A day in the life of a Beverly Hills Realtor, one who has been...

Real Estate Agent with Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties 01238708

A day in the life of a Beverly Hills Realtor, one who has been licensed for over 26 years (not including my time as a Boston, MA Realtor).  Given all these years of practice, you can probably imagine that I have a slew of stories from which to choose to share on the platform! A couple that crossed my mind were the time I went with a client to look at condos in the San Fernando Valley and one of them had a camera and tripod focusing on the sleeping area;  or there was the listing appointment where the owner had at least 15 stray cats and another 10 cats that were meandering between inside/outside the home.  (As a cat dad and pet friendly realtor myself, I had a tough time not taking the listing.) 


The story that ultimately won out is the time that I fired a group of 3 brothers with whom I had a 10-year working relationship.  As a bit of background, we were in the beginning stages of the technological revolution when the working relationship started; DocuSign, WhatsApp and other technology did not even exist.  By the time the relationship ended, we had all of the technology on which we rely so heavily. 


While I think I can tolerate a good deal of indiscretion, and while I understand that real estate can involve large sums of money for a buyer or a seller and can become a very emotional process for various reasons, I had just reached my limit of what I would or could tolerate. One brother (the most balanced of the 3) was living in Lebanon.  He and I would do most of the communicating as he kept up with the advances in technology and had more of a Western approach when it came to listing, negotiating and selling properties.  The second brother was living in California in the Inland Empire area; over the years he got married and divorced, relocated to another state, returned to California and ultimately moved to France. He was a bit different when it came to interacting with women in the business profession, for example I had a call from an Escrow Officer who asked me to talk to him and tell him to leave the building.  You get the idea.  The third  and oldest brother professed to be a very devout Catholic. He was always the hardest to be found since they had many vacant lots all over California; this brother was not always focused nor was he highly accessible by cellphone. 


Whenever it came time to list one of their properties, I always had to be prepared for a huge argument because their listing price well exceeded any realistic listing price; ultimately we would reach a compromise, and I would begin the marketing.  Yet, this was not near as complicated as when  I would present them with an offer on their property.  They immediately would perceive the offer as an “insult” and as their listing agent, I was the “enemy”.  I would first have to convince who I described as the most balanced brother. Once that was done, he would argue with his other 2 brothers and then I would have to step in to individually convince the other 2. Then we would start all over again. Quiet the nerve racking style of negotiations.  Once all 3 brothers were on board, it was time to obtain the signatures.  Next my job was to pass the Sellers’ counteroffer onto the Buyer’s Agent. If there were more than two counter offers the process was always the same. Often, they wanted to go backwards to their first counteroffer. They  were truly testing my patience not to mention my stress level.  Once we had a final agreement, then of course we needed to again collect the signatures and initials.  As a bonus, often there was a  Grant Deed that needed to be notarized in an American Embassy. 



The final straw for me came when the oldest brother decided to live on one of the lots that I was marketing. This particular lot had a man-made cave on the property and he was  literally living in it like a cave man in it. I begged him to please vacate the land  so that when I showed the land I do not have to disclose him as one of the sellers.  He said he would and then did not comply. One time he scared the daylights out of one of the potential buyers and that for me was the last straw.  I ultimately chose my sanity😊 




This post was submitted for an Active Rain Challenge in September 2022. Thank you for reading.


Wishing you a safe and healthy life and I look forward to your comments. If you are looking for a knowledgeable, focused and goal-oriented Realtor in the Beverly Hills area who will help you achieve your Real Estate goals, please reach out to me directly! If you are looking for a pet friendly Beverly Hills Realtor who can handle and sell the most difficult properties that no one else could, please reach out to me directly!! If you are considering buying or selling a home, a luxury home, luxury investment real estate, luxury vacation homes, or luxury beach properties in Southern California, Los Angeles, Century City, Westwood, West Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Marina Del Rey, Venice or Malibu, feel free to contact me at 310.486.1002 ( m) homes@endrebarath.com or visit one of my websites at https://www.endrebarath.com I contribute a portion of my commission to local animal rescue organizations. Endre Barath, Jr. Realtor at Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties DRE#01238708

Comments (18)

Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Endre - what I am gathering from your post was that the business relationship worked until it didn't.  Sometimes it's best to "move on".  For sanity's sake and for so many more reasons.    

