Ask An Ambassador: Your Permanent Record

Real Estate Agent with Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 SAL.2002007747

This morning I was working on an Ask An Ambassador post.  I was 400 words in but it just didn't feel right

Factually accurate, yes. 

Valid opinions.

But it just seemed a bit off.  Something about tone wasn't quite what I wanted to I clicked Save to draft and closed the post.  Maybe I'll come back to it and try to get it right, or maybe it never sees the light of day.

In my earlier days I might have pushed through my concern and published the post.  But over the years the realization that ever post, every comment and every question posted and answered here or elsewhere is on our "permanent record".

Sure, we can delete whatever we typed, but is it ever really gone?

Probably not. 

If there's damage to be done, it's been done.

Maybe it's a screen capture, or maybe it's just the memory of what was typed, but there's a good chance that what was posted outlives any deletion attempt.

If you're lucky, maybe you're quick enough to wipe everything before it's seen.

But if you're not lucky, there may be serious damage to your reputation.

I'd prefer not to have to do any explaining to my broker or anyone else.  It's far easier to fill my blog with content that lasts for years and gives me a chance for a home buyer or seller to call me.

Until next Tuesday, just Ask An Ambassador if you need help,

Bill & Liz aka BLiz

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Comments (17)

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

There are so many things we can do in haste or anger that can impact us for a very long time. If we, do it online it's there forever

Jun 21, 2022 07:19 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

I'm not associated with everyone I used to be associated with.  Sometimes it's because of something they typed, sometimes it's me.  Some bridges I'm not willing to repair.

Jun 21, 2022 07:46 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Reflecting on what we write before we hit the submit button is in alignment with reflecting on what we say before we actually speak the words.


Jun 21, 2022 07:26 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

At least (most times) when we say something verbally there's just the speaker and the other person.  There are some topics I won't discuss with anyone, much less type what I think and it put it out for general discussion.

Jun 21, 2022 07:47 AM
Rocky Dickerson
Realty One Group - Las Vegas, NV
Superior Service!

Of course, if you really want a ruckus - just ask a question on Q & A. LOL

Jun 21, 2022 08:32 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Just give it a SLIGHT opening for political interpretation and away we go!

Jun 21, 2022 09:45 AM
Don Baker
Lane Realty - Eatonton, GA
Lake Sinclair Specialist

The internet can be forever, just a archived copy of something can be found sometimes after being pulled down.  I mean look at what they dig up on politicians even after they have deactivated accounts.

Jun 21, 2022 09:45 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

If you're a celebrity, anything you've ever posted seems to be retrievable.  Maybe some people screen capture every post as soon as it goes up.

Jun 21, 2022 10:13 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Ahhh, yes. Sometimes the best thing to do is leave the post in draft for a day or two and then recheck to see if it's good to publish. Sometimes the answer is "no."

And once on the Internet, you cannot take it back. Not totally.

Jun 21, 2022 02:08 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

I occasionally get the post that I just can't get the tone I want.  With print being a flat medium, it's too easy for something to come off as a rant rather than an object lesson as intended.

Jun 21, 2022 02:35 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Bill,

I'm with Kat Palmiotti Sometimes the best thing to do is leave the post in draft for a day or two and then review to see if it's good enough to publish and withstand time.

Jun 21, 2022 06:19 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

And sometimes the next day just a little tinkering can fix it.  Other times, I look and go Naaaah....this one is straight to the garbage can.

Jun 21, 2022 06:39 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Liz and Bill Spear - Whether we like it or not, I think we are all learning that whatever we do there is a "permanent record" of where we've been, what we said, what we did, and how others were impacted by our actions. It may not be apparent immediately that someone was offended, that we spoke or wrote in haste, or made a mistake, but when put in writing or recorded, it is nearly impossible to retract, erase, edit, or deny. Draft may be our only safety net. I like what you said "sometimes the next day just a little tinker can fix it." Those old familiar words, better be safe than sorry are so true! 

Jun 22, 2022 02:41 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

True, the offense won't always be known.  Sometimes (Facebook in particular) it's the "death of a 1000 cuts".  While no one thing may have been too much, an accumulation of attitude/opinions may be enough for me to declare "enough".

Jun 22, 2022 11:16 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much for sharing some of your personal experience and advice.

Jun 22, 2022 05:09 AM
Liz and Bill Spear


Jun 22, 2022 11:16 AM
Erik Hiss
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Worthington, OH
You can trust me for all your real estate needs!

I would have a lot more problems on my hands if I didn't stop and go back to review my initial thoughts on messages.

Jun 22, 2022 05:49 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

True, initial reactions are often not safe for public consumption :)

Jun 22, 2022 11:17 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Bill (and Liz too) - many posts-in-process never make it past pondering for me.  And while my number has fluctuated since its peak, your thoughts expressed here still resonate.   

Jun 22, 2022 05:51 AM
Michael Jacobs

The "draft" status remains a "work-in-progress" on multiple levels.  

Jun 22, 2022 03:38 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

There are certain topics I can't get the negative feel out of, so they just don't get past draft.

Jun 22, 2022 11:17 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Now you have me curious, haha.  I have never worried about trying to be perfect and I am sure that there are many mistakes on my permanent blogging record.

Jun 22, 2022 06:36 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Not a matter of being perfect so much as not risking something being perceived in a much different way than I intended.

Jun 22, 2022 11:18 AM
Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
NC Real Estate Transition & Relocation 919-602-848

Great point! It is funny how someone seems to find something you wrote many years ago and ask you about it.

Jun 22, 2022 06:39 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

I had another call today from work I did years ago.  If I'm fortunate, it turns into my biggest sale ever.

Jun 22, 2022 11:19 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

 I am so with you on this one Bill.  If I have a hint of this just doesn't seem right - it's not. Better to sleep on it and deal with it in the morning. Paying attention to that gut is important.

Jun 22, 2022 10:28 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

We've been doing this long enough to know the risks of a certain post.  When the risk vs. reward ratio is bad, it's time for the trashcan.

Jun 22, 2022 11:19 AM
Brian L. Sirota, Esq.
Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney) - Orange, CA
For Solutions: (714) 501-7660

Bill,  I applaud this type of self-critique and believe it comes from a more disciplined and diplomatic mindset.   

Jun 23, 2022 04:54 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Brian, You've seen my Facebook posts.  I basically have no energy for fights that don't have a chance of changing anything.  Too much to do, and too little time to deal with much of it.

Jun 23, 2022 07:24 PM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Like pee in a pool  . . . you'll never get it out . . . 
Unlike pee in a pool . . . you can't drain the internet.
I guess I'm damn lucky to be my own broker! LOL
"Honey, you gotta sin to be saved!"  ~ Mae West

Jun 24, 2022 10:04 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

There are some perks to being your own boss!

Jun 24, 2022 04:24 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Oh, this is so true, Bill! Thank goodness for draft mode and for the delete button! If something upsets me, I typically wait several hours to respond! In fact, just yesterday I received a nastygram from a buyer who terminated one of my agent's seller's Contract. Now, he wants back in and the seller wants nothing to do with him. I kept that until about an hour ago before I responded. I needed to not say what I REALLY wanted to say.

Jun 24, 2022 06:01 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

D'oh!  In the snooze you lose category for that buyer!

Jun 24, 2022 06:37 PM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Well done on the hold.  We all tend to overlook the long run when thinking about the work that has already been put in and just launching anyway.  Kudos.  Mark

Jun 27, 2022 02:56 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Mark, I try (not always successfully) to keep the big picture in mind when blogging.  That post is still in the draft bin.

Jun 27, 2022 07:52 PM