You Say Communicating - I Say Trash Talk

Real Estate Agent with HomeSmart Real Estate AZ Broker BR030809000

Go back....way back to 2006.  What the heck was blogging or a blog?  I had no idea. Albeit I have loved writing all my life, I was mystified as to why people where going bonkers over the idea of "Having A BLOG". Well, at that point a fellow broker suggested I join the ActiveRain Community. So I did.  And did pretty much ZERO for the first year or so. Yes, I too was one of those silent lurkers!  Then I hired an expert online marketer for our office to teach us the ins and outs of WHY we should all have a blog etc etc. She kicked me into high gear and since then I've never looked back. I was hooked!

Fast forward to 2010 , a fellow broker from another state, gave me a phone call to tell me what she heard about me from an agent online! What?  You must be kidding?  He said what?  That doesn't sound like me!  Needless to say the guy was not liking that I was well ranked and he wasn't.  So he thought a little 'trash talk' about me would help him out?  I know, makes no sense to me either!  And honestly I could care less about what some guy was saying about me.  It spoke about who he was, not me.


BLOGGING TIP 1 - WHAT NOT TO DO ONLINE IN A BLOG  - Don't TRASH TALK fellow brokers or agents.  Don't do it in person and don't do it online!  

BLOGGING TIP 2 - WHAT NOT TO DO ONLINE IN A BLOG - DON'T TRASH TALK fellow brokers or agents.  Don't do it in person and don't do it online!  


As you can see there are 2 bags of trash the gal is carrying out. That's how important these tips are and can't be said enough. Don't CONTINUE talking trash about fellow agents - or anyone for that matter! Stop It! And if you see or hear it being done, be a friend and alert the other agent what's going on.

From that day on I made a point to talk about these important tips in every CE class I taught.  And I'd usually end it never know who will be reading your stuff.   I mean, who knew a broker from Texas would pick up the phone and call me to tell me what an agent in AZ was saying about me! 

And this my friends is a story of  what a good friend on ActiveRain looks like - looks out for fellow members!   Bonus Tip #3 Be a good friend!


Don't TRASH TALK - as in EVER!


Thanks Jeff Dowler, CRS and Brian England for hosting this challenge!

December 2022 challenge - a guide for blogging success





Posted by


Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Anna- well done. Your trash talking may put the other agent in a negative light but it also shines the spotlight on the trash talker!  Take the high road!

Dec 07, 2022 05:49 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Hi Kathy Streib my goal wasn't to put that agent in the spotlight as I simply let it go. My real goal was to teach agents that 'trash talking' is not only not ok but isn't allowed by the Code of Ethics.  Sadly that was 2010 and I'd like to say things have gotten better....but we both know better.

Dec 07, 2022 07:22 PM
Capital Valuations - Virginia Beach, VA
Real Estate Appraiser Virginia Beach

Never make negative comments or spread rumors about anyone. It depreciates their reputation and yours. As an appraiser, I speak to all kinds of real estate agents that talk trash about other agents. Its unprofessional to say the least!

Dec 07, 2022 10:01 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Hi JOSEPH ELLINGTON it's interesting that you hear trash talk from other agents.  Apparently someone is not teaching them the Code of Ethics or they just don't care about it.  Totally unprofessional.

Dec 08, 2022 09:23 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Anna loved your post and oh boy you had half of my draft post eliminated; I was going to address the same points. I find it ironic how the laptop or the smart phone gave so much power to people.... I said today at our lunch meeting the same thing people would not say stuff in your face if they met you face to face, but they feel safe behind their laptops or on the phone.... hence, I am seldom on the trash talking platforms... and am grateful that Active Rain is so much milder than the other platforms when it comes to talk trash... Endre

Dec 07, 2022 11:09 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Good Morning Endre Barath, Jr. !  Well sorry about half your draft going up in smoke.  But why?  It would be interesting to hear your take in your words.  I think you're right about hiding out behind phones or laptops. Yesterday I was comparing my early days in RE while living in Flagstaff to now. Agents were very professional and we all worked together well for the most part (with the exception of a few cracked eggs). This was all before iPhone and laptops. Society has vastly changed since people could hide behind their screens.  I stay off most sites and if I'm on I stay far away from the negative stuff and people.

I too am grateful for ActiveRain and the level of professionalism within the community.

Dec 08, 2022 09:30 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

People that trash talk and throw their crap downwind fail to recognize that often that wind flips and all that trash comes back to land on them in a big way

Dec 08, 2022 04:56 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Yup Karma is Karma, right Ed Silva (whoops I mean Santa)!!  And somehow it does land right back on them.....I've got a great story about that one!

Dec 08, 2022 09:31 AM
Cynthia Trapp
Cressy & Everett Real Estate - Dowagiac, MI
Associate Broker, SRS, RSPS, ABR, GRI

Great advice for real estate and for life - so true and so timeless. Thank you for this well-written reminder! 

Dec 08, 2022 05:35 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Thank you Cynthia Trapp.  And I so agree it applies in our personal lives equally the same.

Dec 08, 2022 09:32 AM
Nolan Woodfin
Greenville, FL
Sales manager

Excellent advice, it applies to all areas of life.

Dec 08, 2022 08:34 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

It certainly does apply to all areas of life Nolan Woodfin !  Welcome to ActiveRain!  Jump in and have'll appreciate the professionalism of this community.

