Pain, Pain, Go Away (and don't come back another day)

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Ward County Notary Services

Early last Spring I had great hope that a cortisone shot into my spine would solve all my problems... it did not. The first couple of days were like a miracle living with NO pain but after that it rapidly came back but oddly enough this time it is/was effecting the right hand side of my body whereas it was my left before.

WARNING! Important lesson below.

Next week they will burn the nerves that are sending the pain message to my brain. I have mixed feelings... I will still be in pain, I just won't know it. Is that right???

Applying this to Real Estate.

We are all familiar with the expressions "work through the pain" and "no pain no gain" but do they apply to lessons learned as we work through the career of Real Estate or for any career for that matter?

My experience says YES, at least to "work through the pain". I don't want to make this post to lengthy so I will briefly focus on just this expression.

We have all heard of the crazy high failure rate of Real Estate agents, these are men and women who could NOT work through the pain. They did not anticipate the pain of start up costs, the pain of many agents not making their first sale in 6 months, the pain of prospecting and the pain of careful planning. Another big one is lack of support from your spouse/partner. Any one of the above can do a person in but often it's a combination of woes.

When changing careers make sure you know what you are getting into. Speak to both those who have been successful and to those who have failed (if they are willing to share their information with you). If you are considering a commission career be sure you have a strong support system both emotionally and financially.

Work through the pain is good advice to those who have the fortitude to do so. Unlike back pain you can not have a physician burn your nerves so you don't feel the pain... you ARE going to feel the pain but if you have the constitution to work through it the rewards will be well worth it.

Go get'm tiger!

 

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Comments (24)

Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I sure hope it will solve it as well Wayne Martin . It has taken a lot out of me and has caused me to shorten my work day as well as my daily walks.

Aug 10, 2022 07:05 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Thank you Dorie Dillard Austin TX . I agree that the financial aspect of starting a new career/business would be number one. I would guess that lack of spousal support would be next and that may tie into the number one reason you mentioned.

Aug 10, 2022 07:08 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Thank you Ray Henson .  I identify with your examples including when I have explained to family members that if they say I referred them when they buy a home I would get a referral fee. I explained it over and over plus the fact that it does NOT cost them more to put a little money in my pocket. Not ONE single family member followed through.

Aug 10, 2022 07:11 AM
Ray Henson

Ouch! ! !

Aug 11, 2022 05:45 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Well said Grant Schneider , I wish I would have thought of it in those terms and added it to my post. Thank you for doing so 😉.

Aug 10, 2022 07:13 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Bob,
I actually have a lot of opinions about this subject on many levels, but that's probably best saved for a blog post. 

Let me just say, I'll be praying for rapid results and complete healing for you!

Aug 10, 2022 07:20 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Thank you Carol Williams , I am so ready to be done with this pain. It has given me a greater appreciation for those I see struggling with walkers and canes. I hope NOT to become one of them.

Aug 10, 2022 07:37 AM
Jim Smith
The Property Management Company - Round Rock, TX
Broker,CRS,GRI,RMP,CNE,TRLP

Pain is nothing other than a signal that something is out-of-whack.  It does no good masking the pain, as it does not address the cause.  Most failure occurs due to a lack of a proper business plan, the commitment to stay with that plan, and the flexibility to shift when it is necessary to do so.  All successful people, whether they are athletes, business folks, and yes, even those who know how to live a life of leisure, have coaches to guide them through the process.  Educate, instigate, motivate, and advocate.

Aug 10, 2022 07:38 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Bob,
I have a walker that I have to use when I have my flare-ups, so don't hesitate if you need to.

Aug 10, 2022 07:40 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Bob - I am sorry to know about your pain and hope you find the cure that works for you.  As for familiar sayings, I think we can each find words that resonate with us for any given situation.  Even though the saying (or quote or whatever) may be the same the message received can vary by individual.  

Aug 10, 2022 07:55 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Jim Smith I destroyed my back in my youth putting hundreds (if not thousands) of miles on washboard country roads with my mini-bike (which had not shock absorbers).

I know what you are saying about sticking with a plan BUT it needs to be a proven plan or you are...

Aug 10, 2022 08:13 AM
Jim Smith

That is the 'shift' part

Aug 11, 2022 06:40 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

Good point Jim Smith as I shift big time when I went from selling houses for the public to selling for developers, builders, and contractors. That was the best shift ever!

Aug 15, 2022 05:30 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Carol Williams I did try a cane at the first flare up but I found it harder to use than just leaning against the walls. I am going to try it again next time I take the dog for a walk.

Aug 10, 2022 08:15 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

I will consider that Carol Williams when I see one at the thrift store. They usually have one or two at all times so I will be able to pick out a good one.

Aug 10, 2022 08:30 AM
Carol Williams

Bob,
The walker is better. It takes more pressure off your whole back. I put pride aside when it comes to back pain.  🤪

Aug 10, 2022 08:17 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I love your point of view Michael Jacobs . BTW I even have a T-shirt with "Pain is weakness leaving the body" that Tina won at a Marines recruiting both at the fair years ago. I love to tell the story because little 100 pound Tina competed with 3 very fit young men (trying to impress their girls) as to who could do the most chin-ups. Tina kicked their ass's and won the shirt for me.

Aug 10, 2022 08:23 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Good Luck Bob and hope it works for you,  I had a have my L5 done last September and was walking with a cane from May till October and with 2 screws in my L5 I can walk 10,000 step a day with no pain.  Can not play gold for 2 full years but that okay.  Good Luck keep us updated!

Aug 10, 2022 11:09 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Bob- judging by the comments, you are not alone in suffering back pain. I hope that this procedure provides you with some relief from your pain. Keep us posted. 

Aug 10, 2022 05:58 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Thank you Will Hamm and Kathy Streib for the well wishes. There is not a day or a part of the day that I am not in pain but I still thank God every day that I am still walking and above ground. Hopefully the burning of the nerves will end this forever.

Aug 10, 2022 07:06 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Fantastic analogy, Bob. On a personal note, I'm so sorry to hear you need to go through this procedure... sounds rather intimidating. Hopefully, it can be done with sufficient pain killers up front.

Aug 11, 2022 04:55 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Amen Nina Hollander, Broker my Love. I am currently on two pain killers that were over the counter before the big opioid thing. They are just about as good as aspirin.

Aug 11, 2022 06:44 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Bob "RealMan" Timm hi Bob... I am so sorry to hear that. Can't believe the doctor can't prescribe something that works a bit better.

Aug 11, 2022 10:12 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I think that until some medical equipment is invented that the Dr's can hook up to us and then to them whereas they actually feel our pain they will never understand what we are going through Nina Hollander, Broker . Believe me I sure wish they could feel mine... I think they would put me on a morphine drip in a second. Especially when they consider some of us deal with this day in and day out.

Aug 11, 2022 11:38 AM
Dorte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Bob,

Pain is your body's warning system. To fix it, you may have to try a few things. Apparently, walking regularly, other low impact exercises, yoga, massage, etc are all things that help bring relief, but you have to be pretty good about keeping it up. I used to have pinched nerves in my back from working at the computer so much, but counteracting the little muscles with exercising the big muscles helped a lot. Cannot slouch on this though. My body tells me when I have been letting it slide too much.

Aug 15, 2022 09:24 PM