Does it Bother You If Your Friends, Relatives Don't Use Your Services?

Real Estate Agent with Diamond Partners Inc 00244377
Original content by Noah Seidenberg 475.140531

Ever get pissed off or feel hurt inside when you find out that your Uncle used another Realtor to list their home? Does it make you upset if your "best friend" uses a different person to find a home to buy? It can sting. It used to bother me. Crying one

I could not figure out why they did all not call me. Sure I have had a bunch of people close to me who have used me to buy or sell property, but not everyone. One day I was at a listing appointment and having a serious talk with the home owner a woman who had just been divorced. She is a financial planner and we started really hitting it off and talking about our work.

She said to me that her favorite neighbor across the street was a Realtor as we walked around. Then she said to me "heck I don't want her to know my business, that is why I called you". Then she said that she has someone do her finances, her 401k and IRA that she hired away from her own company.

As I left, contract in hand I got to thinking. I don't want to get too heavy here but if your Aunt Sally who you really loved was a doctor would you like to have her examine you in an intimate way to make sure you were healthy? Not me, I want someone I do not know all that well personally but professionally yes. Even if my aunt was top notch and it was common knowledge I think I would pass on a prostate exam.

Enough of that. Do not let your ego get hurt if you find out the friend of family member did not use you to buy or sell their home. It does not mean you are a bad Realtor. Do not hold any grudge inside about what that did and congratulate them when you hear, don't mention your feelings

Be a professional

Be a professional

Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker Evanston
Toll Free (800) 858-7917
Office (847) 316-8529
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Real Estate Specialist
Chicago-land and Suburbs
Licensed Illinois real estate broker
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Carol Culkin - Licensed Real Estate Salesperson for ReeceNichols Real Estate, is your source for real estate in Overland Park and the bordering cities of Leawood, Olathe, Mission, Miriam, Lenexa and Shawnee, Stillwell and Spring Hill. Carol has been ranked as an award winning agent and offers her clients over 10 years of real estate experience.


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Comments (4)

Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

What a great Reblog from an Active Rain member who is looking down from the SKY and appreciates that his post got re-blogged after he passed on....Endre

Jun 15, 2022 11:27 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Carol. My friend Noah may have passed, but his advice is still top notch! Enjoy your day!

Jun 16, 2022 05:23 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Carol - your reblog prompted me to look back to when Noah originally posted this.  Although, he is gone and that's sad it's also nice to see the comments from members.   Thanks for finding this jewel from the AR archives.

Jun 16, 2022 08:54 AM
Charles Ross - eXp Realty LLC
eXp Realty LLC Salina Group - Salina, KS
Love To Help People

Wow this is an acticle that all realtors should read.It is really an eye opener

Dec 11, 2022 05:21 AM