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When the flag game is too strong.

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Real Estate Agent with Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 MD594797

Last weekend I was out house-hunting with my buyers in Laurel, MD. One of the quaint Cape Cods we toured had a lot going for it. It had a front porch, a gorgeous screened-in back porch and fenced-in yard, and the price was right. But it also came with a few flaws, fixable mostly with some elbow grease and home improvement funds, but for one.

That one "thing" was its view from the front porch. 

Across the street from this quaint Cape Cod sits the type of house that you'd would cross the street for just to not accidentally brush against the fence and trigger a "welcome salute". It was gloomy, with a bad vibe and a strong flag game. Not just any flags but the ones that loudly announce to the world that not all are welcome here. 

My buyers passed on the quaint Cape Cod, of course, and we all felt sorry for its seller (and the listing agent). I can't imagine anybody wanting to come home to this every day, or proudly inviting family and friends over to celebrate house warming. 

It got me thinking. How would I approach this situation as a listing agent, what would I advise my sellers? One can always try to counter such hate with love, or hope that this neighbor will up and move... but both are long term strategies. 

I don't have an answer, honestly. I am not one to shy away from a challenge, but this is definitely one I could do without. I just know that I wouldn't be the one knocking on the neighbor's door. What would you do? 

P.S. This home is obviously not located in a community governed by an HOA. One of the benefits of HOAs is that you would have a course of action. It may not be resolved overnight either, but you could ask the HOA board to enforce the architectural guidelines and rules & regulations. 

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Comments(12)

Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Andrea - I remember my father complained about some of the unkempt houses of some of our neighbors and would have preferred a neighborhood with restrictions.

Jul 28, 2022 11:37 AM
Andrea Bedard

HOA rules can be a blessing Grant Schneider

Jul 28, 2022 04:43 PM
Cindy Edwards
RE/MAX Checkmate - Johnson City, TN
CRS, GRI, PMN - Northeast Tennessee 423-677-6677

Oh, Andrea-that's a tough one.  I do feel sorry for the listing agent and the sellers. Restrictions can indeed be a blessing.

Jul 28, 2022 12:32 PM
Andrea Bedard

I know Cindy Edwards! It is probably the reason why it hasn't sold yet because it was otherwise a darling little house on a great lot. 

Jul 28, 2022 04:46 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Andrea,
That is an interesting dilemma. I'll have to think about that.

Jul 28, 2022 02:47 PM
Andrea Bedard

I've been thinking about it Carol Williams, as much as I would want to help the seller sell, I have no idea how to deal with such a dilemma. It's just not possible to put a positive spin on it. 

Jul 28, 2022 04:47 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Oh Yikes,  I guess the hate is alive and well in some people and they like to let the world know where their hate resides.  

Jul 28, 2022 04:36 PM
Andrea Bedard

It's really a shame because otherwise it's a beautiful street with strong curb appeal all around. The house across the street made us super uncomfortable, I could not imagine coming home to this every day - or having to look at it from my front porch. Yikes is right Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Jul 28, 2022 04:51 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Andrea- it's certainly not something I'd want to see day in and day out. That's a tough question. 

Jul 28, 2022 07:13 PM
Andrea Bedard

Me neither Kathy Streib, it's not a pretty sight and made us quite uncomfortable.  

Jul 29, 2022 08:58 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Andrea... I know I wouldn't be the one to go knocking on that door. Not sure, given your description, that the homeowner would get very far with his/her neighbors. This is a perfect example of why I recommend homes in HOA communities in my area. I have a feeling this is a situation where someone will have to fall in love with a home and be willing to overlook the neighbors.

Jul 29, 2022 05:57 AM
Andrea Bedard

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and believe that one can find an acceptable compromise with kindness and understanding.. But in this case? I am not so sure and wouldn't want to be the one to try. 

Jul 29, 2022 09:00 AM
Dan Hopper
Dan Hopper - Gold Way RE - Westminster, CO
Colorado Broker / Referral Services

No doubt that the Homeowner looking to sell does not need "Sanford and Son" next door to attract the buyers.  We all have dealt with such crummy situations, and mostly got through the lazy neighbor that ignores their property condition.

Jul 29, 2022 06:57 AM
Andrea Bedard

I've had clients help their neighbor spruce up their yard a bit, even paint the trim, but this? I don't know what the solution could be. The rest of the street is lovely! 

Jul 29, 2022 09:02 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Andrea - so much in real estate reflects everyday life.  

Jul 30, 2022 03:43 AM
Andrea Bedard

Very true Michael Jacobs

Aug 02, 2022 10:04 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Andrea,

I have had six homes, and all have been in HOAs.  I would much rather deal with an HOA than a homeowner I am not sure about. Issues can come up, but issues can be resolved dealing with an HOA.

Jul 30, 2022 07:50 AM
Andrea Bedard

That is one benefit of buying in subdivision with an HOA. There's a path/hope to resolve a conflict. 

Aug 02, 2022 10:05 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Andrea:

That's a tough situation for sure, and I imagine others in the immediate area are not pleased. There is something to be said for HOA restrictions. Not sure what the solution is for the listing agent and sellers. I know I would NOT be knocking on that neighbor's door!

Jeff

Jul 30, 2022 12:26 PM
Andrea Bedard

Me neither Jeff Dowler, CRS, of course, the owner could be the nicest person but I wouldn't want to take the chance to find out if he is or not. 

Aug 02, 2022 10:06 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

There is always a shot with the zoning board as they are also responsible for keeping neighborhoods clean and can enforce unsightly items in front of a house. In today's society with so much insensitive behavior being called out, it is worth a shot

Jul 31, 2022 03:32 PM
Andrea Bedard

That's a great suggestion Ed Silva. If I were the listing agent I'd rather try this than knock on the neighbor's door.  

Aug 02, 2022 10:08 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Andrea Bedard - One bad apple can spoil the Orchard. It's a tough situation. These are trying times, aren't they! I wish you strength and courage to provide good consultation. I was in a tough situation because of a neighbor issue and finally cancelled the listing. It was a hard thing to do because I'm not a quitter. I wish you the best. 

Aug 09, 2022 05:24 AM