Confidence Comes From Within You

Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

Whenever speaking to a group or presenting, I wore kick-ass shoes. Each outfit had a particular pair. They were high heels, and they made me feel confident.

                         Kick Ass Shoes

But when I shredded the tendon in my ankle (I ran a race that I  should have walked), the reconstructive surgery halted the wearing of anything other than flat, sturdy shoes. 

Did that mean no more speaking? Did that mean despair with the loss of wearing my Kick Ass shoes?

It could have, but I would not allow it.

The feeling came from inside of me! Not from how I looked, not from how I dressed, but from how I felt.

I could still have that powerful 'in charge' confident attitude. I could 'feel' those shoes. How liberating knowing it was me.

Hold your head high, share your knowledge, and help others! You, too, can feel "your kick-ass shoes,"  but only when you understand that your confidence comes from within you!


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Comments (18)

Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
Relocation to NW AZ with elbow room & more freedom

When we know we are delivering value and we are in the "zone," amazing results happen. Enjoyed your express about shoes. 

Aug 08, 2022 07:13 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Good morning, Leanne Smith

Wow, what a fast response. So glad you like the shoe analogy.

I wish there was a way to teach our young people this concept.

Aug 08, 2022 07:17 AM
Leanne Smith

Well I was up early, and wanted to read as many blogs as possible before I started back to work. First item on the agenda is to do comps for a small piece of vacant land.

Aug 08, 2022 07:21 AM
Pat Champion
John Roberts Realty - Eustis, FL
Call the "CHAMPION" for all your real estate needs

Great post to get you motivated. Good for you you kept going no stopping you. Thanks for sharing. Have a great week ahead. 

Aug 08, 2022 07:58 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400


Good to see you, Pat. Make it a great week.

Aug 09, 2022 03:16 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Confidence sure does come from within Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 

Kick Ass shoes or other apparel could certainly Boost the confidence from within. 

Aug 08, 2022 08:22 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Kathleen, We both understand this concept that confidence comes from within. 

Aug 09, 2022 03:17 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Good morning, Margaret.
The mind is a powerful thing and if more people realized that the world would be a whole different place right now.  The mind is more powerful than kick-ass shoes, isn't it?  LOL

Aug 08, 2022 08:38 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Oh so true, Carol. The mind is powerful. Been thinking about you and looking for good news from you.

Aug 09, 2022 03:19 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Margaret good advice.  Look from within you, and not exterior props.

Aug 08, 2022 11:00 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

George, It comes from within, but sometimes we think it is the exterior props.

Aug 09, 2022 03:20 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

My family says they know when I'm feeling confident because I wear my red shoes.  I haven't quite conjured the courage to wear my gold sneakers as often, however.

Aug 08, 2022 11:57 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Myrl,  I think we all have our own 'red' shoes that we rely on for that confidence. Do you also feel confident in the gold sneakers? 🙃

Aug 09, 2022 03:22 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Margaret, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Aug 08, 2022 11:59 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Margaret- I get it!  I had a favorite red suit I wore when calling on companies. It's a bit like a circle that comes around. When I wore the suit and had great success, it became like my lucky charm which gave me a huge boost to my ego. 

Aug 08, 2022 07:27 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Kathy, I think we all understand those special outfits, shoes, lucky charms, or whatever prop gives us that feeling of success. 

Aug 09, 2022 03:26 PM
Gwen Fowler-864-710-4518 SC * Mountain* Lake*Home
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

Mine is a diamond snail pin my grandmother gave me.  When I am wearing that, get out of the way...I am going to get things done.

Aug 09, 2022 04:48 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

I love your comment, Gwen. Your grandmother must have been quite special.

Aug 09, 2022 03:27 PM
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Having confidence in ourselves shows and prospective clients can sense whether a person is confident in their abilities or not.

Aug 09, 2022 05:22 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

So true, Brian. When we have that confidence, others can see it.

Aug 09, 2022 03:27 PM
Aura Alex
CloseMyDeal, LLC - Seattle, WA
Need A TC? Virtual TC Services Nationwide

I left those "high heels" days in corporate life many years ago. The only good thing about them was I could feel "taller." 

But the real accomplishment comes from "relationship selling!"

Thank you for this post, Margaret. 

Aug 09, 2022 08:15 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Aura, Those high heels were from long ago. Thanks for taking time to stop by!

Aug 09, 2022 03:29 PM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

I can relate to this!  I no longer wear high heels but there is something special about a unique, comfortable, pair of shoes that compliments the outfit.  Clothes can help project confidence!

Aug 09, 2022 08:38 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Mary, Great comment. We each have to find what it is that projects that confidence.

Aug 09, 2022 03:30 PM
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

So it was not the Ruby Red Slippers that got Dorothy back to Kansas?




Red Slippers

Aug 09, 2022 08:47 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Diana, Oh, so true about the ruby slippers. She could have always gotten home but just didn't know it.

Aug 09, 2022 03:31 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 - Boy don't I know it! I have had several foot surgeries and had to ditch my own cute and very expensive high heal shoes but it didn't interfere with my confidence. I found out people really didn't care what kind of shoes I wore as much as I did trying to match them with my suits. 

P.S. those were beautiful high heals!!!

Aug 09, 2022 02:14 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP   So true  '' I found out people didn't care what kind of shoes I wore as much as I did..''

And those shoes were not mine! 🙃

Aug 09, 2022 03:34 PM
Lynda Eisenmann
Preferred Home Brokers - Brea, CA
Broker-Owner,CRS,GRI,SRES, Brea,CA, Orange Co

Hello my friend, I think the "LAST" thing that you would need, would be "kick-ass" shoes...yet I can recall as a young REATLOR myself  years  ago (in 1971) I had doubts about myself, especially when I worked with those who were younger. I had personal issues wondering how they could have any confidence in someone so young.  At that point it became all about education, I became like a "sponge" wanting to absorb and learn as much as I could. And even though I became a broker/owner 45 years ago, I continue to learn daily...and still "love my job"..

Aug 09, 2022 06:07 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Lynda Eisenmann, It's a treat seeing you. And so, like you, it is all about learning every day and loving being a Broker/Realtor®

Aug 09, 2022 08:12 PM