Dec 08, 2022 09:33 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

When I entered the fray back in 2008; ActiveRain was not a place to go after dark. The mean people came out and words like hijacking blog posts and you name it took place.

Dec 08, 2022 06:47 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS

Karen Stone was my only friend 🙂.

Dec 08, 2022 06:49 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

I remember some of that stuff Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS . At first I thought.....huh? And then I went about my way and managed my office and brokerage and forgot about it.  I don't recall Karen Stone.

Dec 08, 2022 07:33 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker - I couldn't agree more with what you said.  I work to keep my demeanor and comments positive. A negative or abrasive approach can get us in trouble.  You do have to know your audience.  If you comment in the Internet world, there is no way to know who your audience is. 

Dec 09, 2022 09:35 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Good Morning Sheri Sperry - MCNE® and Merry Christmas to you and Rick!! Keeping things professional keeps our reputations intact!

Dec 09, 2022 09:48 AM
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

Valuable advice.  We should never trash talk anyone -- no matter what they have said or done -- two wrongs never make a RIGHT!  Thank you as always for writing such a life-giving post and give all of something to think about in our daily lives.  See you next week Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker 👌

Dec 09, 2022 03:28 PM
Diana Dahlberg

Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker I'm ready!

Dec 10, 2022 08:41 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Thanks Diana Dahlberg!  It is indeed advice I've heeded since a very young age thanks to my parents and many teachers and mentors growing up. I look forward to seeing you soon!  Get ready for some holiday surprises - Arizona Style!!

Dec 09, 2022 08:05 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Hi Anna Banana just came to do some trash talk:) seriously I thought there would be 50 comments to this great post and I would have expected a Featured Star too:)Endre

Dec 09, 2022 10:31 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Hi Endre Barath, Jr. Happy Saturday!  A bit chilly here today, high 30's early this morning.....chilly!  I appreciate your compliment.....and guess what I just looked and it was featured.  All is good!

Dec 10, 2022 07:47 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Oh Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker  you crack me up we were freezing it was 48 in the morning and Aeon 45 during the night and we thought that was brutal

Dec 10, 2022 09:25 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

OMG Endre Barath, Jr.  my freeze button must have frozen up on the like button on your comment when on and off 3 or 4 times!  Better turn on the heater!!  LOL  Oh you poor babies.....48 is so brutal for LA!!  Try MN at -40 below......that's brutal.  And that's during the day with wind chill!  I remember my last year in college it was -30 for like a week or January.  We had to plug in our cars every night or they'd never start in the morning.

Dec 11, 2022 09:31 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

p.s.: so glad the Feature button worked for this most glad to know some of the hidden people read my comment, Endre

Dec 10, 2022 09:26 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Endre Barath, Jr. when I looked this post was right on top of your featured post so it must have happened early this week?  So...shifting subjects - what's happening today in your world?  Elving?  I going to make a beef chili as Gary has been wanting one.  Yum!

Dec 11, 2022 09:34 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Anna, for sharing your experience and your advice. 

I have been the target of trash talk a couple of times on this platform. It is a discouraging experience.

Dec 11, 2022 11:18 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Hi Roy Kelley why anyone would trash talk you is beyond me!  Doing so speaks of the others, but you know that!  Have a great day!

Dec 11, 2022 11:49 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

I am so glad you virtually took out the trash, Anna! That type of communication looks extremely bad on the author, is very telling to everyone who reads it and can put someone on notice in front of a board.

Dec 15, 2022 12:47 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Haha yes I'm good at taking out trash Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! !!!  Yes it could get them in front of a board but unless it's one of our agents or a very serious matter I don't have the energy to deal with this low brow stuff.  On to more positive know the game!

Dec 15, 2022 02:11 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!



Dec 15, 2022 02:19 PM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA

It is always a better choice to stay positive.  It just makes it all much more enjoyable.

Dec 20, 2022 08:02 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

Oh by the way I promise not to trash talk anymore Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker 

Dec 21, 2022 10:19 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten


You're on Santa's Nice list Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS !!

Dec 22, 2022 09:41 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Anna -that is so terrible.  But what goes around comes around.  it doen't pay off.

Dec 26, 2022 09:27 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Grant Schneider to people like you and me it makes zero sense to waste time and energy trash talking others - as in over.    Karma!


Hope you had a fabulous Holiday so far!

Dec 26, 2022 10:42 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Great tips and challenge entry - and I love #3! Thanks for being a great friend, Anna Banana!

Dec 30, 2022 10:43 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Thank you Debe Maxwell, CRS! #3 is my goal, always.  You are an awesome friend.  Happy New Year!

Dec 31, 2022 10:07 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker  now I am working on New Years so the last two nights have been sushi and sashimi:)) and tomorrow the grand finale:)

Dec 30, 2022 10:51 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Hmmmm what will be the grand fianle Endre Barath, Jr.??!!  Whatever you make I'm sure it will be delicious!  I'm making stuffed chicken breasts with broccoli and cheese and a rice side dish.  Yum!

Dec 31, 2022 10:09 AM
Kieran Jackson
Keller Williams Hollywood Hills - Los Angeles, CA
Realtor®, SFR, U.S. Army Veteran

Great advice! Agents definitely should not trash talk other agents. People should adopt this thinking in general!


All the best

May 03, 2023 04:39 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Totally adopt this idea in general Kieran Jackson !  Life would be so much better for everyone!!

May 03, 2023 08:28 PM