. Others need to work out four times a week or spend time in nature. Others really need to watch their sleep. Someone else may need to curl up with a book and a cup of tea. I want you to really think about the small activities that replenish your soul and make you a more-pleasant person to be around.

Remember, when we get tired and burned out, it takes longer for us to complete activities and we can’t problem-solve as well. We miss details, are worse drivers, and are short with our family members. Ironically, when agents get too busy, they cancel these types of activities because they don’t have time. However, these are the last activities that should be cancelled!

What do you enjoy in your life?

Time spent with family and friends? Golf or pickleball? Gardening? Reading? Many burned-out agents I talk to have forgotten what they enjoy! Give this some thought and jot down the things that you really enjoy in your life.

What do you need in terms of your time off?

Some agents are happy just getting in the car, going somewhere else, and working remotely while others need to completely unplug. What are your vacation expectations? Are you okay with partially-on and totally-off vacations? Some are, some aren’t.

STEP TWO: QUANTIFY

Now that you have your lists, it is time to quantify each and make some rules. The key here is to be realistic. Don’t take a day off per week if you can’t hold yourself to it. Here are some examples:

  • Dinner with best friend once per month
  • Sunday mornings - breakfast, coffee, and the paper
  • Nature walks - Sunday and Wednesday night
  • Date night twice a month
  • Morning of Power - Wednesday mornings
  • Weekend away - once every quarter
  • Annual vacation - NO WORK!

Now that you have your list, the corresponding events need to go on your calendar. If you involve other people, work with them to get as many of those dates on the calendar and booked. Make reservations, schedule hotels and flights – you are much less likely to cancel those than you are a placeholder. If you are doing a nature walk or hike, plan where you are going. Visualizing the event will also make it less-likely for you to cancel if you get busy.

Let’s talk a minute about Hour of Power. This is what I call that golden time in which you are free of distractions to get stuff done. What I like to do is create an event in my calendar, and when I think of things I need to get done during that time, I can just open my calendar and add a note. That way, I can better-visualize my productivity during that time and because I have added value to the event, and there would be consequences for not getting those things done (those items would still be undone the following week) were I to cancel.

STEP THREE: DEFEND

Now that the items are on your calendar, it is up to you to make sure that you book your appointments and work around them. If you tend to let your clients dictate your schedule, this may be tough at first.

In the example above, this person needs to have a relaxing Sunday morning at the house, having a nice breakfast, coffee, and reading the paper. That might mean that person is not available until 11:00 am on a Sunday morning and they aren’t available after 5:00 because they need that nature walk to recharge. That still leaves six hours on a Sunday which you may decide you are available.

But here is where we run into trouble:

Buyer on a Friday: “Wow! There are ten new listings that came on yesterday and today with offer review dates Monday afternoon. I know we can’t look at all ten today, but can we look at some today and some on Sunday late afternoon? We have to go out of town Saturday and won’t be back until Sunday around 4:00.”

What do you do? Many agents would accommodate their schedule and skip the nature walk.

But what if that nature walk was as important to your health as taking prescribed medication or having a mammogram?

There is a health cost and a business cost to not taking the time you need to be healthy and stay in balance. The risk may not be as apparent as, say, driving 100 mph or smoking two packs of cigarettes per day, but what if by not taking that walk and working instead, you were too tired to help your son with his Sunday night homework? What if you weren’t as sharp the next day when writing an offer and your buyers suffered as a result? What if skipping that walk on Sunday made you more prone to injuries the following Wednesday during your walk? Those are the hidden consequences of not taking care of yourself physically and spiritually.

In my Zebra Report next week, I am going to share tips for making time for the things that will bring you in balance, but this week I really want you to work on adding a few events to your schedule that YOU need and DEFENDING those by SAYING NO, gracefully. Your body and soul need a break!

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By Denise Lones CSP, M.I.R.M., CDEI - The founding partner of The Lones Group, Denise Lones, brings nearly three decades of experience in the real estate industry. With agent/broker coaching, expertise in branding, lead generation, strategic marketing, business analysis, new home project planning, product development, Denise is nationally recognized as the source for all things real estate. With a passion for improvement, Denise has helped thousands of real estate agents, brokers, and managers build their business to unprecedented levels of success, while helping them maintain balance and quality of life.

