Motivational Monday…Be One if You Want One

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Motivational Monday…Be One if You Want One

There’s something I heard that was so simple and made so much sense…


If you want a good friend, be a good friend. 


Good friend???  Several years ago when my good friend learned that Larry was having surgery, she offered to drive down (from Northern VA to FL) just to sit with me. Had she been in FL I would have taken her up on it but that was going above and beyond!)



Want to read some “good friend” stories?


I read that as we go through life the number of real and true friends we have becomes less. Which makes a certain amount of sense. When we are in school and through work, we have a large circle of acquaintances and friends. 

But life happens, people move, we have families, interests change and we change. 


In fact, did you know that…

*The average American hasn't made a new friend in 5 years

*The average adult has 16 friends

*“The average American has three friends for life, five people they really like and would hang out with one-on-one, and eight people they like but don’t spend time with one-on-one or seek out.

Another interesting tidbit is that 45% of people surveyed would love to make new friends if only they knew how. 




So what do you do??


-Don’t say “We need to get together.” Do it! Put it on your calendar.

-Follow your interests! Whatever they may be, seek out others with similar interests, whether it’s cooking, hiking, church, fishing…

-Give of your time. Volunteers are always needed and what better way to meet new friends.


But whatever you decide to do remember that if you want a good friend…be a good friend. 


How about a quote about Friends from someone who should know??





Where would you be without friends? The people to pick you up when you need lifting? We come from homes far from perfect, so you end up almost parent and sibling to your friends - your own chosen family. There's nothing like a really loyal, dependable, good friend. Nothing. Jennifer Aniston


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Comments (29)

Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathy, I definitely agree you have to BE a good friend to have a good friend.   Interesting stats.

Jul 18, 2022 06:53 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy like many things in life it first starts with us.

Jul 18, 2022 08:19 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA

We have been doing a lot of work at my dad's rental.  He bought it for his mom years ago.  As I was walking around the house, I saw some markings in the concrete sidewalk.  It said, "The Bob and Ray Show." I do not even remember helping to put the sidewalk in, but there was the proof.  Bob and I did everything together.  I bet I have not talked with him in over 20 years.  We were like brothers.  I need to reach out to him.

Jul 18, 2022 08:32 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Friends go in and out of your life and sometimes it's not easy to keep the friendship going. Very clever adding that "friends" video Kathy!

Jul 18, 2022 10:09 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Interesting statistics Kathy.  And I agree if you want a good friend be a good friend.  We are blessed to have many what I consider good friends and many of us have all known each other for 40 years, some of us for 20 years and others less than 5. It's fun to meet in groups but it's also nice to meet one on one at times.  Last Saturday we had an old friend over for dinner with her new/old flame - it was so much fun!

Jul 18, 2022 10:16 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathy,


The quote "if you want a good friend, be a good friend" resonates with me. It just makes sense.  My good friends are like family to me.

Jul 18, 2022 01:01 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Gwen Fowler-864-710-4518 SC * Mountain* Lake*Home I understand!  And I can't imagine losing someone so close at such a young age. 

They really do Brian England It becomes especially hard when you've moved around a lot. 

Jul 18, 2022 03:57 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Roy Kelley I agree. I'm at that age when your true friends you've known for years are passing away. 

I will agree Michael Jacobs it's a bit like giving out to the universe what you want or hope for. 

Jul 18, 2022 04:00 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Dorie Dillard Austin TX the stats are interesting. I remember reading many years ago that as you age, you have many acquaintances but fewer true friends. 

I agree with you Nina Hollander, Broker I was born and grew up in Houston and ha many friends. But we moved away and were gone off and on for over 30 years. I sometimes wish we could have stayed here  but I also am glad we move where we did and met the friends we did. 

Jul 18, 2022 04:03 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Bill Salvatore - East Valley I've met some people who want friends but don't understand it's a two-way street. 

Grant Schneider I hope you do!!!!

Jul 18, 2022 04:05 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Wayne Martin you are so lucky!!!  Do you still see him??

Joan Cox they surprised me as well!!!  And yes be the kind of friend you'd like to have. 

Jul 18, 2022 04:07 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

George Souto that is so true/ We do have control over our lives. 

Ray Henson what a nice story!!!  I hope you'll contact Bob!!!  When I came back to Houston for a visit many years ago, I got together with my junior high car pool group. I loved it. 

Jul 18, 2022 04:09 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 people do come and's the way life is. But true friends...they are there no matter what. Glad you liked the video. 

Jul 18, 2022 04:10 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

See my friend a minimum of once a year. He lives in South Carolina and the wife and I visit when we can.

Jul 18, 2022 04:56 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker I love that!!!  we've been lucky in that we met our neighbor the day we moved in and he and his family were over for our first Thanksgiving. 

Jul 18, 2022 05:01 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

There's loads of truth in that quote, Kathy.  I hope you have a great week!

Jul 18, 2022 05:08 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

I feel the same way Sheri Sperry - MCNE® My friends become my family and my own family treats them like that as well. 

Jul 18, 2022 05:15 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy Streib  I just loved your post, when I was growing up my father was a big shot and had hundreds of "friends" then when the regime changed directions they thought he would be out.... he was left with about two handful of friends.... amazingly my father was back in power... and he said those were not my friends... as life went on I realized there are only about two handful who are the "Real Friends" and I am  a firm believer that the rest are just acquaintances.... loved your post, Endre

Jul 18, 2022 10:38 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Our best friends, the ones we hang out the most often with...actually they pretty much are the only ones we hang out with...are our children.

I have four friends from high school that will be friends for life. We only get together a couple times a year but we stay in touch via text regularly.

Jul 19, 2022 02:50 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Love this post Kathy!  Interesting statistics. When I moved to Arizona, I had a few friends from Alabama I stayed in contact with, 2 in Kansas. Since moving here, I've gained a LOT of friends, a lot of whom are in real estate.  Being single in Arizona has paid dividends in friendships :)  Thank you for this post, reminding me how lucky I am to have as many friends!

Jul 19, 2022 01:43 PM