My Oregon Realtors Speech on Gratitude

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Bend Premier Real Estate 200009031

I gave this short speech at the October 6, 2022 Oregon Realtors Fall Convention Board of Directors Meeting, which was held in Seaside, Oregon on the beautiful Oregon coast.  I was asked to provide the Moment of Inspiration at the start of the meeting. I selected "gratitude" as my topic.  Here is the speech:


Over the years I have worked with hundreds of Realtors as a managing Principal Broker. Each person is unique, but the one persistent character trait that I have seen that most contributes to their overall happiness and business success is an attitude of gratitude - and there are reasons for this.

Medical and psychological studies have shown that consistently grateful people have an increased production of dopamine and serotonin which act like an anti-depressive and activate the feel good section of the brain. Grateful people can have:

  • Increased happiness, a reduction in depression and strengthened resiliency
  • They can experience reduced blood pressure, less chronic pain, increased energy and even live longer lives.
  • They may have higher self-esteem, are more likely to help others and even sleep better

With all these positive results, shouldn't we all want to be more grateful? So how can be bring more gratitude into our lives?

  1. We need to recognize that you can't hold anger and gratitude in the same brain at the same time.
  2. We choose the attitude we have. As Latasha Beal said so well at the spring Board of Directors' meeting, "she chooses joy."
  3. We need to make gratitude a core mindset and express gratitude to others.
  4. Share the love...tell people what you appreciate about may make their day.
  5. Be more kind - gratitude is the language of the heart.
  6. Find daily things to be grateful for - perhaps document these in a journal or on a slip of paper you put in a jar. At the end of a year, review these and be amazed at all the grateful things you experienced.

On a personal note, my father-in-law died two weeks ago. Immediately my brother-in-law dropped everything and flew out the same day from the east coast to help my husband and me be there for my mother-in-law in Bend and to take care of all the things you have to do when someone dies. During his time here, he received word that his best friend from childhood died of pancreatic cancer and last Thursday, he found out that his home in Fort Myers was destroyed when Hurricane Ian struck Florida. Despite all these blows, my brother-in-law is grateful his immediate family in Florida are all safe and that he can provide assistance to comfort his mother at this time of her life. And my husband and I are so grateful that he will remain in Bend for an indeterminate time while we get my mother-in-law settled.

Gratitude is a mindset. We can find things to be grateful for in the most difficult situations as well as in our normal daily lives. So will you have an attitude of gratitude? My challenge for each of you is to not let anyone "outgrateful" you today.

Comments (16)

Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Oh my gosh, Lynnea,  I got teary eyed when I read your post. I am so sorry for the loss of your father-in-law and your poor brother-in-law who lost his home in the hurricane. Thank goodness for your family because that is your strength. I love your post!!!

Nov 14, 2022 05:44 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Lynnea - you summed up feelings of gratitude so well in the speech.  Thank you for sharing it here.   Like your real estate association audience who originally heard it, the AR audience who reads it can also let it sink in as it has the power to make a difference.   

Nov 15, 2022 04:01 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Oh my goodness, Lynnea... to have so many terrible things happen one after another is more than most people can bear.  I'm sure being surrounded by loving family helped your brother-in-law, you, and all your family. My condolences on the loss of your father-in-law.

You captured it all in this statement: "we need to recognize that you can't hold anger and gratitude in the same brain at the same time." 

Nov 15, 2022 04:57 AM
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

That is a great speech!  We always have so much to be grateful for having a family that will drop everything when another family member is in need is definitely amazing!

Nov 15, 2022 06:07 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Hi Lynnea, 

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father-in-law. I'm so glad you and your husband and his brother are there for your mother-in-law. How sad that your BIL is going through so many things right now too - I can't IMAGINE. You're right though - he can't be angry if he's grateful.

I love that you did a presentation on gratitude - that sound like something you would do! Oregon Realtors are lucky to have you too!

Thank you for sharing this, Lynnea. Looking forward to your next one!

Nov 15, 2022 01:04 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

You gave a great speech, and this is a perfect entry for November's challenge. You can't stay angry and be grateful. Wishing you and your family comfort together.

Nov 15, 2022 03:34 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Lynnea, for sharing your experience and advice.

Have an outstanding week.

Nov 16, 2022 04:39 AM
Jerry Newman
Brown Realty, 210-789-4216, - San Antonio, TX
Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation

Hi Lynnea Miller. My condolences for your loss of your father-in-law, and the tragedy your brother-in-law suffered. Having immediate family members support during those times is priceless. I loved reading your speech, and gratitude is certainly the language of the heart.  

Nov 16, 2022 08:19 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Lynnea and sorry for your loss of your father in loss.  It has been one of those years for losses, but I know some of my family are not hurting now.


Nov 16, 2022 12:36 PM
Greg Mona
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Professional Real Estate Representation for YOU!

Just beautiful, Lynnea Miller. Thank you for sharing such a powerful post. I'll pray for your continued strength and perseverance.

Nov 16, 2022 01:48 PM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
Relocation to NW AZ with elbow room & more freedom

As others have written, saddened to hear of the passing of your father-in-law and the personal losses of your brother-in-law.  Gratitude is truly appreciating family and understanding things can be replaced, but not people.

Nov 22, 2022 05:19 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I am so sorry to hear about your father-in-law and your brother-in-laws' losses. Having an attitude of gratitude, and a strong and supportive family, will help everyone get through this time. That is a wonderful thing to be thankful for.

Nov 26, 2022 05:14 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Lynnea. Your brother-in-law is well grounded and an envy of many who do not possess his strength. As a former long time resident of Ft. Myers I can say many of my friends do not possess his strength. Kudos to him. 

Nov 26, 2022 05:18 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

This was a wonderful speech - thank you for sharing - and you are right - gratitude is a mind set. 

Nov 26, 2022 05:51 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Lynnea - I am sorry for your losses.  What is is say, however, is very employee.  Be grateful for what you have rather than sad for what you lost.

Nov 26, 2022 06:43 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Lynnea,

First my condolences on the loss of your father-in-law. Second I'm so happy for you your family comes together to rally the troops to get done what needs to be done. Gratitude is a mindset and your statement "we need to recognize that you can't hold anger and gratitude in the same brain at the same time" really resonated with me.

Nov 26, 2022 04:26 PM