Sep 30, 2022 03:12 AM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727

Like that - "worked until it didn't"

Take care - Lynn

Michael Jacobs 

Sep 30, 2022 11:34 PM
Michael Jacobs

Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727 - real estate is definitely like everyday life.  I see this as another example.  

Oct 01, 2022 06:37 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Hi Endre... choosing sanity was very much a sane decision if you ask me!  I had a bit of a cuckoo-bird client once in NYC... brought him seven offers (all over asking price) and he found a reason to turn them all down. One day, I mailed him his key and a letter of termination for the listing wishing him luck. Years later, his coop still had not been sold.

Sep 30, 2022 04:18 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Endre,

Wow, you lasted way longer than I would have with these three yahoos! Good for you for choosing sanity! Smart move!

Sep 30, 2022 04:35 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Wow, what a story! I'm glad to hear you decided to stay sane. I wouldn't have lasted as long as you did.

Sep 30, 2022 04:53 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Endre. Have been through a lot in my career but never had to deal with a cavemen. Glad you chose sanity. Enjoy your day.

Sep 30, 2022 04:55 AM
Sandra Mathewson
RE/MAX 4000 - Grand Junction, CO

Endre, thanks for sharing your experience.  It makes ones we have had less traumatic 😅

Sep 30, 2022 05:36 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Sanity is definitely better than money, haha.  It sounds like you definitely served too much time putting up with them.

Sep 30, 2022 05:38 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Wow what a story to share with us Endre here in the rain.  We all wonder what we go through sometime in this business,


Sep 30, 2022 09:30 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Endre - you are a very patient and understand man indeed.  I would not be able to hold my composure.

Sep 30, 2022 09:47 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Oh for pete's sake Endre, I can't believe you made it so long with the 3 stooges. In one of my first years in the business (in another lifetime) I had the estate sale from hell which involved 5 adults (if I could call them that). I so get the craziness of getting them to work together and not - against -the well being of the whole darn project.

Sep 30, 2022 10:49 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Endre, 26 years in the business is a lot of years, but I didn't think you could get a Real Estate license at the age of 13.  ☺️

Sep 30, 2022 02:28 PM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727

Oh, George! You are the bee's knees! Lynn

George Souto 

Sep 30, 2022 11:32 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Endre- after reading your post, I remembered that it is too easy to get swept up in the circus of others. I'm glad you got off the Merry-go-round. 

Sep 30, 2022 06:33 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Oh, I have to agree with Dorie Dillard Austin TX, Endre - they would have been fired very early on! In my book, you're a SAINT!!!

Sep 30, 2022 08:52 PM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers

Hello dear AR friend,

Great post - takes a lot to make you leave, doesn't it?
All the best - Lynn

Sep 30, 2022 11:31 PM
Eileen Burns 954.483.3912
Trans State Commercial Realty Inc. - Fort Lauderdale, FL
FLorida Real Estate Connector

It feels liberating when you fire a problematic client.  Thanks for sharing your dreadful experience with us Endre Barath, Jr. 😎.

Oct 01, 2022 10:01 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Endre,

Good for you!  Sanity is so important.   Some clients are just not worth the aggravation. 

You did remind me of two other transactions.  One was eerily close to yours.  3 siblings and I had to deal with the more balanced of the three.  Very unrealistic listing price and it was very hard to get a hold of the balanced brother.  I finally got a great offer on a golf course lot, and they wouldn't accept it and wanted me to up the listing price.  WHAT???

I let the listing expire and didn't bother to renew it after two years of this BS.  It was never going to sell at its unrealistic price.

The other one was a seller who lived 50 miles off the grid.  Negotiations were really slow when we got the offer from a buyer.  But it did get done! ...eventually! HAHA!


Oct 01, 2022 02:53 PM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA

I think those three brothers would damage anyone's sanity.  I do not know if I could handle brothers like that. 

Oct 02, 2022 05:53 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Endre:

I think you had more patience with these 3 than I probably would have. Some situations, and clients, are better off left behind.



Oct 06, 2022 01:56 PM