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Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Denise-wise words as always. It's only human that agents want to "make hay while the sun shines" and it has been shining brightly lately.  You have to decide what's truly important for your mental and physical health and for your longevity in your career. 

Jun 03, 2022 06:06 PM
Denise Lones

This has been a tough period for many agents, especially if they are not skilled at attracting listing business. It's meant a lot of extra time working with buyers and high-pace performance and response to match the demand of the market. Many of our clients have done well - though they have the benefit of a lot of coaching that has prepared them for this moment of the market, but when this hyper market goes on like this year after year due to lack of inventory, it becomes the norm and even experienced agents can lose sight of what a healthy normal feels like in their lives. So I'll be addressing different kinds of balance topics all this month of June. Good to hear from you Kathy.  - Denise

Jun 10, 2022 09:34 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Denise and thank you for the great information to share with us here in the Rain.  Make it a great day!

Jun 04, 2022 09:01 AM
Denise Lones

You are welcome Will. Thank you. - Denise

Jun 10, 2022 09:34 AM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Weichert Realtors, Welch and Company - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

In this business, sometimes a lot happens at the same time and balance can be tricky--especially on weekends when so many buyers look at homes and offers are written. It's difficult to plan personal time!

Jun 04, 2022 10:35 AM
Denise Lones

I'm looking forward to covering this more in June. Agents - if you're reading this, Zebra Report is only half of our discussion. I'm also coaching on this topic live to members of Club Zebra and you can learn more here about how to join for free this month. - Denise

Jun 10, 2022 09:37 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

GREAT post.  There are so many times that we are burned out.  During the last 2+ years we've worked harder than ever trying to get offers through, find homes to sell, etc.  It was VERY easy to get burned out.  And then we stop calling, and then panic ensues.  Great thoughts here.

Jun 04, 2022 11:42 AM
Denise Lones

Thank you Jan. I appreciate you! - Denise

Jun 10, 2022 09:37 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Jun 04, 2022 06:23 PM
Jim Paulson
Progressive Realty (Boise Idaho) www.Progressive-Realty.info - Boise, ID
Owner,Broker

Balance and vacations are critical to a healthy mindset.

I learned many years ago to combine my real estate classes and conferences with vacations.  For example, since I already paid to get somewhere new, why not spend a few extra days there to enjoy it. (i.e. taking a cruise while in Orlando and New Orleans).

I am still trying to perfect my balance.  I have learned that a nice Malbec in one hand and a medium rare prime rib in other does the trick.  However, if I have too much of that balance (i.e. wine) I tend to loose my balance.

Jun 05, 2022 07:47 AM
Denise Lones

Jim - Great comment! In fact, vacation coverage will be our topic in the coming week. - Denise

Jun 10, 2022 09:39 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good afternoon Denise,

I'm so glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her "Ah-Ha" moments for the week. I missed this one. Such wonderful words of wisdom if you want to maintain a quality of life. You are the only one who can do it..if you aren't operating with balance in your life and understand what that means to you then you can't expect it will happen with out you sitting down and asking and answering the hard question. You are the only one who can decide what "balance" means to you.

Jun 05, 2022 09:58 AM
Denise Lones

Our CEO, Shauna Naf, held a great coaching segment on how to figure out what balance means for each agent at our last coaching call. Members can access the replay here. There's a link in my comment above to Mary to join for free. - Denise

Jun 10, 2022 09:41 AM
Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
NC Real Estate Transition & Relocation 919-602-848

This is the second post I've read today about Realtor burn out. It's a real thing. I've been there. It is important to time block for yourself whether is it self care or self preservation. Agents also need to learn to use leverage. It's so important!

Jun 06, 2022 06:36 AM
Denise Lones

Carla - If you're catching this topic more than once I hope that it's not because you too are struggling with burn-out. Wishing you the best - Denise

Jun 10, 2022 09:42 AM