Motivational Monday…What Did You Fail At?

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Motivational Monday…What Did You Fail At?


“If you’re not failing, you’re not trying, if you aren’t trying, you aren’t really living.”

Over the years, one of the shows we’ve watched (when not watching sports) is Blue Bloods. One of the reasons I relate to it is the weekly family dinner…4 generations of Reagans. 


At one dinner, everyone was asked what their fail was for the week.  Then, they had to talk about what they learned from it. 

Uncle Jamie said the above quote when trying to explain to his young nephew why this exercise was so helpful.


For many of us who make a point of having a positive attitude, analyzing what we failed at may seem counterintuitive. 


However, if we allow ourselves to use these oops moments as learning opportunities, we are one step closer to where we want to be…whether it’s growing our business or growing our self-awareness.

Sweeping a “miss” under the rug only creates a big lump that will keep growing. 


This is life offering us a path on the road to success. 




This week when you’re with your team or group…or when you’re at the family dinner table, think about looking at what you failed at. 


Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Thomas A. Edison

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. Dale Carnegie


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Comments (30)

Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
Relocation to NW AZ with elbow room & more freedom

I read a book though I can't remember its name about a CEO who reflected at the end of each day:  Where did I let someone down? What did I do well? What can I do better tomorrow? When we invest the time to reflect on our failures, we can then fail forward tomorrow.

Aug 15, 2022 05:58 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Kathy,
I love those BlueBlood Family dinner conversations.  Lots of wisdom in the back and forth conversations coming from different angles. 

I've definitely had lots of "lessons" in life. It's been part of my training to get my PhD's from the University of Adversity and the School of Hard Knocks.  😊

Aug 15, 2022 06:19 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Kathy,

Failing is inevitable and should be taken as an opportunity to learn and grow from that failure. Taking the time to analyze what went wrong and how it can be avoided next time is when we learn something.

Aug 15, 2022 06:22 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Kathy - developing new leaders is giving them very challenging assignments and expecting some failures.  Be thankful for failures.

Aug 15, 2022 06:55 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathy, cannot think of where I failed this week, but we definitely learn from these moments.

Aug 15, 2022 09:26 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

What a great way to converse with the family...a great lesson for the kids. 

I really do try to learn from my mistakes and failures...honestly it is more about not ever living through it again for me. I tend to avoid confrontation and disappointment like the plague. LOL

Aug 15, 2022 10:18 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy a mistake or failure is only a mistake or failure is we did not learn anything from it.

Aug 15, 2022 11:50 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA

We love Blue Bloods and have probably seen every episode.  The dinner scenes are the best!

Aug 15, 2022 12:13 PM
Salas Home Team
Realty Preferred DFW - Plano, TX
#1 Team in Real Estate Specialty Services

Love the book by John Maxwell, Failing Forward. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 

Aug 15, 2022 12:50 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

When I was a kid, I wished to be a musician or an artist.  However, no manner of practice and lessons found the brush in my hand creating a masterpiece.  My fingers on the keys of the piano played no concert.  Sometimes when I watch YouTube videos of young children as young as 6 playing masterful concertos, I understand that talent and gift can be important factors in reaching beyond a state of mediocre!

Aug 15, 2022 05:13 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Dick Betts Thank you!!!  We all have failures so why not learn from them!

Wayne Martin excellent analogy!!!  Thank you!

Nina Hollander, Broker I actually would expect nothing less from you!!!!  formidable!!!

Aug 15, 2022 05:18 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Sham Reddy CRS thank you and I love that quote too!!! Hope to see you tomorrow. 

Thank you Kat Palmiotti Look at all we learn when we do fail!!!  Then we succeed, we truly appreciate it. 

Michael Jacobs love the word "oopsortunity" and what a positive way to view what others might view as a negative. 

Aug 15, 2022 05:23 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Roy Kelley that I cannot imagine!!! Hello to Chef Dolores. 

I agree Brian England if we keep ourselves open to it and put aside our egos, think what we can learn. 

Aug 15, 2022 05:26 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Bill Salvatore - East Valley I'm glad you like it and happy to see you enjoy Blue Bloods. 

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 what I like is that people can see how nice this is and maybe they'll begin a tradition of family dinners. We've lost so much of that. They always make me hungry, though. 

Aug 15, 2022 05:28 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Leanne Smith sounds like a wise CEO.  I think many in that position spend time evaluating their staff but forget to look at their own actions. 

Carol Williams the dinners on Blue Bloods have always been my favorite, and it doesn't matter what they're having. How could they not learn anything?!

Aug 15, 2022 05:31 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Dorie Dillard Austin TX I agree. We don't have to dwell on them but we can use these as the opportunity to learn, adjust, and go forward. 

Grant Schneider can you imagine going through your life never having failed at anything?!!

Aug 15, 2022 05:33 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Joan Cox I've learned not to dwell on my failures or mistakes but try very hard to learn. 

Sharon Tara And it works for you!!!  For whatever reason, right!!! I love how the kids are included in conversations. 

Aug 15, 2022 05:38 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

George Souto exactly!  It's never good to waste a failure!!!

Ray Henson I wondered if anyone else watched it. I have to play catch up with it though. 

Salas Home Team Thank you for stopping by and "failing forward"  is a good concept isn't it?

Myrl Jeffcoat I took piano lessons and had recitals for well over 10 years. I may have lacked talent but what I truly laced was desire. I looked at the video and I started when I was 5 and trust me...I was no where near as talented! LOL



Aug 15, 2022 05:43 PM
Salas Home Team

Absolutely, forward is the way to go! ;)

Aug 16, 2022 01:40 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathy,

Thanks for bringing this to our attention.  We can't lose sight of failure.

The biggest takeaway is the learning experience.  But if you don't acknowledge the failure, you will never learn from it.  So many will not acknowledge their failures.  There is no shame in failure.

Aug 16, 2022 05:10 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

There is so much wisdom on that show and it is one of my favorites also Kathy 🙂

Aug 17, 2022 10:21 PM